This article is more than a little hyperbolic. The "perform like a porn star" deck was the "only time someone reacted to the fact that women are generally treated differently in the Rails / Ruby world"? Really?
It seems to me that there's generally about one very high profile incident every other month or so involving sexism within the developer (generally specifically web-dev, and primarily RoR) community.
The fact that so many high-profile incidents exist is a sign that there's plenty of work to be done, but a lack of attention is hardly the problem.
Mostly posted to highlight the response of the Ruby facebook admin. Who, while in a position of completely unofficial power, is still de facto representing part of the Ruby community on the internet and whose comments are, quite frankly, part of the problem of misogyny in tech.
It is extremely dishonest of you to accuse this person of _hating women_ based upon his dislike of particular kinds of activism within the programming field.
Here's some more evidence for you, from his public facebook posts[0]: "Fuck women, they are coddled and have their needs met their entire lives so they never see past their own needs to empathize with others."
Misogyny is not necessarily hating women, but can also mean fearing, disliking, distrusting, and otherwise treating women as fundamentally different and inferior to men.
Claiming that a man asking that people not be immature assholes means that "a progressive movement is being coopted by women who want to make it about their vagina" is pretty much a textbook example of misogyny.
Claiming that software engineering is a "male space" (so, what, do that make the female software engineers I work with some kind of intruders on my "male space"?) is also a textbook example of misogyny.
What is it going to take for you to accept that this guy is a misogynist? Actually physically harming women? There are a lot more ways to spread fear, distrust, and hatred than just physical harm.
Sorry, misogyny means hating women. Perversion of language won't help you. Also, I don't care if the guy is a misogynist or not. There are plenty of hateful people in the world. I hate lots of people (women are nice though). What I do care about is the fact that his _post_ has had a label thrown on it to neutralise it when it contains a valid point. You've imbibed too much Kool-Aid, my friend.
Sorry, misogyny means hating women. Perversion of
language won't help you.
We don't speak ancient Greek. In modern English, misogyny means hatred, distrust, contempt towards women. Reacting to a post from a man asking "could we be more respectful and inclusive of others" with something about being "coopted by women who want to make it all about their vagina" definitely expresses a distrust and contempt towards women.
Of course, you can always parse semantics apart and say "well, he didn't say all women". That's not the point; misogyny doesn't require that you qualify all hateful statements to include every woman in existence. But that quote, in response to a man asking if we could be nicer and more inclusive, definitely states a fairly contemptuous attitude towards women.
when it contains a valid point
It has no such valid point.
No one is coming into the Ruby community, or the programming community, and trying to make it "all about their vagina". In fact, they're asking the opposite; that there's less emphasis placed on their vagina, and more on their code.
And calling programming a "male space" is inherently exclusionary. He is dismissing in one fell swoop all of the women who do code, who are part of the community.
Asking that people be nicer, and maybe consider the effect that gems named "rape_me" and "retarded" might not really reflect well on a community, with a defensive knee-jerk reaction about "politically correct thought-police safe spaces" is not a "valid point".
Yes, and I'm sure where you come from "micro-aggressions" is a real word too.
>And calling programming a "male space" is inherently exclusionary.
No, it's a statement of fact. The US Marines is a male space. Oops, am I a bad little misogynist now?
>Asking that people be nicer, and maybe consider the effect that gems named "rape_me" and "retarded" might not really reflect well on a community, with a defensive knee-jerk reaction about "politically correct thought-police safe spaces" is not a "valid point".
Yes, it is. If it's invalid, then by all means invalidate it for me.
>No one is coming into the Ruby community, or the programming community, and trying to make it "all about their vagina". In fact, they're asking the opposite; that there's less emphasis placed on their vagina, and more on their code.
I don't hang out with Rubyists. I don't care about Ruby. It's a bad language, for a start. In the general programming field there are plenty of people spending lots of time trying to boost the status of women and institute PC memes. Do you deny this?
Yes, and I'm sure where you come from "micro-aggressions"
is a real word too.
Not really sure where you got that. I didn't use that term and neither did the author of the original post. It's a perfectly valid English construction; whether the term it describes is something that's particularly relevant is another question.
No, it's a statement of fact. The US Marines is a
male space. Oops, am I a bad little misogynist now?
There are women in the Marines, and many of them have served and died in the line of duty in Afghanistan and Iraq. So not only is that not a statement of fact, it's also quite insulting to those women who have put their life on the line for this country.
Now, it's true that as of now in the US, women have not been put directly into combat roles. Combat battalions are still exclusively male spaces. Of course, that doesn't mean that women haven't been involved in combat; sometimes they have by accident, or in many cases they have through loopholes or trial programs like the Marine Corps Lioness's program.
Stating that the programming profession is male dominated is a statement of fact. Stating that people are trying to "co-opt male spaces" by being more inclusive of women is misogynist. Talking about co-opting male spaces implies that it's something that men have the right to and women to not; that something is being taken away from men by making it friendlier for women to join. That implies that either women in the space are bad, or being friendlier and making them feel more comfortable is bad, either of which can accurately be described as misogynist.
Yes, it is. If it's invalid, then by all means
invalidate it for me.
Thought police must be, well, police. Even if you want to speak metaphorically, they must be someone with some kind of coercive power to apply rules that are designed to shape how people think.
The original author was simply pointing out some examples of bad behavior, and saying "hey, this doesn't make you cool, it makes you an asshole". He mused about whether RubyGems should ban them, but then said this was unrealistic.
On the other hand, Aaron Ashworth threatened to and then did ban him from the Ruby Facebook group. So if you're looking for "thought police", that qualifies more than criticizing some people for childish names.
So, I've invalidated the point. Will you now admit that the point was not valid, and that the nasty behavior (accusing women of making it "all about their vaginas") was simply nasty behavior for the sake of being nasty, and not because there was a valid point?
And don't try to tell me something along the lines of "well, maybe he didn't have a valid point about this particular post, but it is a real problem." If you want to discuss real problem, you should discuss real problems, not lash about about vaginas and thought police.
I don't hang out with Rubyists. I don't care about Ruby.
It's a bad language, for a start.
Sure, let's forget about Ruby for the moment.
In the general programming field there are plenty of
people spending lots of time trying to boost the status
of women and institute PC memes. Do you deny this?
There are some people spending lots of time trying to boost the status of women, yes. I'm not sure I'd say "lots of people" relative to the size of the community. Most people mind their own business and don't really act one way or another. Some people act aggressively negatively. Some people act more dismissively negatively.
I have no idea what you mean by "institute PC memes". The phrase "PC" is thrown around to refer to so many things, and tar so many thing with whatever bad reputation that it's supposed to have, that I'm never really sure what people mean w...
Who, while in a position of completely unofficial power, is still de facto representing part of the Ruby community on the internet
Perhaps people should be encouraged to stop assigning value to other people based on nothing more than their visibility. Maybe, instead, assign value to the content of their work, be it code, blog posts, presentations, etc.
Someone who starts or runs a forum is just that. They are not a [thought|community|whatever] leader or spokesperson, however much they may think themselves so.
This is just intellectual laziness. These people represent no one but themselves, and people should stop suggesting otherwise.
There's a big difference between "foul language" and that which is offensive, inconsiderate, exclusionary, and generally sexist, having the result of making women feel unsafe/unwelcome in this space.
The person to whom I responded feels, as evidenced by his sarcasm, that the entire issue is trivial. We clearly do not agree. You're both unable to see the other side of it.
I can see from your other comment on this thread that further discussion on this with you would be an uphill one so I'm signing off now.
Well I've seen your comments such as "Men are raped too" in reference to women being raped, which says to me you're goal is to marginalize women's issues, which seems pretty sexist to me. If you'd like to defend pointing out that men are raped too in reference to women being raped I'd be happy to point the sexist and misogynistic aspects of your opinions, which sadly, should be blindingly obvious.
Ask the person who wrote it. Whether he was a man is irrelevant. Men are also raped. Any person's motivations for naming their software something offensive are personal and not representative of an entire gender.
There are childish assholes everywhere, and this guy seems to take a few Rubygems with names like "ass" (how sexist!) and claim that this is indicative of a general attitude of he-man woman-hating in the programming community. The entire thing is absolutely ridiculous.
That's pretty funny from the admin guy. He describes the person who posted the piece as "politically correct thought police", and then right afterwards threatens to ban them if they post anything else "like this", i.e., anything whose politics he disagrees with.
I don't like the word "hypocritical" though, because it implies that contradicting oneself like that is the moral failing of an individual. But really, we all contradict ourselves all the time, and we don't even realise it. These types of contradictions are interesting not because they show that the person who makes them is bad or stupid, but because they reveal the ideologies that structure their thoughts, behaviours and actions, and the contradictions embedded therein. In fact "ideology" itself can be thought of as a kind of blindness to contradictions.
In this particular case, the admin guy is probably not stupid. I'm sure he sees the contradiction in (p ^ ¬p). But he also is a man, and obviously feels threatened by feminism because it seeks to take away his male privilege (in this case, the right to be misogynist without anybody else complaining^), and thus is motivated by ideology to defend his male privilege. This ideology is powerful enough that he can blatantly contradict himself and not even see that he's done so.
^ I know the admin guy wasn't misogynist himself, or at least the original article wasn't about his misogyny, I am just saying that male privilege generally grants men the right to be misogynist without anybody else complaining (certainly in the "male spaces" that the admin guy is talking about), and feminism threatens to take that right away from him.
Yes. Filter gem names to block terrible, woman-hating names like retarded, therapist, hoe, and sex. A rake is an immoral pleasure seeker[1], better get rid of that one too! That will fix your community's problems, Ruby, because that's totally what the problem is! You nailed it!
Or rather than a bunch of dudes blogging about how to fix the problem, we listen to the women for once and not treat them like a tiny snowflake, ready to melt if they read the word fuck. Christ almighty. Nothing perpetuates this sort of shit more than male voices of authority saying "women can't handle a gem named 'bj'! We're assholes if we let it stand!"
I agree with you on rape-me, which is why I left it out. There's an American breed of thought which says that the mere mention of anything related to sex demeans women and objectifies them, which comes from puritanical sensibilities. I've been in a meeting where someone discussed something sexual which was actually in-context to make a point about a product, and someone interrupted him and said "let's not discuss sexual matters, there are women present."
Smoked a cigarette with the woman in question later that day and she basically rolled her eyes about it.
It's not clear that sexual or vulgar language (not sexist, generally, just sexual) is really the most important thing at stake for women in the profession. Probably they're more concerned with sub/unconscious bias, impostor syndrome, or, you know, actual outright abuse. Just a guess.
"However, I really don't appreciate the co-opting of male spaces (i.e. software engineering) in to some politically correct thought police "safe space"."
I'm amazed that someone would say this.
I don't know about you guys, but I don't want software engineering to be a "male space." I didn't start programming because I wanted to spend the rest of my life being surrounded by mostly dudes.
This just really struck me because a lot of people say things like "I don't think software engineering is hostile to women." This guy, on the other hand, says "software engineering is unfriendly to women and I like it that way."
You are misrepresenting what he said. Programming is primarily a male activity. That is fact. He is pointing to the attempts to co-opt the programming landscape "out-of-band" by activism - as opposed to simply taking control of and starting new projects. Your post is a perfect illustration of this sort of activism; you have put words right into the guy's mouth because you don't want to be surrounded by men.
Really? How do you know that? You appear to be attributing intentions to him that are not actually demonstrated by his words. [edit for clarity: him = the facebook admin]
My interpretation is far closer to his words than the GP, and I am giving the speaker the benefit of the doubt. So please be consistent and reply to the GP pointing out his mistake. Oops, you just revealed your bias.
Yes. My bias is that when people say something horrifically bigoted, I believe that they mean it. If they didn't, then it's on them to prove that if they need to, I see no need to give the benefit of the doubt. I suspect that our different approaches here reflect a different base level of belief in the existence of real bigotry, and hence the likelihood of such statements reflecting real bigotry rather than being the ironic/trolling type.
Again, your whole deal is "what is he like"? This is the sort of dull thinking that leads people to become obsessed with rumors and celebrity gossip. The fact that he might hate women is relevant, just not in the way you desperately want it to be - the way in which you can ignore what he said. I grew up around racists and sexists, so you're utterly wrong in your speculations about my world view. And that's all your responses are - speculations about some psychological defect or another that you can use to ignore what's being said. That is called a 'defense mechanism'.
What? I'm not ignoring what he said. I am responding specifically to it. You are telling people to ignore the objectionable sections of his comment to talk about the bit you want to. Sorry, but I'm not having a conversation about activism right now - I'm talking about how inappropriate this guys comment was. Stop calling it a 'defense mechanism' for people to criticise someone for objectionable behaviour. If my manager stands up on the conference table peeing while presenting the annual sales figures, it is not a 'defense mechanism' for me to respond by objecting to his pee instead of talking about the sales figures.
I am curious, if my theory was wrong, why you tend to believe that people are joking about being bigoted when it is so likely that they are not.
>I'm not ignoring what he said. I am responding specifically to it. You are telling people to ignore the objectionable sections of his comment to talk about the bit you want to.
Obviously, you are not ignoring "what he said". That's a given, since you're talking about his post. But you're not addressing the point (that was the sense used, and I'm shocked you lack the common sense to understand this). Rather, you're engaging in gossip about whether he hates women. You even went as far as digging up another comment he made at another time to gossip about his attitude. You are the "Thought Police" this guy is talking about.
>Sorry, but I'm not having a conversation about activism right now - I'm talking about how inappropriate this guys comment was.
And so the backpedaling begins. Now you're concerned about how "inappropriate" it was. Note the misdirection, where suddenly you dial down the heavyweight accusations of "misogyny" and Internet detective work to look more reasonable at a tactically opportune moment. It's all about how "appropriate" the comment was. Unfortunately for you he is the administrator of the group in question and he (and Facebook and any other administrators) get to decide what is "appropriate" there. What you are really doing (ignoring your little tactical retreat) is trying to tie the essential point of the post to a hatred of women. Which note is not the same thing as whether the poster himself hates women.
>If my manager stands up on the conference table peeing while presenting the annual sales figures, it is not a 'defense mechanism' for me to respond by objecting to his pee instead of talking about the sales figures.
Bad analogy. The forum on which the post was made isn't yours to police, and his actions aren't equivalent to pissing on the table, which is a health hazard and a far more egregious social violation than saying some mean things on the Internet. Further, you have employed the same tactics against me by bringing my tendencies and background into question.
>I am curious, if my theory was wrong, why you tend to believe that people are joking about being bigoted when it is so likely that they are not.
A more interesting question is how you know how I "tend" from a sample of one. Just think how this power could be used for the good of mankind!
To be clear: by using the word 'inappropriate' I did not in any way intend to reduce or back away from the argument that what he said was misogynist, I was just changing up the wording.
I'm shocked that you don't seem to realise that this isn't a discussion about some random facebook group and whether the owner thereof is allowed to be a giant asshole. The point of the post was about hatred and rejection of women in software engineering, and this comment was one example of it being a real thing, frequently denied all over HN. And when a bunch of HNers came in and said 'he didn't mean that, he was just trolling the stupid PC SJ types, I'm sure he wants women to be in software engineering just without being activists about it' (not quoting you) the evidence of his other postings, showing a consistent worldview of hatred of women, was relevant.
If I thought that forum were somewhere I could police, don't you think I'd be over there policing it? However I don't think anything of the sort, so in fact I'm on here discussing it. If you don't think that we should be discussing his comment, feel free to not be part of it.
I'm sorry if I over generalised your habits from your behaviour. If you don't normally give the benefit of the doubt to people displaying bigoted behaviour, why did you do so in this case?
>The point of the post was about hatred and rejection of women in software engineering, and this comment was one example of it being a real thing, frequently denied all over HN.
Nope. It was a valid comment directed at a little PC warrior. Possibly from an unsavory character with malignant motives - as you keep repeating - but that isn't of interest. Further, my reply - from which your whole conversation with me spawns, and therefore constitutes the topic of this subthread (the one involving you and me) - was commenting on the reaction of people to the post itself which was a valid observation. Your contention that it is offensive and comes from someone you don't like is of no interest to me. The content of the post was not hateful toward women, even if the author is (itself dubious on a troll-filled Internet). Perhaps if you'd bothered reading what I say instead of firing off scattershot self-righteousness you'd have gotten somewhere in this thread.
>And when a bunch of HNers came in and said 'he didn't mean that, he was just trolling the stupid PC SJ types, I'm sure he wants women to be in software engineering ...
Please limit yourself to what I said in the parents, since that is what you are replying to. It's enough work to get you to read my own posts for comprehension without taking on the additional burden of defending other people in the thread who you _imagine_ share common ground with me.
>I'm sorry if I over generalised your habits from your behaviour. If you don't normally give the benefit of the doubt to people displaying bigoted behaviour, why did you do so in this case?
I don't agree that the post displayed bigoted behavior. The only reason to think the comment comes from a hatred of women is from information that you dug up. I'm not interested in digging up bullshit this guy might have said elsewhere, therefore there was no reason for me to think that's where it came from. I don't care if he's a _child molester_. He may or may not be any number of things.
The fact that you apologise for over-generalising shows that you missed the point, which is not that you affronted me by over-generalising, but that you destroyed the discussion and wasted my time by going on about my personality and the personality of the person who made the original post. And you're still doing it!
Glad we could clear up the fundamental disagreement - I found what he said offensive, bigoted, misogynist and hateful to women before ever reading anything else he'd said.
It turns out he might be a bit of a jerk after all. Nonetheless that is not the post the GGP was responding to. And your tactic of discrediting the guy rather than looking at what he actually said in the current thread is reactive behavior.
Pointing out his misogyny is not "ad hominem" as you seem to think and provides further context for understanding the other comment. Not that it's needed, he is pretty clear, I don't think anyone here is misunderstanding it.
I didn't bring up the term "ad hominem". Please stop putting words into my mouth. You are very determined to do anything but address anything anyone's actually saying. Your defense mechanisms are showing.
For reference, ad hominem means "attempts to undermine an argument based on an irrelevant fact about the person making the argument" (Wikipedia). It doesn't seem unfair to use it to paraphrase the description "your tactic of discrediting the guy rather than looking at what he actually said".
Exactly. The guy hating women or not is not _irrelevant_, but it's not relevant in the way GP is trying to use it. That's why he tries to play the "ad hominem" card so he can throw up some moronic straw man about relevancy.
Actually I was pointing out that lucisferre's use of the term 'ad hominem' to characterise your comment was completely fair and not 'putting words in your mouth' just because you never used the explicit phrase.
What he said about women trying to make a progressive movement all about their vagina? What is that even supposed to mean? How is the ruby community a "progressive movement" (yes, he was just quoting someone, but it doesn't even make sense in that context).
This was in response to a man asking that people not act like assholes and name things immature sexual names.
There was no point here. He was just lashing out at something he's afraid of and frustrated by. Asking that people act nicer does not make something a "politically correct thought police 'safe space'". And claiming that asking that people act nicer is "co-opting of male spaces" is a pretty pathetic attempt to play the victim card while simultaneously trying to exclude and marginalize women who have contributed tons to the tech industry.
>What he said about women trying to make a progressive movement all about their vagina?
It's an outburst. So what? Maybe it's humor, maybe he has some kind of pathological issue with women. It doesn't matter because there is a valid point being completely ignored so people can moan about how "women unfriendly" the post is.
>What is that even supposed to mean? How is the ruby community a "progressive movement"
Firstly, I don't think the Ruby movement is progressive, mostly because it's a shitty language. Secondly, the point is not whether Ruby is or is not progressive. Even if you accept that it's a retrogressive movement his point stands because it is a general one.
>There was no point here. He was just lashing out at something he's afraid of and frustrated by.
I beg to differ. There is a real trend of PC activism aiming to protect sensitive little flowers of various kinds against offense. Your attempt to psychologise the guy is just a cheap tactic to avoid this point.
>Asking that people act nicer does not make something a "politically correct thought police 'safe space'".
The hidden (and incorrect) assumption here is that this is unconnected to PC activism.
>And claiming that asking that people act nicer is "co-opting of male spaces" is a pretty pathetic attempt to play the victim card while simultaneously trying to exclude and marginalize women who have contributed tons to the tech industry.
"Pathetic", "margenalize", "afraid", "exclude", etc. And you say this is unconnected to PC activism? His post didn't marginalize anyone. It was making a fairly specific point that your defense mechanisms are preventing you from seeing.
I'm not attempting to "psychologize" the guy. He made a flat-out misogynistic comment. I don't know anything more about him than that (well, and the other comments which have been quoted on here). But it only takes a single comment of someone calling someone else a "nigger" in an attempt to demean and exclude them before you can call someone a racist. The same is true here; someone who claims that asking that people be a little more sensitive means that women want to make it all about their vagina is clearly lashing out in the same way.
The hidden (and incorrect) assumption here is that
this is unconnected to PC activism.
I'm not even sure what "PC activism" is supposed to mean any more, or why people consider a lot of things they accuse as being "PC activism" to be negative. Most of the times I've seen it thrown around recently were when people were just asking that other people act more nicely. Apparently asking people to act nice is now "PC activism".
I will welcome debate about how much needs to be codified; I hate policies that say "you can't use these X words" as the next guy. But a lot of what people rail about as being "PC activism" is just like this; asking that people be a little more considerate in naming package they're putting into a public repository.
So, what's an appropriate reaction to this post? Maybe to say "OK, listing 'hoe' in there is overkill, that's just being used as a pun on 'rake'." Or maybe saying "hmm, I'm not sure how useful it is to ask people to be nicer while calling them assholes."
What's not an appropriate reaction? Talking about vaginas and male spaces and banning someone who just made a request to be nicer and listed a few examples of the kind of behavior they were talking about.
Yes, you speculated on his mental state quite extensively. Quoting you: "He was just lashing out at something he's afraid of and frustrated by."
>He made a flat-out misogynistic comment.
Sorry, he did nothing of the sort. He made the astute point that women tend to co-opt spaces established by men using activism. Do you deny this?
>Apparently asking people to act nice is now "PC activism".
Nope. Again, it's not just "asking people to be nice", it's a concerted, long-term effort to insert PC memes under the guide of being a nice person.
>But it only takes a single comment of someone calling someone else a "nigger" in an attempt to demean and exclude them before you can call someone a racist.
Nope. People say all sorts of things in anger, and this kind of thinking is exactly the kind of PC stupidity that is becoming a concern.
>Talking about vaginas and male spaces and banning someone who just made a request to be nicer and listed a few examples of the kind of behavior they were talking about.
What's your point here, exactly? That his ban was too harsh? Got anything to say about PC activism (you know, the thing that we were talking about)?
>So, what's an appropriate reaction to this post?
Oh, piss off you moist wanker. Did you stop to think that maybe it's not your job to tell other people how to communicate with others?
Do you really honestly think the way in which you communicate with people has no impact?
I completely agree, as a white dude having to worry about the way in which people receive my communication is just so unfair. I mean I call one guy a nigger and all of a sudden I'm racist. I'm not, I was just angry. Admittedly angry enough to call on centuries of historical context and language coached in violence to point out the lower social status of someone. But that's not racist.
It's not your job to tell people how to communicate with others. But it entirely your responsibility to communicate with people in the way they wish to be communicated with, if you want to be heard. This isn't about being PC, it's about not being exclusionary to 50% of the population. Women are not going to want to work with you if you're not willing to be inclusive.
Piss off you moist wanker. Did you stop to think that what you consider PC, other people might consider legitimately offensive? Did you ever stop to think it's not your job to tell women what they're allowed to be offended by? It's honestly pretty impressive that you consider someone expressing their discomfort with sexist language to be worse than the sexist language itself.
Dismissing someone by comparing a man who is asking for there to be less sexualized and derogatory language in a community to "women who want to make it all about their vagina" is nonsense on several axes. For one, the person he was attacking is a man. For another, the whole point of the argument is for it to be less about vaginas, or other sexual differences. Bringing up sex (and especially in violent and derogatory terms, like rape-me and recursive_pimp_slap) can make an environment uncomfortable for people who already feel marginalized in a community.
You're misrepresenting what he said. He's clearly trying to troll as hard as possible. So congratulations on agreeing with an intentionally inflammatory and sexist post I guess?
It is not my intention to misread. I'm not sure I understand how your interpretation differs from mine. Your interpretation seems to be saying "if you want a culture with a more inclusive atmosphere, start one yourself." How does this contradict my interpretation? Does this interpretation deny the female-unfriendly atmosphere of the existing culture? Does it show any more initiative/interest on his part to change this?
Well, since you are now no longer talking about "hostility" or even absolute inclusion (but rather the much less definite "more inclusive"), then I assume you retract your assertion that the post condones "hostility" toward women. Yes/no?
The poster may well be hostile toward women. But his post here contains a valid point about activism in the computing field.
The distinction between "female unfriendly" and "hostile to women" seems subtle to me, but sure, I'm fine changing that. Maybe "hostile" was a bit too strong.
I'm not sure what a "male space" is, but it isn't software engineering. It is not a gender specific role, both men and women can do it, men and women excel at it, and men and women should be encouraged to do it. When we think of programming as a "male space" or a "male activity" we are not moving the profession forward.
Now what is a "male space"? The military? No, women are on the front lines. Finance? No, a woman is about to become the first Chairman of the Fed. Politics? No, we have 20 female US Senators and a viable Presidential candidate. Professional sports? No, women have their own leagues, and several men's teams have female execs. Software Engineering???
I read him as brilliantly trolling Elad with everything that would trigger him to be pissed off. Simply a flawless troll against the social justice types, meant to be completely politically incorrect to infuriate the kind of person who would post with Elad did, and it seems like everybody here is biting too.
Given that Elad's reaction was to run here and post it, I'd say it worked. Most successful and subtle troll I've seen in a long time.
At some point, trolls have to crawl out from underneath their pre-pubecant rock and realize that "trolling" and "being an asshole" are the same thing. If trolling is the sort of thing you enjoy doing, fine, but don't expect to get along much with anyone but other assholes.
I never claimed that he wasn't being an asshole. I just don't think he actually believes what people are debating in this (thankfully now deleted) thread. If I'm right, and I'm 98% sure I am, this thread where people are arguing every word of what he said is a demonstration of a pretty damned good troll at work.
The definition of trolling is pretty nebulous, by the way; one could make that case that you attempted to troll me by calling me pre-pubescent, and hoped for me to lower myself to your level.
Go read his other public timeline posts then where he reveals the depths of his misogyny. And then remind yourself that this person is representing the Ruby community on facebook.
1. I don't maintain a Facebook account because it's either family bickering and arguing, spam I don't give a shit about, arguments I don't give a shit about, or trolling. What some guy says on Facebook concerns me absolutely zero and it is completely not worth my time. So no, I won't be reading his timeline. Because I can't log in.
I'm good friends with someone who is an absolutely face-blistering troll on Stormfront; everything he says online has to be part of his "act," if you will, so it would surprise me very little if this guy's entire Facebook schtick is keeping up his act. Welcome to the Internet.
2. I hope you read my other comment and stop treating women like they need to be protected from everything, because you perpetuate exactly what you hope to destroy with a blog post like this.
3. You got the pants trolled off you and want to argue about it with someone, and no, it's not going to be me. And now that your thread's been deleted from HN, it's not going to be anybody else here, either. Seriously, your reaction to the guy's post is absolutely comical given that you were being trolled, and is exactly what he wants you to do. Plus, now you've given him an excuse to ban you.
I'm going to add a fourth thing:
4. You've spent more of your life talking to that guy, me, HN, and your blog's readers about this topic than you should have, by a mile. Focus on things that can actually make a difference, like listening to what women want to see change in the industry instead of projecting your penis onto the industry from a position of male authority.
Apologies, I'm not referring to you as prepubescent; rather I'm referring to "trolling" as prepubescent behavior. I edited my post to more accurately communicate that point.
Trolling is a loosely defined term, but most definitions agree that it is a tactic whose primary purpose is to "get a rise" out of someone. The method used to accomplish this here (in the FB post) is to use language becoming of an asshole. Impersonating an asshole as a rhetorical strategy seems like an act doomed to fail.
I have no appreciation for trolling as a rhetorical device. It belongs in the bin with other disingenuous debate techniques. There are, I think we can all agree, far better, more honest methods of making one's point.
The good trolls are basically self-sacrificial. A good friend of mine makes the racists on Stormfront look like idiots by trolling them without them realizing it. It can be a weapon of good. However, I agree with you; everybody these days rushes to call what they're doing trolling when it falls apart in their face, but the post under discussion here is what a troll should look like, IMO.
This kind of made me think about something I've wanted to ask for a long time but could never really crystallize until now.
I'm probably kicking a hornet's nest here, probably because I'm going to word this in a way that gives an impression I do not actually have, so, fair warning. I ask you to give me the benefit of the doubt here that I'm not, in fact, a bigoted sociopath.
This guy, on the other hand, says "software engineering is hostile to women and I like it that way."
That's not what I gathered from that post.
I read it as an understandable (note: understandable means comprehend-able, not acceptable or appropriate) overreaction to a certain faction of extremists who want the focus to become about feelings and PC rather than doing cool things and getting shit done. To an extent, I sympathize with those who are scandalized when they hear the whinging about a Torvalds rant on the kernel lists, or the extended brouhaha from the "donglegate" thing from earlier in the year. Such things come off very much as an attempt to hijack or attack the culture.
Two questions.
At what point is it socially acceptable to express exasperation with a group of people who ostensibly have noble goals, but then cause damage while they're at it? (Note: same answer has to apply to pretty much any '$minority rights' group behaving badly)
At what point is "this is not a 'safe' space, (not in that people are going to go out of their way to offend you, but in that people have better things to spend their time on than measuring their every word for the slightest hint of '$ism'), so you may hear things that offend you, and how you choose to interpret and deal with that is entirely on you" ...an acceptable response?
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I don't know, am I the only person that enjoys the somewhat acerbic nature of software engineering on the internet and doesn't want it to change all that much?
You can argue that you don't want software engineering to be a 'safe space' without arguing that it should remain a 'male space'. (People might respond that this isn't possible, and that your desire for the acerbic community is outweighed by the desire for women to get into engineering, but that's a different conversation to what you'll get by saying 'I don't think women should be in engineering').
I think the part of this post that really jumped out at me was "male space." Maybe I misinterpreted, but when I read that it came off to me as a club where there are insiders and outsiders.
If he had left out the "male space" part, I would have probably assumed he meant something more like what you were saying.
Yeah, that admittedly colors the whole thing a very ugly shade (ed: and then the rest of his Facebook behavior too.. ick! classy guy, that one) - but then again, politically-incorrect banter is one of the hallmarks of a "male space". Can you have one without the other? No topics are off limits. The other person's religion, politics, body attributes, whatever. It's all in good fun.
I think it comes down to, which is worth more? Keeping that acerbic culture or being more inviting to women? Don't get me wrong, I totally understand the fun of reading/writing completely inappropriate ranting (well sometimes -- I'm a bit uncomfortable with "The other person's religion, politics, body attributes, whatever. It's all in good fun.").
On the other hand, being more inviting has advantages both selfish (more women around, good for both social reasons and for their talent) and moral (giving opportunity to women, and anyone who isn't into caustic banter, for that matter). If you love programming, imagine being deprived of it because you felt unwelcome in programming circles. I think it's kind of wrong for those of us in places of leadership to deny opportunity to people for the benefit of our fun.
A more interesting question to me is whether that acerbic, non-PC focused culture is or can be divorced from occasional sexism or even marshaled into explicit opposition to sexism (here I do not refer to donglegate as a real instance of sexism). and thus kept without any essential modification.
After all, obvious sexist drama bullshit is certainly a distraction from any business of real interest. But this is not the same thing as someone yelling about privilege.
For one, that Facebook post read pretty much as described above. Comparing someone who complains about vicious, nasty humor like "rape-me" and "recursive_pimp_slap" in a highly public place to "women who want to make it all about their vagina" and saying that people are "co-opting male spaces" pretty much says exactly that. It says "yes, it's hostile to women, and any women who complain can be reduced to a single anatomical feature, and if you complain you're trying to co-opt my playspace." There's really not much wiggle room in interpreting it.
a certain faction of extremists
The problem is that many people who are making reasonable points, like someone who's pointing out that gems named "rape-me" really aren't acceptable in polite society, wind up being lumped in with extremists.
There may be a few extremists out there, but not many. What you see lots more are people who are tone deaf and make problems worse by going around and yelling "you're racist/sexist/homophobic", "no, you're a feminazi/PC", and on and on without ever really getting anywhere. Most of those people (on either side) aren't extremists, they're just caught in the internet spiral of hate. But just because some people go overboard on the internet spiral of hate that simply amplifies problems, doesn't mean that there aren't some real problems.
So, responding to someone who says "rape-me is not an acceptable name for a gem" with such rhetoric is instantly escalating that internet spiral of hate for no reason. Lumping people who have legitimate complaints, like "let's not have rape references in our public software repositories" or "let's try not to sexually assault people at conferences" with "extremists" is a way of dismissing those legitimate concerns and simultaneously escalating the rhetoric to the point where nothing useful will come of it.
whinging about a Torvalds rant on the kernel lists,
or the extended brouhaha from the "donglegate" thing
from earlier in the year
These are two very different issues. One is a question of whether it's a good idea to chastise your collaborators so strongly on a public list, or whether there could be more polite ways to make your opinions known. It didn't really have any kind of discriminatory or sexist content, simply a question of the best way to encourage good practices and discourage bad ones.
The other is somewhat more relevant. It's an example of puerile humor, in a private conversation that happened to be in a public place (at least, as far as I've been able to gather). I found that it seemed to be an excessive attempt to shame people for behavior that was, as far as I can tell, supposed to be private, but was in a public place so other people could overhear it. I think that there is some reasonable debate to be had over what kind of behavior is appropriate in a public space where you can be overheard, but that there was an overreaction to it, since it was private behavior. However, the internet spiral of hate wound up blowing the whole thing out of control, in part because there are so many people who are so sensitive on both sides of these issues, and it went way beyond anything it should have.
Here's the thing. Donglegate could have been someone pointing out behavior that she considered inappropriate, and people could have taken that to heart and moved on. But lots of people overreacted. Posting people's pictures online publicly, rather than either talking to them yourself or letting PyCon staff talk to them, was an overreaction. Firing one of the people involved in the conversation was an overreaction. Firing Adria Richards was probably an overreaction, though at that point she had shown herself to be divisive enough to not be very good at community building. Sending her death threats and calling...
(This is a much better way of quoting, I think i'll do this in the future. Thanks :3)
The problem is that many people who are making reasonable points,
like someone who's pointing out that gems named "rape-me" really aren't
acceptable in polite society
That's not a "reasonable point", unless the question of "why does a program name equate to polite society?" is also being addressed at the same time. It's telling something people they already know (Hey! Did you know? These gem names are politically incorrect! This should make you upset because it will make some people feel uncomfortable!) - something which is usually not done unless there's some kind of ulterior motive.
It's politically correct, insensitive, and probably a lot of other things, I think pretty much everyone, including the guy who wrote the gem, could agree on that. Now what do you suggest we do about it, if anything?
Hemming and hawing and "How could they!"-ing not only accomplishes nothing in the great majority of cases, it turns people off of whatever valuable input you might have. Put another way, I don't think a way exists to say "This isn't PC" without coming off as a PC crusader.
There may be a few extremists out there, but not many.
What you see lots more are people who are tone deaf..
Ok wait a second here. With all due respect, that is completely and utterly your opinion and not any kind of objective fact. All I said were that loud extremists exist (something you appear to agree with me on), and implied that they are unpleasant to deal with and cause more problems than they solve.
A safe space is instead one where you feel comfortable telling someone
when you think they crossed the line, that they will respect that and
not attack you for it.
That's not how I've seen the term used, unless you expand out "respect that" you mean "police their speech and avoid offending anyone".
Think to yourself. If you have to tell someone "this is not a safe space",
you are basically telling them "I do not want you in this space."
Because if you want them in that space, you will make it safe for them.
Only if you accept the social justice definition of "safe", meaning "you absolutely will not have your feelings hurt here, and we'll smack anyone that does so.". What if the feelings of other people are not of primary (or secondary, or...) concern of your particular group? What if I do want someone in this space, but I expect them to be able to brush off some amount of non-PC dialogue because it's quite frankly not all that important to the group's goals? Is that expectation wrong? (Or worse, evil?)
On the public internet, recall that you can never be sure of who will
see your joke, and how they'll react to your humor. Things you post
to the public internet should be things that you are OK with your
wife seeing, your grandparents seeing...
Your vision of the public internet sounds incredibly dry and boring to me. Where does a place like 4chan fit into your world? What about a Carlin standup routine? South Park? I like the idea that I can go on a social network site and talk smack with friends the same way I do in real life. I like the idea that places exist where people can talk about whatever they damn well please, and if anyone else doesn't like it, they are free not to listen, regardless of their meatspace background.
Indeed, that seems like the only idea that scales.
I'm curious why you call out minority rights groups.
You misread. I wasn't "calling out" anyone, I was saying that it's socially unacceptable to call out a minority rights group for behaving badly if and when they do, because then you are seen as the enemy of wh...
I trust you that he said this, but that doesn't mean he represents the whole industry or even a significant part; that's a ridiculous conclusion for you to draw. I've never heard anything like this.
I think this article radically blurs the line between personal and professional space. Is the entire gem repository a professional space or a personal space? To my mind it's a bit of both. If you believe that self-expression is allowed in software development then I see no reason to constrict the entire space of gem names to those allowed in the author's conception of the professional realm. That's just silly.
To further extrapolate from the a small sample of the gem names to an overall problem in the software community is again a problem. I don't think gem names are the reason women are uncomfortable in tech - I don't even necessarily believe that sexism is an endemic problem. I do believe there's a gender bias in technology - the numbers are undeniable. However, I still don't necessarily buy that this is due to sexism. There are plenty of other potential reasons there are fewer women in tech than just sexism - social conditioning, selection bias, people in tech are perceived/portrayed as socially awkward, etc.
I completely agree that it's the combination of social conditioning, selection bias, etc that contribute to gender bias. But you can't just throw up your hands and accept the status quo because it's ingrained in our society.
Well aware of the concept of patriarchy and the literature on the topic. No one's throwing their hands up. I just thought the article was terribly reductionist. All we can really say is "the activity of software development mirrors trends in the society it occurs within". Not really something earth shattering or sensational.
Some of those aren't even bad words like "therapist" and "hoe", and "ASS" appears to just be a poorly chosen acronym. "childlabor" doesn't offend any specific group and the name makes sense in context ("ChildLabor is a gem that helps manage child processes.")
Some of the other links don't even lead to anything. And I'm not sure why it's considered an issue that a few people name things after cuss words, but that's just me. And inappropriateness aside, since when are words like "fuck" or "sex" offensive to women, specifically?
And yet he freely uses the word "asshole". Which is a bit excessive to say the least for people merely using inappropriate words.
And then the whole "Oh no he said 'porn star', he must hate women!" What on Earth?
Hoe is a garden implement. I'm really surprised that the author included it in the group. Specifically, the hoe gem is a tool for building gems. The utility uses other farming/hoeing metaphors like sow.
I can't get behind you on the 'porn star' debacle. The vast majority of non-gay, male-oriented porn is horrifically misogynistic. I have a lot of respect for Matt as a Rubyist, but that choice was a poor one. I'm not suggesting we put him up on the cross here, but we should all be prepared to acknowledge the truths about pornography and what it means to incorporate that in to what is supposed to be a professional education experience.
You can say the name was inappropriate, to suggest it was sexist is ridiculous though. And the world is moving beyond the whole "porn is a sin" garbage.
A few months back, while sitting in another company-wide, mandatory sexual harassment seminar, I figured that, for 90% of the audience, the entire presentation could be replaced with a single side: "Don't be an asshole."
However, as I read about more and more of these type of incidents, 90% might be somewhat high.
Jesus, seriously? Rubygems has 64,000 gems and as far as I know, there's no policy to give gems prior review. So the fact that a few people over the years have decided to troll Rubygems lack of Apple-like barrier means that the Ruby community has a sexism problem? That, and something that happened in 2008?
Yes, and of course the horrible incident that was blogged about this weekend. But that was not a Ruby thing...that was an alcohol-fueled bar scene with a supervisor who egregiously abused his power. But what about that situation makes it specifically a Ruby thing? That it doesn't happen at any other kind of conference? Talk about being isolated in your own world...
This is not to say that sexism and sexual harassment isn't a problem. No, in fact, I believe they continue to be a much more massive problem than the oP's incidents can begin to describe. But it's not about Ruby or the Ruby community in particular, and by viewing it as such, you narrow the range of social action and awareness needed to combat the problem.
It's almost entirely analogous in my mind to the idea that because there are books that perhaps feature words like "sex" and "miniskirts" that this is offensive, the entire author community is broken, and this is why women don't read books! GUYS GUYS, we absolutely need to start censoring what people can write about! FYI, I think we should all base our moral code on the American christian values...just sayin'!
Here's an idea - women aren't all delicate flowers you need to white-knight on the internet. They can handle seeing words like "bj" and "shag".
Official downloads from official websites probably should have a filter. I don't see those names as useful. They are a dark pattern, forcing you to click on the package because the name gives you no hint as to their function. If a cop plants evidence why discuss his choice of cocaine over heroin?
Peer pressure = bullying.
I think the best strategy for raising the bar of acceptable behavior is the same as fighting vandalism. Create wide open spaces, keep them clean and orderly, make positive improvements and point people to those places. Spray painting a neon star around every broken window (these blog posts lately) does the opposite of help. From what i understand, RailsGirls has the right idea.
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[ 16.0 ms ] story [ 487 ms ] threadIt seems to me that there's generally about one very high profile incident every other month or so involving sexism within the developer (generally specifically web-dev, and primarily RoR) community.
The fact that so many high-profile incidents exist is a sign that there's plenty of work to be done, but a lack of attention is hardly the problem.
[0]: https://www.facebook.com/aaron.a78/posts/635104079844426 [1]: imgur version for non-facebookers http://imgur.com/kKVmGKm
Claiming that a man asking that people not be immature assholes means that "a progressive movement is being coopted by women who want to make it about their vagina" is pretty much a textbook example of misogyny.
Claiming that software engineering is a "male space" (so, what, do that make the female software engineers I work with some kind of intruders on my "male space"?) is also a textbook example of misogyny.
What is it going to take for you to accept that this guy is a misogynist? Actually physically harming women? There are a lot more ways to spread fear, distrust, and hatred than just physical harm.
Of course, you can always parse semantics apart and say "well, he didn't say all women". That's not the point; misogyny doesn't require that you qualify all hateful statements to include every woman in existence. But that quote, in response to a man asking if we could be nicer and more inclusive, definitely states a fairly contemptuous attitude towards women.
It has no such valid point.No one is coming into the Ruby community, or the programming community, and trying to make it "all about their vagina". In fact, they're asking the opposite; that there's less emphasis placed on their vagina, and more on their code.
And calling programming a "male space" is inherently exclusionary. He is dismissing in one fell swoop all of the women who do code, who are part of the community.
Asking that people be nicer, and maybe consider the effect that gems named "rape_me" and "retarded" might not really reflect well on a community, with a defensive knee-jerk reaction about "politically correct thought-police safe spaces" is not a "valid point".
>And calling programming a "male space" is inherently exclusionary.
No, it's a statement of fact. The US Marines is a male space. Oops, am I a bad little misogynist now?
>Asking that people be nicer, and maybe consider the effect that gems named "rape_me" and "retarded" might not really reflect well on a community, with a defensive knee-jerk reaction about "politically correct thought-police safe spaces" is not a "valid point".
Yes, it is. If it's invalid, then by all means invalidate it for me.
>No one is coming into the Ruby community, or the programming community, and trying to make it "all about their vagina". In fact, they're asking the opposite; that there's less emphasis placed on their vagina, and more on their code.
I don't hang out with Rubyists. I don't care about Ruby. It's a bad language, for a start. In the general programming field there are plenty of people spending lots of time trying to boost the status of women and institute PC memes. Do you deny this?
Now, it's true that as of now in the US, women have not been put directly into combat roles. Combat battalions are still exclusively male spaces. Of course, that doesn't mean that women haven't been involved in combat; sometimes they have by accident, or in many cases they have through loopholes or trial programs like the Marine Corps Lioness's program.
Stating that the programming profession is male dominated is a statement of fact. Stating that people are trying to "co-opt male spaces" by being more inclusive of women is misogynist. Talking about co-opting male spaces implies that it's something that men have the right to and women to not; that something is being taken away from men by making it friendlier for women to join. That implies that either women in the space are bad, or being friendlier and making them feel more comfortable is bad, either of which can accurately be described as misogynist.
Thought police must be, well, police. Even if you want to speak metaphorically, they must be someone with some kind of coercive power to apply rules that are designed to shape how people think.The original author was simply pointing out some examples of bad behavior, and saying "hey, this doesn't make you cool, it makes you an asshole". He mused about whether RubyGems should ban them, but then said this was unrealistic.
On the other hand, Aaron Ashworth threatened to and then did ban him from the Ruby Facebook group. So if you're looking for "thought police", that qualifies more than criticizing some people for childish names.
So, I've invalidated the point. Will you now admit that the point was not valid, and that the nasty behavior (accusing women of making it "all about their vaginas") was simply nasty behavior for the sake of being nasty, and not because there was a valid point?
And don't try to tell me something along the lines of "well, maybe he didn't have a valid point about this particular post, but it is a real problem." If you want to discuss real problem, you should discuss real problems, not lash about about vaginas and thought police.
Sure, let's forget about Ruby for the moment. There are some people spending lots of time trying to boost the status of women, yes. I'm not sure I'd say "lots of people" relative to the size of the community. Most people mind their own business and don't really act one way or another. Some people act aggressively negatively. Some people act more dismissively negatively.I have no idea what you mean by "institute PC memes". The phrase "PC" is thrown around to refer to so many things, and tar so many thing with whatever bad reputation that it's supposed to have, that I'm never really sure what people mean w...
Perhaps people should be encouraged to stop assigning value to other people based on nothing more than their visibility. Maybe, instead, assign value to the content of their work, be it code, blog posts, presentations, etc.
Someone who starts or runs a forum is just that. They are not a [thought|community|whatever] leader or spokesperson, however much they may think themselves so.
This is just intellectual laziness. These people represent no one but themselves, and people should stop suggesting otherwise.
Check your privilege, dude.
"Check your privilege" is virtually never a helpful thing to say.
I can see from your other comment on this thread that further discussion on this with you would be an uphill one so I'm signing off now.
I don't like the word "hypocritical" though, because it implies that contradicting oneself like that is the moral failing of an individual. But really, we all contradict ourselves all the time, and we don't even realise it. These types of contradictions are interesting not because they show that the person who makes them is bad or stupid, but because they reveal the ideologies that structure their thoughts, behaviours and actions, and the contradictions embedded therein. In fact "ideology" itself can be thought of as a kind of blindness to contradictions.
In this particular case, the admin guy is probably not stupid. I'm sure he sees the contradiction in (p ^ ¬p). But he also is a man, and obviously feels threatened by feminism because it seeks to take away his male privilege (in this case, the right to be misogynist without anybody else complaining^), and thus is motivated by ideology to defend his male privilege. This ideology is powerful enough that he can blatantly contradict himself and not even see that he's done so.
^ I know the admin guy wasn't misogynist himself, or at least the original article wasn't about his misogyny, I am just saying that male privilege generally grants men the right to be misogynist without anybody else complaining (certainly in the "male spaces" that the admin guy is talking about), and feminism threatens to take that right away from him.
Or rather than a bunch of dudes blogging about how to fix the problem, we listen to the women for once and not treat them like a tiny snowflake, ready to melt if they read the word fuck. Christ almighty. Nothing perpetuates this sort of shit more than male voices of authority saying "women can't handle a gem named 'bj'! We're assholes if we let it stand!"
[1]: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5H5r4_CoJo
Edit: Good, this pile of shit got flagged off HN.
Smoked a cigarette with the woman in question later that day and she basically rolled her eyes about it.
"However, I really don't appreciate the co-opting of male spaces (i.e. software engineering) in to some politically correct thought police "safe space"."
I'm amazed that someone would say this.
I don't know about you guys, but I don't want software engineering to be a "male space." I didn't start programming because I wanted to spend the rest of my life being surrounded by mostly dudes.
This just really struck me because a lot of people say things like "I don't think software engineering is hostile to women." This guy, on the other hand, says "software engineering is unfriendly to women and I like it that way."
I am curious, if my theory was wrong, why you tend to believe that people are joking about being bigoted when it is so likely that they are not.
Obviously, you are not ignoring "what he said". That's a given, since you're talking about his post. But you're not addressing the point (that was the sense used, and I'm shocked you lack the common sense to understand this). Rather, you're engaging in gossip about whether he hates women. You even went as far as digging up another comment he made at another time to gossip about his attitude. You are the "Thought Police" this guy is talking about.
>Sorry, but I'm not having a conversation about activism right now - I'm talking about how inappropriate this guys comment was.
And so the backpedaling begins. Now you're concerned about how "inappropriate" it was. Note the misdirection, where suddenly you dial down the heavyweight accusations of "misogyny" and Internet detective work to look more reasonable at a tactically opportune moment. It's all about how "appropriate" the comment was. Unfortunately for you he is the administrator of the group in question and he (and Facebook and any other administrators) get to decide what is "appropriate" there. What you are really doing (ignoring your little tactical retreat) is trying to tie the essential point of the post to a hatred of women. Which note is not the same thing as whether the poster himself hates women.
>If my manager stands up on the conference table peeing while presenting the annual sales figures, it is not a 'defense mechanism' for me to respond by objecting to his pee instead of talking about the sales figures.
Bad analogy. The forum on which the post was made isn't yours to police, and his actions aren't equivalent to pissing on the table, which is a health hazard and a far more egregious social violation than saying some mean things on the Internet. Further, you have employed the same tactics against me by bringing my tendencies and background into question.
>I am curious, if my theory was wrong, why you tend to believe that people are joking about being bigoted when it is so likely that they are not.
A more interesting question is how you know how I "tend" from a sample of one. Just think how this power could be used for the good of mankind!
I'm shocked that you don't seem to realise that this isn't a discussion about some random facebook group and whether the owner thereof is allowed to be a giant asshole. The point of the post was about hatred and rejection of women in software engineering, and this comment was one example of it being a real thing, frequently denied all over HN. And when a bunch of HNers came in and said 'he didn't mean that, he was just trolling the stupid PC SJ types, I'm sure he wants women to be in software engineering just without being activists about it' (not quoting you) the evidence of his other postings, showing a consistent worldview of hatred of women, was relevant.
If I thought that forum were somewhere I could police, don't you think I'd be over there policing it? However I don't think anything of the sort, so in fact I'm on here discussing it. If you don't think that we should be discussing his comment, feel free to not be part of it.
I'm sorry if I over generalised your habits from your behaviour. If you don't normally give the benefit of the doubt to people displaying bigoted behaviour, why did you do so in this case?
Nope. It was a valid comment directed at a little PC warrior. Possibly from an unsavory character with malignant motives - as you keep repeating - but that isn't of interest. Further, my reply - from which your whole conversation with me spawns, and therefore constitutes the topic of this subthread (the one involving you and me) - was commenting on the reaction of people to the post itself which was a valid observation. Your contention that it is offensive and comes from someone you don't like is of no interest to me. The content of the post was not hateful toward women, even if the author is (itself dubious on a troll-filled Internet). Perhaps if you'd bothered reading what I say instead of firing off scattershot self-righteousness you'd have gotten somewhere in this thread.
>And when a bunch of HNers came in and said 'he didn't mean that, he was just trolling the stupid PC SJ types, I'm sure he wants women to be in software engineering ...
Please limit yourself to what I said in the parents, since that is what you are replying to. It's enough work to get you to read my own posts for comprehension without taking on the additional burden of defending other people in the thread who you _imagine_ share common ground with me.
>I'm sorry if I over generalised your habits from your behaviour. If you don't normally give the benefit of the doubt to people displaying bigoted behaviour, why did you do so in this case?
I don't agree that the post displayed bigoted behavior. The only reason to think the comment comes from a hatred of women is from information that you dug up. I'm not interested in digging up bullshit this guy might have said elsewhere, therefore there was no reason for me to think that's where it came from. I don't care if he's a _child molester_. He may or may not be any number of things.
The fact that you apologise for over-generalising shows that you missed the point, which is not that you affronted me by over-generalising, but that you destroyed the discussion and wasted my time by going on about my personality and the personality of the person who made the original post. And you're still doing it!
https://www.facebook.com/aaron.a78/posts/635104079844426
This was in response to a man asking that people not act like assholes and name things immature sexual names.
There was no point here. He was just lashing out at something he's afraid of and frustrated by. Asking that people act nicer does not make something a "politically correct thought police 'safe space'". And claiming that asking that people act nicer is "co-opting of male spaces" is a pretty pathetic attempt to play the victim card while simultaneously trying to exclude and marginalize women who have contributed tons to the tech industry.
It's an outburst. So what? Maybe it's humor, maybe he has some kind of pathological issue with women. It doesn't matter because there is a valid point being completely ignored so people can moan about how "women unfriendly" the post is.
>What is that even supposed to mean? How is the ruby community a "progressive movement"
Firstly, I don't think the Ruby movement is progressive, mostly because it's a shitty language. Secondly, the point is not whether Ruby is or is not progressive. Even if you accept that it's a retrogressive movement his point stands because it is a general one.
>There was no point here. He was just lashing out at something he's afraid of and frustrated by.
I beg to differ. There is a real trend of PC activism aiming to protect sensitive little flowers of various kinds against offense. Your attempt to psychologise the guy is just a cheap tactic to avoid this point.
>Asking that people act nicer does not make something a "politically correct thought police 'safe space'".
The hidden (and incorrect) assumption here is that this is unconnected to PC activism.
>And claiming that asking that people act nicer is "co-opting of male spaces" is a pretty pathetic attempt to play the victim card while simultaneously trying to exclude and marginalize women who have contributed tons to the tech industry.
"Pathetic", "margenalize", "afraid", "exclude", etc. And you say this is unconnected to PC activism? His post didn't marginalize anyone. It was making a fairly specific point that your defense mechanisms are preventing you from seeing.
I will welcome debate about how much needs to be codified; I hate policies that say "you can't use these X words" as the next guy. But a lot of what people rail about as being "PC activism" is just like this; asking that people be a little more considerate in naming package they're putting into a public repository.
So, what's an appropriate reaction to this post? Maybe to say "OK, listing 'hoe' in there is overkill, that's just being used as a pun on 'rake'." Or maybe saying "hmm, I'm not sure how useful it is to ask people to be nicer while calling them assholes."
What's not an appropriate reaction? Talking about vaginas and male spaces and banning someone who just made a request to be nicer and listed a few examples of the kind of behavior they were talking about.
Yes, you speculated on his mental state quite extensively. Quoting you: "He was just lashing out at something he's afraid of and frustrated by."
>He made a flat-out misogynistic comment.
Sorry, he did nothing of the sort. He made the astute point that women tend to co-opt spaces established by men using activism. Do you deny this?
>Apparently asking people to act nice is now "PC activism".
Nope. Again, it's not just "asking people to be nice", it's a concerted, long-term effort to insert PC memes under the guide of being a nice person.
>But it only takes a single comment of someone calling someone else a "nigger" in an attempt to demean and exclude them before you can call someone a racist.
Nope. People say all sorts of things in anger, and this kind of thinking is exactly the kind of PC stupidity that is becoming a concern.
>Talking about vaginas and male spaces and banning someone who just made a request to be nicer and listed a few examples of the kind of behavior they were talking about.
What's your point here, exactly? That his ban was too harsh? Got anything to say about PC activism (you know, the thing that we were talking about)?
>So, what's an appropriate reaction to this post?
Oh, piss off you moist wanker. Did you stop to think that maybe it's not your job to tell other people how to communicate with others?
I completely agree, as a white dude having to worry about the way in which people receive my communication is just so unfair. I mean I call one guy a nigger and all of a sudden I'm racist. I'm not, I was just angry. Admittedly angry enough to call on centuries of historical context and language coached in violence to point out the lower social status of someone. But that's not racist.
It's not your job to tell people how to communicate with others. But it entirely your responsibility to communicate with people in the way they wish to be communicated with, if you want to be heard. This isn't about being PC, it's about not being exclusionary to 50% of the population. Women are not going to want to work with you if you're not willing to be inclusive.
Piss off you moist wanker. Did you stop to think that what you consider PC, other people might consider legitimately offensive? Did you ever stop to think it's not your job to tell women what they're allowed to be offended by? It's honestly pretty impressive that you consider someone expressing their discomfort with sexist language to be worse than the sexist language itself.
The whole concept of 'male space' is a big troll
Dismissing someone by comparing a man who is asking for there to be less sexualized and derogatory language in a community to "women who want to make it all about their vagina" is nonsense on several axes. For one, the person he was attacking is a man. For another, the whole point of the argument is for it to be less about vaginas, or other sexual differences. Bringing up sex (and especially in violent and derogatory terms, like rape-me and recursive_pimp_slap) can make an environment uncomfortable for people who already feel marginalized in a community.
The poster may well be hostile toward women. But his post here contains a valid point about activism in the computing field.
I'm not sure I see the valid point though.
Now what is a "male space"? The military? No, women are on the front lines. Finance? No, a woman is about to become the first Chairman of the Fed. Politics? No, we have 20 female US Senators and a viable Presidential candidate. Professional sports? No, women have their own leagues, and several men's teams have female execs. Software Engineering???
Given that Elad's reaction was to run here and post it, I'd say it worked. Most successful and subtle troll I've seen in a long time.
The definition of trolling is pretty nebulous, by the way; one could make that case that you attempted to troll me by calling me pre-pubescent, and hoped for me to lower myself to your level.
1. I don't maintain a Facebook account because it's either family bickering and arguing, spam I don't give a shit about, arguments I don't give a shit about, or trolling. What some guy says on Facebook concerns me absolutely zero and it is completely not worth my time. So no, I won't be reading his timeline. Because I can't log in.
I'm good friends with someone who is an absolutely face-blistering troll on Stormfront; everything he says online has to be part of his "act," if you will, so it would surprise me very little if this guy's entire Facebook schtick is keeping up his act. Welcome to the Internet.
2. I hope you read my other comment and stop treating women like they need to be protected from everything, because you perpetuate exactly what you hope to destroy with a blog post like this.
3. You got the pants trolled off you and want to argue about it with someone, and no, it's not going to be me. And now that your thread's been deleted from HN, it's not going to be anybody else here, either. Seriously, your reaction to the guy's post is absolutely comical given that you were being trolled, and is exactly what he wants you to do. Plus, now you've given him an excuse to ban you.
I'm going to add a fourth thing:
4. You've spent more of your life talking to that guy, me, HN, and your blog's readers about this topic than you should have, by a mile. Focus on things that can actually make a difference, like listening to what women want to see change in the industry instead of projecting your penis onto the industry from a position of male authority.
Trolling is a loosely defined term, but most definitions agree that it is a tactic whose primary purpose is to "get a rise" out of someone. The method used to accomplish this here (in the FB post) is to use language becoming of an asshole. Impersonating an asshole as a rhetorical strategy seems like an act doomed to fail.
I have no appreciation for trolling as a rhetorical device. It belongs in the bin with other disingenuous debate techniques. There are, I think we can all agree, far better, more honest methods of making one's point.
Strongly Agree.
I'm probably kicking a hornet's nest here, probably because I'm going to word this in a way that gives an impression I do not actually have, so, fair warning. I ask you to give me the benefit of the doubt here that I'm not, in fact, a bigoted sociopath.
This guy, on the other hand, says "software engineering is hostile to women and I like it that way."That's not what I gathered from that post.
I read it as an understandable (note: understandable means comprehend-able, not acceptable or appropriate) overreaction to a certain faction of extremists who want the focus to become about feelings and PC rather than doing cool things and getting shit done. To an extent, I sympathize with those who are scandalized when they hear the whinging about a Torvalds rant on the kernel lists, or the extended brouhaha from the "donglegate" thing from earlier in the year. Such things come off very much as an attempt to hijack or attack the culture.
Two questions.
At what point is it socially acceptable to express exasperation with a group of people who ostensibly have noble goals, but then cause damage while they're at it? (Note: same answer has to apply to pretty much any '$minority rights' group behaving badly)
At what point is "this is not a 'safe' space, (not in that people are going to go out of their way to offend you, but in that people have better things to spend their time on than measuring their every word for the slightest hint of '$ism'), so you may hear things that offend you, and how you choose to interpret and deal with that is entirely on you" ...an acceptable response?
I don't know, am I the only person that enjoys the somewhat acerbic nature of software engineering on the internet and doesn't want it to change all that much?I think the part of this post that really jumped out at me was "male space." Maybe I misinterpreted, but when I read that it came off to me as a club where there are insiders and outsiders.
If he had left out the "male space" part, I would have probably assumed he meant something more like what you were saying.
On the other hand, being more inviting has advantages both selfish (more women around, good for both social reasons and for their talent) and moral (giving opportunity to women, and anyone who isn't into caustic banter, for that matter). If you love programming, imagine being deprived of it because you felt unwelcome in programming circles. I think it's kind of wrong for those of us in places of leadership to deny opportunity to people for the benefit of our fun.
After all, obvious sexist drama bullshit is certainly a distraction from any business of real interest. But this is not the same thing as someone yelling about privilege.
There may be a few extremists out there, but not many. What you see lots more are people who are tone deaf and make problems worse by going around and yelling "you're racist/sexist/homophobic", "no, you're a feminazi/PC", and on and on without ever really getting anywhere. Most of those people (on either side) aren't extremists, they're just caught in the internet spiral of hate. But just because some people go overboard on the internet spiral of hate that simply amplifies problems, doesn't mean that there aren't some real problems.
So, responding to someone who says "rape-me is not an acceptable name for a gem" with such rhetoric is instantly escalating that internet spiral of hate for no reason. Lumping people who have legitimate complaints, like "let's not have rape references in our public software repositories" or "let's try not to sexually assault people at conferences" with "extremists" is a way of dismissing those legitimate concerns and simultaneously escalating the rhetoric to the point where nothing useful will come of it.
These are two very different issues. One is a question of whether it's a good idea to chastise your collaborators so strongly on a public list, or whether there could be more polite ways to make your opinions known. It didn't really have any kind of discriminatory or sexist content, simply a question of the best way to encourage good practices and discourage bad ones.The other is somewhat more relevant. It's an example of puerile humor, in a private conversation that happened to be in a public place (at least, as far as I've been able to gather). I found that it seemed to be an excessive attempt to shame people for behavior that was, as far as I can tell, supposed to be private, but was in a public place so other people could overhear it. I think that there is some reasonable debate to be had over what kind of behavior is appropriate in a public space where you can be overheard, but that there was an overreaction to it, since it was private behavior. However, the internet spiral of hate wound up blowing the whole thing out of control, in part because there are so many people who are so sensitive on both sides of these issues, and it went way beyond anything it should have.
Here's the thing. Donglegate could have been someone pointing out behavior that she considered inappropriate, and people could have taken that to heart and moved on. But lots of people overreacted. Posting people's pictures online publicly, rather than either talking to them yourself or letting PyCon staff talk to them, was an overreaction. Firing one of the people involved in the conversation was an overreaction. Firing Adria Richards was probably an overreaction, though at that point she had shown herself to be divisive enough to not be very good at community building. Sending her death threats and calling...
It's politically correct, insensitive, and probably a lot of other things, I think pretty much everyone, including the guy who wrote the gem, could agree on that. Now what do you suggest we do about it, if anything?
Hemming and hawing and "How could they!"-ing not only accomplishes nothing in the great majority of cases, it turns people off of whatever valuable input you might have. Put another way, I don't think a way exists to say "This isn't PC" without coming off as a PC crusader.
Ok wait a second here. With all due respect, that is completely and utterly your opinion and not any kind of objective fact. All I said were that loud extremists exist (something you appear to agree with me on), and implied that they are unpleasant to deal with and cause more problems than they solve. That's not how I've seen the term used, unless you expand out "respect that" you mean "police their speech and avoid offending anyone". Only if you accept the social justice definition of "safe", meaning "you absolutely will not have your feelings hurt here, and we'll smack anyone that does so.". What if the feelings of other people are not of primary (or secondary, or...) concern of your particular group? What if I do want someone in this space, but I expect them to be able to brush off some amount of non-PC dialogue because it's quite frankly not all that important to the group's goals? Is that expectation wrong? (Or worse, evil?) Your vision of the public internet sounds incredibly dry and boring to me. Where does a place like 4chan fit into your world? What about a Carlin standup routine? South Park? I like the idea that I can go on a social network site and talk smack with friends the same way I do in real life. I like the idea that places exist where people can talk about whatever they damn well please, and if anyone else doesn't like it, they are free not to listen, regardless of their meatspace background.Indeed, that seems like the only idea that scales.
You misread. I wasn't "calling out" anyone, I was saying that it's socially unacceptable to call out a minority rights group for behaving badly if and when they do, because then you are seen as the enemy of wh...To further extrapolate from the a small sample of the gem names to an overall problem in the software community is again a problem. I don't think gem names are the reason women are uncomfortable in tech - I don't even necessarily believe that sexism is an endemic problem. I do believe there's a gender bias in technology - the numbers are undeniable. However, I still don't necessarily buy that this is due to sexism. There are plenty of other potential reasons there are fewer women in tech than just sexism - social conditioning, selection bias, people in tech are perceived/portrayed as socially awkward, etc.
The sad thing is women have been talking about this for decades, and no one wants to listen (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patriarchy#Biological_vs._socia...).
Some of the other links don't even lead to anything. And I'm not sure why it's considered an issue that a few people name things after cuss words, but that's just me. And inappropriateness aside, since when are words like "fuck" or "sex" offensive to women, specifically?
And yet he freely uses the word "asshole". Which is a bit excessive to say the least for people merely using inappropriate words.
And then the whole "Oh no he said 'porn star', he must hate women!" What on Earth?
I can't get behind you on the 'porn star' debacle. The vast majority of non-gay, male-oriented porn is horrifically misogynistic. I have a lot of respect for Matt as a Rubyist, but that choice was a poor one. I'm not suggesting we put him up on the cross here, but we should all be prepared to acknowledge the truths about pornography and what it means to incorporate that in to what is supposed to be a professional education experience.
However, as I read about more and more of these type of incidents, 90% might be somewhat high.
Yes, and of course the horrible incident that was blogged about this weekend. But that was not a Ruby thing...that was an alcohol-fueled bar scene with a supervisor who egregiously abused his power. But what about that situation makes it specifically a Ruby thing? That it doesn't happen at any other kind of conference? Talk about being isolated in your own world...
This is not to say that sexism and sexual harassment isn't a problem. No, in fact, I believe they continue to be a much more massive problem than the oP's incidents can begin to describe. But it's not about Ruby or the Ruby community in particular, and by viewing it as such, you narrow the range of social action and awareness needed to combat the problem.
It's almost entirely analogous in my mind to the idea that because there are books that perhaps feature words like "sex" and "miniskirts" that this is offensive, the entire author community is broken, and this is why women don't read books! GUYS GUYS, we absolutely need to start censoring what people can write about! FYI, I think we should all base our moral code on the American christian values...just sayin'!
Here's an idea - women aren't all delicate flowers you need to white-knight on the internet. They can handle seeing words like "bj" and "shag".
It seems that men complain about the lack of women in computing more than women do.
When did trolling become a social justice issue suddenly?
Peer pressure = bullying.
I think the best strategy for raising the bar of acceptable behavior is the same as fighting vandalism. Create wide open spaces, keep them clean and orderly, make positive improvements and point people to those places. Spray painting a neon star around every broken window (these blog posts lately) does the opposite of help. From what i understand, RailsGirls has the right idea.