> Therapy isn't supposed to scale. As I see it "therapy" is already a catch-all terms for many very different things. In my experience, sometimes "it's the relationship that heals", other times it's something else. E.g.…
As a fun aside on language, I prefer "they", explicitly, e.g. I pick "they" in pronoun dropdowns, I often wear a "they" pronoun pin, and so on. But insofar as people think in terms of these different versions of "they",…
You said "this makes sense", but the rest of your comment is essentially still in disagreement. > A subtler approach that started with "why shouldn't boys wear pink?" and progressed from there would have already…
Kind of a tangent, but I think the cultural/social side is bigger and messier than your questions suggest, and I think boiling this down to "biological vs cultural" misses that. > If gender is a social construct, is…
> Some women are tetrachromats with an extra colour sense, while men are more likely to have red/green colour blindness. If I'm not mistaken, red/green color blindness is more common in men because it's caused my a…
> Perhaps this is an insensitive question/comment, but do trans women feel like they have the wrong body or the wrong wholesale gender? It varies. > In my experience with trans women I know, they still seem to relate…
> But if, instead of extending it, you try to contract it, then without crossing into metaphysics, you'll stop at the brain. Dunno about the other poster, but I can promise you I will not. I think it's kind of a…
> But the fact remains that a hand or a heart or a lung can be removed or replaced without loss of self. A brain can't. Here's a related observation that tipped me a bit away from thinking about my body as the meatsack…
Throwing blame on "the prevalence of psychotherapy" into this conversation, writing it all off to "pseudo-science" and emphasizing "lifestyle" (as in "if you exercised more you'd be better off", I guess) reads like a…
> It appears this world has become manically trigger-happy to label something as -ist or -istic Also to label something as maniacal, perhaps.
"Women divorce men more often than the other way around; this seems to bear out that men are more dissatisfied in marriage" seems like a stretch to me. At any rate, it reminds me of the classic physics joke: > An…
> It's a trope to say that our "best minds are working on ads". "The last generation was better because they read _books_ and had _discipline_ and didn't waste their time on frivolous garbage" is also a trope.
> This study found that the "marshmallow test"—as a single measure—is no more or less predictive than a basket of other measures of self-control the study tested, or any of those other measures of self-control taken…
> Buyers clicking on the ad, rather than just stashing the product name, and later buying it offline, or through another channel. I'm not talking about measuring clicks on the ad. I'm talking about either surveying…
A-B testing will tell you whether internet advertising works. Pick an ad. Assign users at random into groups A and B. Show users in group A the ad. Don't show users in group B the ad. Watch and see at what rate users in…
> Naturally, they don't explain all the ways they didn't solve the problem when they finally do solve a problem. I do think something related to this is less obvious than you're suggesting. A proof generally presents a…
I think a bit of disillusionment with mathematics is healthy, but it's misguided to call this kind of thing "a fundamental flaw in mathematics". For one thing, in my experience, working on real life problems involves a…
Alright, I'm pretty burned out on this conversation so this is gonna be my last post. It's been distracting me and I want my real life back. I'll just try to wrap up the bits I find interesting. > But if you mean, would…
> Contrapoints is a homophobic monster who supports shaming people with "genital preferences" Jesus, what was the phrase you used? "Straight to ideological slander"? > I'm super behind being sensitive, but if you're six…
What set of rules are you actually picturing that you think echelon has that they're not applying to themselves? As far as I can tell, the rules they're suggesting for singular "they" is that "they/them" can always…
FWIW, I agree with you that "it seems like you dislike trans folk" isn't a good place to go, for a number of reasons. For one, it's a tactical mistake to pull out that kind of accusation if you want someone to listen to…
> or a desire to dictate that others have to use certain language. As far as I can tell, the content of your first comment in this thread was > The site is the work of a guy, "him", and "his" work. We don't have to…
Oh, also, regarding > What people who harp on pronouns miss is that pronouns are not used to refer to someone's gender but their sex. I can see your sexual characteristics from across the room, and referring to them is…
> What people who harp on pronouns... Mental breakdowns over pronouns... pronoun police To my eyes, in this thread, the person who is harping on pronouns the most, seems to be closest to having a mental breakdown over…
The grammar of a language isn't about what "makes sense". A particular usage making sense or being reasonable isn't the same thing as that usage being part of a language. If non-homophobic circles of Russian-speakers…
> Therapy isn't supposed to scale. As I see it "therapy" is already a catch-all terms for many very different things. In my experience, sometimes "it's the relationship that heals", other times it's something else. E.g.…
As a fun aside on language, I prefer "they", explicitly, e.g. I pick "they" in pronoun dropdowns, I often wear a "they" pronoun pin, and so on. But insofar as people think in terms of these different versions of "they",…
You said "this makes sense", but the rest of your comment is essentially still in disagreement. > A subtler approach that started with "why shouldn't boys wear pink?" and progressed from there would have already…
Kind of a tangent, but I think the cultural/social side is bigger and messier than your questions suggest, and I think boiling this down to "biological vs cultural" misses that. > If gender is a social construct, is…
> Some women are tetrachromats with an extra colour sense, while men are more likely to have red/green colour blindness. If I'm not mistaken, red/green color blindness is more common in men because it's caused my a…
> Perhaps this is an insensitive question/comment, but do trans women feel like they have the wrong body or the wrong wholesale gender? It varies. > In my experience with trans women I know, they still seem to relate…
> But if, instead of extending it, you try to contract it, then without crossing into metaphysics, you'll stop at the brain. Dunno about the other poster, but I can promise you I will not. I think it's kind of a…
> But the fact remains that a hand or a heart or a lung can be removed or replaced without loss of self. A brain can't. Here's a related observation that tipped me a bit away from thinking about my body as the meatsack…
Throwing blame on "the prevalence of psychotherapy" into this conversation, writing it all off to "pseudo-science" and emphasizing "lifestyle" (as in "if you exercised more you'd be better off", I guess) reads like a…
> It appears this world has become manically trigger-happy to label something as -ist or -istic Also to label something as maniacal, perhaps.
"Women divorce men more often than the other way around; this seems to bear out that men are more dissatisfied in marriage" seems like a stretch to me. At any rate, it reminds me of the classic physics joke: > An…
> It's a trope to say that our "best minds are working on ads". "The last generation was better because they read _books_ and had _discipline_ and didn't waste their time on frivolous garbage" is also a trope.
> This study found that the "marshmallow test"—as a single measure—is no more or less predictive than a basket of other measures of self-control the study tested, or any of those other measures of self-control taken…
> Buyers clicking on the ad, rather than just stashing the product name, and later buying it offline, or through another channel. I'm not talking about measuring clicks on the ad. I'm talking about either surveying…
A-B testing will tell you whether internet advertising works. Pick an ad. Assign users at random into groups A and B. Show users in group A the ad. Don't show users in group B the ad. Watch and see at what rate users in…
> Naturally, they don't explain all the ways they didn't solve the problem when they finally do solve a problem. I do think something related to this is less obvious than you're suggesting. A proof generally presents a…
I think a bit of disillusionment with mathematics is healthy, but it's misguided to call this kind of thing "a fundamental flaw in mathematics". For one thing, in my experience, working on real life problems involves a…
Alright, I'm pretty burned out on this conversation so this is gonna be my last post. It's been distracting me and I want my real life back. I'll just try to wrap up the bits I find interesting. > But if you mean, would…
> Contrapoints is a homophobic monster who supports shaming people with "genital preferences" Jesus, what was the phrase you used? "Straight to ideological slander"? > I'm super behind being sensitive, but if you're six…
What set of rules are you actually picturing that you think echelon has that they're not applying to themselves? As far as I can tell, the rules they're suggesting for singular "they" is that "they/them" can always…
FWIW, I agree with you that "it seems like you dislike trans folk" isn't a good place to go, for a number of reasons. For one, it's a tactical mistake to pull out that kind of accusation if you want someone to listen to…
> or a desire to dictate that others have to use certain language. As far as I can tell, the content of your first comment in this thread was > The site is the work of a guy, "him", and "his" work. We don't have to…
Oh, also, regarding > What people who harp on pronouns miss is that pronouns are not used to refer to someone's gender but their sex. I can see your sexual characteristics from across the room, and referring to them is…
> What people who harp on pronouns... Mental breakdowns over pronouns... pronoun police To my eyes, in this thread, the person who is harping on pronouns the most, seems to be closest to having a mental breakdown over…
The grammar of a language isn't about what "makes sense". A particular usage making sense or being reasonable isn't the same thing as that usage being part of a language. If non-homophobic circles of Russian-speakers…