Ask HN: Is it inappropriate to ask why I was rejected from a job?

Dont expect to hear a valid response :) but I see no reason why you should ask (as long as you phrase it in the right way).

For sure. Keeping the channels open is always good, and to ask for the reason for your refusal is a great way to do so, as well as a chance to learn some more about the whole process.

Not all companies would respond to such a request though, because they're afraid that if you get your reason you will sue them under some equal opportunity rule or some such, so be prepared that you will not get an answer, or make it clear in your request somehow without laying it on too thick that you are asking out of curiosity.

What have you got to lose?

I've always asked. The worst they can do is not respond.

I asked once and they offered me a job with a shorter period. I asked once again for another position and the feedback they gave me was really helpful. So, I totally would ask.

Sure, ask, but ask right -- and "why was I rejected" is probably wrong.

In all likelihood, you weren't 'rejected' as much as someone else was 'selected' as being better matched to their needs.

So the proper, non-neurotic way to ask would be something like: "Thanks for your consideration. I was very enthusiastic about your position and it's still the kind of job I'd like to find. Can you share with me any ways I could be a better candidate for similar positions in the future?"

This gives the best chance they'll mention a couple things important in their evaluation where you could improve. (If you're really lucky, they may mention the exact things that caused them to prefer someone else.)

Also: don't take it personally if they say little, if at all. A sentence or two may be the most to hope for unless you have a strong relationship with an insider. Most organizations are risk-averse in hiring and being too detailed in a "sorry, you're not hired" explanation risks triggering resentment, argument, possibly even a lawsuit.

I got two rejections when on the job hunt: one told me that their policy was to not discuss the reason any candidate was rejected and the other gave me very general reasons that I didn't find helpful (and were probably chosen by the recruiter because they weren't actionable). Even though they weren't very usueful, in neither case did it make anything worse, so I say go for it.

asking is fine, but if the company is more than just one guy, don't expect them to answer. From what I understand, it's a liability matter; telling someone why they weren't hired can get the employer in a lot of hot water if the reason was a questionable one.

But really, you should treat it a lot like dating; even an attractive person is going to need to ask several attractive members of the appropriate sex before finding someone for whom the feeling is mutual.

In either case, don't take rejection too hard; there are plenty of fish in the sea. Again, extending the dating metaphor, it's considered better to find yourself someone who likes who you happen to be than to try to modify yourself to a particular person's preferences. Sure, improve yourself, but improve yourself in general rather than just bending to the preferences of one entity.

Ask but as another has mentioned, ask what you can do to make yourself a better candidate for that type of position.

But realize that it is only one company and might not reflect reality in other companies. Better to ask many people what they are looking for in co-workers and employees.