>I'm not sure what is more insulting: the assumption that any female speaker is automatically available or interested in dating, or that the women wouldn't see right through him.
First:
Without a wedding ring on your finger or knowledge of you dating - it is assumed you are single. This is a society norm because without asking - and it's considered rude to be direct and ask - there is no way to know. Please take note that this works both ways and is not gender discriminatory.
Second:
People are not mind readers. Without trying or asking or bringing the topic up how in the world do you expect them to know you aren't interested in dating? That's simply absurd. Also note that once again, this is not gender discriminatory.
Third:
They didn't 'see right through him'. They happened upon the discovery by chance.
>Unsure what to do, she asked a few other female attendees for advice. What a surprise to discover that the same guy had also contacted them and was playing the same game.
If she had not asked the other attendees for advice - none of them would have known the guy had contacted all of them. That isn't "seeing right through him". I shouldn't have to point out this contradiction. Whatever helps your narrative I guess?
ps. In certain social circles, certain locations, and certain cultures - it can be considered rude to directly ask for a date. Asking indirectly is considered more polite because it makes it easier for the other person to decline without feeling like an ass for saying "No". It relieves them of a certain amount of pressure.
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[ 5.8 ms ] story [ 13.6 ms ] threadFirst:
Without a wedding ring on your finger or knowledge of you dating - it is assumed you are single. This is a society norm because without asking - and it's considered rude to be direct and ask - there is no way to know. Please take note that this works both ways and is not gender discriminatory.
Second:
People are not mind readers. Without trying or asking or bringing the topic up how in the world do you expect them to know you aren't interested in dating? That's simply absurd. Also note that once again, this is not gender discriminatory.
Third:
They didn't 'see right through him'. They happened upon the discovery by chance.
>Unsure what to do, she asked a few other female attendees for advice. What a surprise to discover that the same guy had also contacted them and was playing the same game.
If she had not asked the other attendees for advice - none of them would have known the guy had contacted all of them. That isn't "seeing right through him". I shouldn't have to point out this contradiction. Whatever helps your narrative I guess?
ps. In certain social circles, certain locations, and certain cultures - it can be considered rude to directly ask for a date. Asking indirectly is considered more polite because it makes it easier for the other person to decline without feeling like an ass for saying "No". It relieves them of a certain amount of pressure.