I've lost interest in myself
How does one find motivation? Slowly over the past few months I've lost the drive to learn, to try to achieve. I'm not suicidal, all I have the desire to do is lounge, read reddit, and watch netflix. I feel as if this is wrong, that I want to move forward not backwards. I want to WANT to study and improve. Any advice HN?
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[ 2.6 ms ] story [ 39.4 ms ] threadThink of your time as money, as personal self-development. Also, lower your goals when you start out. If you fail to achieve a certain goal at a certain time that you expected to, you'll be frustrated, and it is this kind of frustration that is a demotivator. By avoiding frustrations, you're optimizing your ability to remain motivated.
As an idea of lowering your goals, try this: Instead of trying to achieve, simply try to be productive. You can still have Netflix on in the background while you work. Once you've reached a consistent productivity level, then try to learn more, but don't just read - work while you learn. Then begin trying to achieve.
Step two: be in places where you feel you are wasting your time. Get stuck in traffic for hours. Go to some family event where everything is trivial and people talk for hours about how obamacare is destroying america. Get your brain to start wishing, "I don't want to be here wasting my life on trivial bullcrap -- I want to be doing something important with my time."
Step three: when you get back into your brain-stuck environment, DO NOT START doing what you did before. DO NOT open reddit (block it in your hosts file or run dnsmasq and block (asterisk)reddit(asterisk) hosts and (asterisk)ycomb(asterisk)). DO NOT turn on a tv show or a movie. Once you start your old habit, you lose. You won't have a chance to stop yourself until you go through another sleep/wake cycle. You are allowed to turn on music.
Step four: start something new. you wanna be starting something. Find something you can't do, and figure out why. Do you know how a webpage is delivered from server to browser? When was the last time you wrote a BST? Just start doing something that requires thought and potentially creativity on your part. Things will fall into place after that.
But, for the love of Tony Robbins, DO NOT START your old habits. DO NOT open reddit. DO NOT watch a tv show or movie at your computer. Once you _start_ you become unable to stop until your brain resets.
Fast forward few weeks, I started reading specs of MP3 format and created a reader of ID3 tag in PHP[1] and I am back to normal, the obsession about coding is back as it.
As @serji tells, find something new, try to create something about it and its just matter of some time when your passion will be back as usual. Good luck.
[1]: https://github.com/shubhamjain/PHP-ID3
Best to combine this with starting something new. Take up jogging, swimming, martial arts, yoga, ultimate --- whatever sounds interesting that you've never tried before.
I also want to improve all the time, and I also want to work on my side projects, but I don't always feel motivated.
I've found the best way, typically, is to watch or read something interesting about programming. Lately, "Clean Code" is a bit inspirational, or talks from pycon on pyvideo. It's enough motivation to get me started, and getting started keeps me going, for those few hours at least.
Rinse, repeat.
* Listen to music to block the distractions/world
* Get out of your old environment (coffee shops seem to help me, +caffeine source!)
* Travel: It just always seems to put things in perspective for me.
* Probably won't work for everyone, but I tend to have 'The Holstee Manifesto' on the wall near my computer, and probably read through it a few times a week. Makes you think.
2. Find an actionable & useful project that you've to code/build at least for an hr where you see tangible progress. Allow that progress to motivate you so that you start spending more time on that.
// aside: Since my Family lives in a less densely populated area with poor connectivity, I found it a perfect distraction-free zone to get back in a productive mood. I have probably started reading into 1 new programming language (Python) and got fairly productive in it already. Started reading into Scheduling in CompSci. And maybe have already decided on my next to be learned language(erlang maybe). The Bad connectivity may be easy to replicate. Just pull the plug or work via 3G. Surely makes you feel like you have time to read something
So. Heads Up! It will come back :)
- Take a vitamin B pill (B12 mainly) and/or a 5-HTP supplement.
- Keep lots of interesting books lying around, without making a goal out of reading them.
- Watch inspiring personal struggle/triumph documentaries to regain optimism (the one about Bo Jackson might still be on netflix).
- Practice identifying, avoiding, and moving past Gumption Traps.
- Become an armchair 'expert' in something (at the time) useless and non-achievement-related, like overhead valve engines, pre-Renaissance cathedral construction, friction stir welding (do _not_ get caught up configuring your text editor)
There's a method to the madness in mixing these. Everything in moderation, ymmv, etc.
I've added reading the Holstee Manifesto to my morning ritual, what a neat poster Alias1. Feynman is a personal hero and his desire to do what is "fun" is a great motivator, thanks jayrobin. Misiek, my girlfriend would love it if we had a child, though I suspect there a few steps before that happens...
Thanks again HN, I look forward to hear more from all of you!