Ask HN: What do you do when you are lethargic?
Sometimes - like today - I am not interested in anything. I just feel lethargic. I walk around, try to sleep, try to work, try to lift some weights... nothing works. I'm just bored. I play computer games and feel bad for wasting time that I could use to build my startup, do sports, plan a holiday or whatever. But I simply find no energy for any of these tasks.
I know that in a day or two I will be full of energy again. Maybe even later on today. But these lethargic moments come often. Once every few days I guess. Any Ideas how to approach this kind of situation?
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[ 2.9 ms ] story [ 116 ms ] threadIsn't weight lifting more like doing a 40m sprint, then slowly walking back to do it again?
Do you really want to go down that road? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKorP55Aqvg
What makes you say this? I always feel fantastic and motivated after a hard session in the gym. I agree that long runs or walks yield more creative thoughts than time in the gym, but few things are as energizing and motivating as successfully grinding out heavy sets of squats or deadlifts.
Thriptic, you didn't bring to the table any thought that isn't criticism... which is fine but you also don't back it up which is what you are criticising this fellow for.
FYI the above is my opinion.
This comment was heavily edited relative to what I responded to
Then focus on diet and exercise.
Living with depression, which causes much of these types of feelings, I've learned not to force anything- as it usually doesn't work. So I just wait for the cycle to move on & am grateful to have energy when I do.
Go for a run? If you don't have the energy to run, go for a walk. If you're not going to do anything during the day, might as well enjoy the sun and visit new places.
Over time you can try to identify things that lengthen lethargic periods, and things that inspire you, and try to build those. However, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being demotivated from time to time. I just see it as a natural recharge time between inspired times.
Some things that I find bring on inspired times:
- Sit around and disconnect from the internet. Boredom is fantastic as a motivational tool.
- Exercise.
- Do nice things for your friends and family. Invite people over for dinner, play board games, mow your grandmothers' lawn. Or just write them a letter.
I work for a government outfit as a programmer and I don't have the cool frameworks to play with, the pool table in the break room, etc. Sometimes you just have to get out of the space for a bit and let your mind wander.
I know it can be really hard to make yourself do it, esp. when you feel down, but after you are done, you will be asking yourself what were you objecting to in the first place.
If you want to learn more about the link between exercise and brain health read "Brain Rules" by Dr. John Medina or watch his Google talk by the same name:
https://youtu.be/IK1nMQq67VI
He also has "Baby Brain Rules" on parenting techniques to help your new baby get a good start (some of the stuff you need to do way before you even get pregnant/decide to have a child).
1. Eat food. Eat good, healthy food on a regular schedule. The willpower center of your brain takes a LOT of calories to run, and if you don't fuel it, you'll find yourself paralyzed by laziness. Make sure the calories you ingest are solid ones - protien, fat, sugar. Not HFCS or other forms of fructose, since it messes with your insulin and makes you feel full even when you aren't.
2) If you are male, check your orgasm and pron consumption. For myself, if I've orgasmed in the last three days, I get a kind of empty, grey fuzz feeling that feels a lot like depression. As someone who's fought mild depression, one of the best ways for me has been to regulate my sexuality and orgasm only when I know I don't need to do anything the next day. Track your energy and your sex drive, and see if there's a correlation - I bet the results will speak for themselves.
3) Sleep on a schedule. Caffeine doesn't count. It's painful and it takes willpower and it sucks but that's life. I solved this one by getting married to a woman who keeps a very strict sleep schedule (ymmv :P )
4) Organize your time. Follow pomodoro or a one hour on-one hour off time. If you find yourself "half-working" (sitting at your computer pretending to work but really browsing HN and Reddit). Get up. Go outside. Walking and standing are good for your health and your creativity.
5) Find a friend or partner who energizes you. Someone who you can hang out with and have crazy ideas and good conversation. If you don't have someone like this, start by making acquaintances at a local club or meetup.
6) Rest. Understand that recuperating your strength for a day isn't going to wreck your chances at becoming the next great startup CEO. It's okay to give yourself a break, before you break.
Hope this helps :)
Consider getting some blood work done. I found out I have a high incidence of Epstein Bar (related to Mononucleosis) and if I don't regulate my diet, I get completely drained of energy and will for anything. This also affects my sex drive and as revx mentioned, my physiology after orgasm. I call it the sex hangover.
I found that yoga and walking also helps a lot, I look for yoga videos on Youtube, the prettier the instructor the better ;)
I think it happens to pretty much everyone, we as society just don't talk about sexuality or depression enough to put the two together.
Usually when i get lethargic it means something is wrong with my enviroment, nothing new, everything run of the mill and other people have allready down it. In that case- try to automatize it or find out how one could do that .
I generally ascribe to the "show up and do something" philosophy on days like the one you're describing. I tell myself that I can have the rest of the day off guilt free if I just do one task that I've been meaning to get done. For me the biggest challenge to working is starting, so generally once I start working on that one task, I find new energy and will continue working once I finish it.
In the depression/anxiety/lethargy space I find it's not time for any major life breakthroughs.
The biggest breakthrough for me is finding the initial half ounce of mojo to begin the space-clearing and space-claiming process... whether washing a single dish, throwing an old piece of clothing, deleting an email I'll never get around to replying to.
Then, doing it again, and again, one damn t-shirt at a time.
Soon the momentum picks up and the clearing happens by itself.
Also, for me generally the only way out is through - I find it starts with acceptance of this moment as it is, so I'm careful to not add my judgments ("This should not be happening", "I fucked up", etc.) to the situation, but instead hold the lethargic/anxious/depressed parts of me in kindness. Not trying to change anything about them.
From that starting place of self-kindness I can take a breath, dust myself off, and begin taking one simple, tiny action – not to make anything happen but only to make space for the new and invite it in.
I ask myself often: Which old junk am I ready to let go of to make space for the new? I don't need to know what the new is, just trust life and start throwing away the shitty t-shirts.
If this is a regular problem for you, the time to address it is when you're feeling "up" - get exercise, get enough sleep (even if that involves midday naps, and I'm sure many other things that people can suggest).