But yes, it would be wise for people to not believe that they are a special and unique snowflake who will succeed no matter what in the face of adversity...the world just doesn't work like that.
I guess you could say shoot for the stars, but stay realistic.
Or for that matter anyone who tried to achieve the impossible.
But not all rejections are equal. Some rejections happen because the people at the other end just can't comprehend the very nature of what you are trying to do. Edison's, Wright brother's, Tesla's of the world belong to this category. The world is so disconnected and attached to the ordinary, merely the sight something different makes people look at skeptically at your pursuits.
And there are some rejections where clearly the person isn't taking a glaringly obvious feedback given to them. Due to ego, arrogance or pure foolishness.
From my back of the envelope calculation, you should be getting rejected at a minimum 1/e ~36% (that's the failure rate due to random chance in a perfect system).
Max rejection rate cannot be found due to a tendency to infinity.
Key takeaway - don't let your failure rate get below 36%.
It's not about rejection rates. It's about what you learn, and the progress. Numbers (of this sort) don't matter.
Learning tends to happen when things don't go as you expected they would. Unexpected good and bad events can have that effect.
Rejection and failure don't have intrinsic merit, and I've seen plenty of people (with the luxury to fail, due to trust funds or connections or whatever) who continually fail and don't grow. But if you never fail-- of course, there are degrees of failure and total failure is uncommon and still undesirable-- you're probably taking too few risks.
This also applies for the job market — if you got an offer with few interviews and little negotiation, you should've asked for more / applied for something more challenging.
This made my day. Got rejected twice yesterday by funding leads I that looked promising. One told me, the best I can do for you is be brutally honest and spent almost an hour dissecting my business to shreds. The other said "I think you are a great guy and I am sure it will turns out well" with a chuckle, but told the guy who gave me the brutal feed back how effed up my plan was.
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At some point you have to have some sort of breakthrough or you're just the guy that got rejected 1,000 times.
But yes, it would be wise for people to not believe that they are a special and unique snowflake who will succeed no matter what in the face of adversity...the world just doesn't work like that.
I guess you could say shoot for the stars, but stay realistic.
Or for that matter anyone who tried to achieve the impossible.
But not all rejections are equal. Some rejections happen because the people at the other end just can't comprehend the very nature of what you are trying to do. Edison's, Wright brother's, Tesla's of the world belong to this category. The world is so disconnected and attached to the ordinary, merely the sight something different makes people look at skeptically at your pursuits.
And there are some rejections where clearly the person isn't taking a glaringly obvious feedback given to them. Due to ego, arrogance or pure foolishness.
Max rejection rate cannot be found due to a tendency to infinity.
Key takeaway - don't let your failure rate get below 36%.
Learning tends to happen when things don't go as you expected they would. Unexpected good and bad events can have that effect.
Rejection and failure don't have intrinsic merit, and I've seen plenty of people (with the luxury to fail, due to trust funds or connections or whatever) who continually fail and don't grow. But if you never fail-- of course, there are degrees of failure and total failure is uncommon and still undesirable-- you're probably taking too few risks.
"People that reject me are doing me a favor.
They're not rejecting me or my product. They're rejecting the combination of me and them together.
They're telling me we would have a bad relationship. And they're probably right."
That definitely still sound like rejection.
If you downvote this, you're not actually rejecting the comment but just a combination of you and this comment.