Will take this chance to plug one of my favorite books - How I Became Stupid by Martin Page[0]. [0]https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/186837.How_I_Became_S...
I completed three "micro apps" solely for myself (well, one for my wife and I) over the last month, all vibe coded. I sent two of them (sort of micro mindfulness tools) to a therapist friend. "WOW, I didn't know you…
There's a pretty good video from HealthyGamerGGG (think I got his name right) on YouTube titled something like: Is ADHD A Superpower for Meditating? It sounds click-baity but I find him quite appealing. As a lifelong…
Joy is whatever is happening right now minus your opinion of it. (personally, I'd revise that by swapping "joy" with "contentment" or "peace")
the ol' "name and tame"
Right, it won't change the fact that the finger injury is sending pain signals to your brain. But it just might change what you do in reaction to that signal.
Getting out of school at 2:30 instead of daycare at 5pm says otherwise (my current stressor....).
> I think we need to recognize the constant striving for happiness, and the inevitable disappointment when we don't reach it, as the unhealthy behavior that it is. It's okay, normal, even necessary to feel sad and…
Ha, I don't live there anymore! The actual "miss"!
I think you just proved a point here. That's not "happiness" in the sustainable sense. That's instant gratification. The former requires sacrifice and cultivation while the latter requires nothing but giving in to…
In my junior year of college (very early 2000s), a senior friend was accused of rape by a classmate. Within two days he had to hide out at my girlfriend's house because a large group of large athletes was on the hunt…
For the record, DMC were not sponsored or incentivized by adidas until well after the song was produced and distributed. Basically adidas jumped on an existing trend.
Feel like we're talking about slightly different things here. Bravery has nothing to do with what I'm talking about. What I'm talking about what you, as a human being, gain from going through a challenge. A challenge…
Do you not see value in overcoming challenges? In experiencing difficulties and pushing through self-imposed barriers? Do you not think someone who trains to climb Mt Everest, experiences the multitude of ups and downs…
Let's imagine someone goes to the gym everyday and never feels a struggle whatsoever. Just straight up leisure. Somehow that person ends up with the desired results of working out. Now someone else goes through the same…
I don't believe it, I've experienced it many times. Zero recline in the last row.
Make more money -> buy bigger house with more land = more physical separation from others. Make more money -> spend more time at work -> buy more "things" -> attach happiness to those things = set up for discontentment.
To purport that these people drive cars and ride scooters in the same manner is unfair. Same with bicyclists - I witness dozens of them running stop signs and red lights every single day. Can't imagine they do the same…
Obligatory reminder: alone does not equal lonely. Not all the time. Not for everyone.
Adding in: read Dharma Bums, which partially involves fire watching.
Couldn't reply to your most recent reply so I'm doing it here: > Managing one's mind, or ridding oneself of desire, and especially dealing with reality without bias or judgement, are just not terribly realistic in…
> dealing with things sensibly and realistically in a way that is based on practical rather than theoretical considerations. That's the definition. What I outlined - granted, without the specific action steps - is…
Well, unless I'm wildly misreading it, the quote I attached to my post calls out a very stark judgment on people's perceived sufferings. Specifically, the "no one can be dismissed for their misery..." line.
Of course, we agree there. Re: your final sentence, what I'm actually saying here is that this version of "kindness" may be actively harming some people in the long run. But because humans are generally bad at long-term…
This point also confirms my relativity of perception thoughts. Yes, compared to me, the bottom 50% certainly has more adversity. But why stop there? The bottom 50% in America is likely the top 20% somewhere else (I'm…
Will take this chance to plug one of my favorite books - How I Became Stupid by Martin Page[0]. [0]https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/186837.How_I_Became_S...
I completed three "micro apps" solely for myself (well, one for my wife and I) over the last month, all vibe coded. I sent two of them (sort of micro mindfulness tools) to a therapist friend. "WOW, I didn't know you…
There's a pretty good video from HealthyGamerGGG (think I got his name right) on YouTube titled something like: Is ADHD A Superpower for Meditating? It sounds click-baity but I find him quite appealing. As a lifelong…
Joy is whatever is happening right now minus your opinion of it. (personally, I'd revise that by swapping "joy" with "contentment" or "peace")
the ol' "name and tame"
Right, it won't change the fact that the finger injury is sending pain signals to your brain. But it just might change what you do in reaction to that signal.
Getting out of school at 2:30 instead of daycare at 5pm says otherwise (my current stressor....).
> I think we need to recognize the constant striving for happiness, and the inevitable disappointment when we don't reach it, as the unhealthy behavior that it is. It's okay, normal, even necessary to feel sad and…
Ha, I don't live there anymore! The actual "miss"!
I think you just proved a point here. That's not "happiness" in the sustainable sense. That's instant gratification. The former requires sacrifice and cultivation while the latter requires nothing but giving in to…
In my junior year of college (very early 2000s), a senior friend was accused of rape by a classmate. Within two days he had to hide out at my girlfriend's house because a large group of large athletes was on the hunt…
For the record, DMC were not sponsored or incentivized by adidas until well after the song was produced and distributed. Basically adidas jumped on an existing trend.
Feel like we're talking about slightly different things here. Bravery has nothing to do with what I'm talking about. What I'm talking about what you, as a human being, gain from going through a challenge. A challenge…
Do you not see value in overcoming challenges? In experiencing difficulties and pushing through self-imposed barriers? Do you not think someone who trains to climb Mt Everest, experiences the multitude of ups and downs…
Let's imagine someone goes to the gym everyday and never feels a struggle whatsoever. Just straight up leisure. Somehow that person ends up with the desired results of working out. Now someone else goes through the same…
I don't believe it, I've experienced it many times. Zero recline in the last row.
Make more money -> buy bigger house with more land = more physical separation from others. Make more money -> spend more time at work -> buy more "things" -> attach happiness to those things = set up for discontentment.
To purport that these people drive cars and ride scooters in the same manner is unfair. Same with bicyclists - I witness dozens of them running stop signs and red lights every single day. Can't imagine they do the same…
Obligatory reminder: alone does not equal lonely. Not all the time. Not for everyone.
Adding in: read Dharma Bums, which partially involves fire watching.
Couldn't reply to your most recent reply so I'm doing it here: > Managing one's mind, or ridding oneself of desire, and especially dealing with reality without bias or judgement, are just not terribly realistic in…
> dealing with things sensibly and realistically in a way that is based on practical rather than theoretical considerations. That's the definition. What I outlined - granted, without the specific action steps - is…
Well, unless I'm wildly misreading it, the quote I attached to my post calls out a very stark judgment on people's perceived sufferings. Specifically, the "no one can be dismissed for their misery..." line.
Of course, we agree there. Re: your final sentence, what I'm actually saying here is that this version of "kindness" may be actively harming some people in the long run. But because humans are generally bad at long-term…
This point also confirms my relativity of perception thoughts. Yes, compared to me, the bottom 50% certainly has more adversity. But why stop there? The bottom 50% in America is likely the top 20% somewhere else (I'm…