Ask HN: Are you a drinker or a teetotaler?
I was a daily drinker, mainly beer, I live in Belgium.
But I turned into a `teetotaler` for few weeks already, and I intend to stay this way for a while. I'm curious how you guys are coping with the booze or the lack of it.
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Coping with booze for me is a matter of 'everything in moderation'. I can thoroughly enjoy a good beer or whisky, but I know that enjoyment is enhanced by spacing that out. I'm also quite frightened of dependence, but not enough to stop drinking altogether.
If you can you should do this as a poll: http://news.ycombinator.com/newpoll
Don't have enough karma to create a poll, there are the two options below as comments
* I got myself some German non-alcoholic beer, to remove alcohol from the equation altogether. This measure is flawed, though, because apparently non-alcoholic beer sucks. In the interest of science, we'll temporarily dismiss this as an excuse from drinkers and move on.
* I went to the Guiness factory in Dublin, and ordered myself a quarter of a pint. This should be a good baseline beer.
Result 1, non-alcoholic beer: it tastes awful. I'd describe it as sparkling tomato juice. Regular drinkers were apparently right.
Result 2, alcoholic beer: it tastes like beer. It turns out I don't like beer.
I don't know what I was hoping to get from this experiment, but there you go. Expect a paper one of these days.
Brewers that don’t approach the problem of leaving the alcohol out of the beer that way end up with what’s basically a somewhat different kind of drink, but one that is also enjoyable on its own merits.
When I'm travelling, I tend to drink quite a bit. You meet lots of people on the road. Lots of them are on vacation. It's Steve's last night. We've got to celebrate.
When I'm back home, I tend not to drink at all. First of all, it's not Steve's last night on the beach anymore. But also it's nice that it's not Steve's last night for once. I also tend to value concentration when I'm home and working. To have a beer is to lose the ability to focus for the rest of the day, which just makes me angry. (Beach Jason doesn't have this problem, since he's not focusing on anything).
Age changes the equation as well. In school, the assumption was that you'd be obliterated every Friday and Saturday night. And likely at least once or twice during the week as well, since hey, it's Taco Tuesday, or Bomber Night at Alex's, or Twice As Drunk Night at Shermer's. It was just what you did.
Again, leaving school after five years of that it was quite novel to have a Saturday arrive and be able to consciously choose not to drink anything at all. That's never happened before! Cool.
Over the years, the novelty just wears off and the effect of alcohol becomes perceived as more of a negative. These days, living in France, I'll still uncork a bottle or two a week out of a sense of duty. (It is, after all, five dollars for a better bottle than they even sell at Albertsons, so it'd be rude not to.) But then it often takes a few nights to finish that bottle. A thought not easily conceived, I bet, by a version of myself 20 years ago.
> I'm curious how you guys are coping with the booze or the lack of it.
The same way I'm coping with the lack of ketchup in my chocolate cookies: I didn't know I was supposed to cope with it.
On a more serious note, I too never feel the urge to drink, but I am however addicted to sugary drinks. Makes me wonder whether there's a connection there.
I'm in my mid-30s and have never drank. I have a lot of reasons for choosing to not drink, but probably the biggest is that I don't like the idea of it affecting my behavior or decision-making (especially because I've seen how it affects OTHER people's behavior and decision-making).
Nevertheless, I've tried to not let it affect my social life. In college, I went to plenty of parties, and it was a bit weird being one of the only sober people in a house full of drunks, but I never felt ostracized because of it. After college, I was one of the organizers of the Four-State Bar Crawl (four bars, four states, one crazy night) -- and naturally, I was one of the designated drivers.
I now work in an office where beer is stocked in the fridge, and most of my colleagues partake. But again, it doesn't really bother me because there's soda stocked too.
Advice for people who were previously drinkers but are now trying to abstain:
* Don't needlessly place yourself in tempting situations.
* If drinking was previously how you relaxed, or had fun, or networked, or socially lubricated yourself ... seek out alternative ways to fill the void. For instance, if beer gave you confidence in social situations, consider attending a Toastmasters International session, which can help you with your contemporaneous speaking skills and boost your confidence.
* Befriend other non-drinkers. We've had a lot of practice at finding ways to have fun without alcohol.
* Seek out support (and accountability) from other people or from groups like AA if it's a real struggle.
The only thing I would add is that for me, in university, I did run into some friction about my choice, from time to time. You'll find that when people are young, making a choice to go against the status quo and being secure about it will bring about all kinds of insecurity in others (e.g. those who are drinking, but only out of peer pressure). It helped me identify who were really my friends (the ones that didn't hassle me about my choices).
When you get older (e.g. out of school), it gets much better as being a non-drinker becomes more acceptable and even admirable for some.
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I went out with some friends that are super-hardcore drinkers and drank too much. Took the train home, but it was rerouted, so I grabbed a Citibike. Hit a pothole. Went over the handlebars. Landed on my head and may have broken a rib. Laid down on the street for a while, and remember thinking that this was probably the end. (I realized a while later that people say they feel really warm when they're dying, but I was really cold. Returned the Citibike and went home.)
Anyway, I don't drink much anymore. I do brew my own beer, though! (And drink that on an occasional basis.)
Don't ever miss drinking and when I am around drinking I am always feeling like I made the right decision.
I drank a good bit during my thirties, in the way of so many 9-5 workers. Then got a little too exuberant around the turn towards forty, probably a combination of "Hey, so this is how it feels to feel good!" + self-medicating for the lingering effects of really bad childhood trauma.
I'm dry as a bone from here on out. Once I got used to the feeling, and once I got into the swing of studying and exercising and fathering, I've increasingly seen the stuff as being generally more treacherous than is commonly assumed. I don't know many people older than 30 who drink regularly and are actually drinking in anything resembling true moderation. And it shows, increasingly as one grows older.
So I actually feel kinda lucky to have figured it out (the semi-hard way) instead of sinking into a life of physical indolence and endless rationalizations. There are a LOT of people who are somewhere in the middle chunk of the spectrum we call "alcoholism", a lot of people with really good jobs who would be a LOT happier right now if they didn't have to obey the rule about "never before 7". It's just the nature of the thing: it tends to make itself more and more important as time goes by.
I do abuse coffee, I think I'm in need of a tolerance break
I'm in Spain.
I was at a bar last night with co-workers, and as long as I have a diet coke or something in my hand I'm okay. Weekly AA meetings keep me on the level, too.
A old co-worker of mine who was more public about his sobriety used to crack the keg at beer busts, reciting the Serenity Prayer over it and telling jokes as he pour cups for everyone else. He had fun with it.
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same here :-/
I don't drink often, but when I'm out with work or some mates, I'll have a couple. I prefer driving though - I hate being a passenger, especially when I've had a few drinks.
Instead of drinking alcohol, I do tend to drink a lot of energy drinks. That's my problem.
I reached a point where drinking as an activity ceased being an interesting hobby.
When my beloved quit three years ago, pretty much any reason to drink socially disappeared and other than a weekend in the mountains with some 9th grade buddies and a beer at a couple of dinner parties I have abstained.
And that's pretty much the essence of it - I tend toward abstaining from alcohol, not teetotaling. I'm fortunate that I can take that approach. Some people have to forswear alcohol completely in order to avoid its potentially destructive side effects.