What exactly are you doing? It sounds like you're hitting the HR screening which means you need to apply more or apply more effectively. Cold applications are well and good at scale, particularly when combined with…
I can see why someone would be like wtf if their "viking" input produced less than 90% white people results, but there should be an equal wtf if "CEO" produced 90% men. One is a historical fact that is never going to…
I don't think it will be pure shit, no, but at the point I can't physically do fun things anymore (whenever you think that will be) there really isn't much let to DO which means your relationships are going to be…
Yep. I was raised moving a lot and assumed I'd do the same as an adult. But then I thought of how rarely my parents saw their parents. And how much I love my parents and siblings. I ended up marrying a man who also…
Whoa. My siblings and I were in and out of my family house throughout our 20s. Hell, during COVID a bunch of us moved back in in our 30s, kids in tow. And we spend HOURS per day with our parents when living at home,…
I have a dog. I totally thought having a kid would be like having a dog. In the sense that I do a bunch of shit with my dog that I don't necessarily want to do and she is often a burden to things I want to do (mainly…
Agreed. I moved back in with my Dad with my husband. I'm 32, hubby is 30. He had two strokes and my little sister didn't want to be the only one nearby. It's been 6 months. Is it the easiest? No. But it's amazing to…
Huh. I'm surprised to hear this. I have a liberal arts degree, and I had zero issue getting a job after going through a bootcamp 6 years ago. My brother-in-law did the same 3 years ago. My husband last year. He…
Yes. You didn't really negotiate. Ideally you interview broadly, then use the higher offers at companies that aren't you top choice to boost the offers from companies that aren't your top choice that offered less---and…
Nice theory. And yet I seem to run into so many men who have a death grip on porn and a dead bedroom.
This is literally how I found out that I had a half-brother. 23andMe. I looked up family members, for fun. WHAM, half brother. I called my dad who, after some prodding, confirmed it was his child. I reached out. The man…
Yea, we reconnected with a half-brother on our Dad's side. Jeezum. It's just so clear, it's weird.
> Nobody on either side believes this; the right judges the left as communists destroying America and the left judges the right as Nazis destroying America, that's the nature of politics. This attitude is the exact sort…
Yes, this problem exists on both sides of the aisle. Loud, crazy people who the other side assumes is a stand-in for the entire group or at minimum has the support of everyone else since few are calling them out. It's a…
1. Repeat their own perspective back to them, validating how awesome they are for having it. Seriously. Find the origin/axiom of their perspective from their POV, which is usually something rather commendable, and be…
I was responding to > If co-worker comes to work and says guns are bad. Ok whatever your opinion man. But if they come to work and like yo guns are awesome, 2nd amendment bros. I own one, then for other side this person…
Oh, I misunderstood. Saying that gay marriage is disgusting reads to me as calling out the policy, NOT saying that gays are disgusting. I completely agree that calling a group of human being disgusting is an uncalled…
I'm sure that's true. I haven't personally lived in a conservative area in America for any extended period of time. Hopefully we can both agree these are bad things to occur due to race, gender, sex, political…
Pro-life as a man = sexist because you're trying to control women Strict immigration laws, particularly around deportation or punishments for illegal entrance = racist Lowering or abolishing minimum wage = racist and…
Look, it's HARD to see the other side. I get it. But take a beat. No one is asking you to sit quietly. Your welcome to disagree. We expect the conservative to be able to hear about your approval (from their perspective)…
> safe spaces I'm not sure "safe space" is the right word. People lose jobs, housing opportunities, and professional connections for being conservative in the Bay Area. There's a damn good reason to be afraid and it…
Offensive, interesting. Yes, I don't think it's offensive. I do think the attitude of "my time is worth more than yours" isn't one I particularly appreciate. When I was interviewing and got at-home coding challenges, I…
Not a single person gave me that advice.
> people should be free to express themselves in whatever way they choose to, and this way of communication clearly works for certain groups of people Sure. In non-professional capacities. But in professional areas, we…
I'm cool with that as well. Happy as a clam if we want to start making a bunch of sport distinctions around advantages such as height, T, bone density, etc. However, until we do so, the problem remains that there are…
What exactly are you doing? It sounds like you're hitting the HR screening which means you need to apply more or apply more effectively. Cold applications are well and good at scale, particularly when combined with…
I can see why someone would be like wtf if their "viking" input produced less than 90% white people results, but there should be an equal wtf if "CEO" produced 90% men. One is a historical fact that is never going to…
I don't think it will be pure shit, no, but at the point I can't physically do fun things anymore (whenever you think that will be) there really isn't much let to DO which means your relationships are going to be…
Yep. I was raised moving a lot and assumed I'd do the same as an adult. But then I thought of how rarely my parents saw their parents. And how much I love my parents and siblings. I ended up marrying a man who also…
Whoa. My siblings and I were in and out of my family house throughout our 20s. Hell, during COVID a bunch of us moved back in in our 30s, kids in tow. And we spend HOURS per day with our parents when living at home,…
I have a dog. I totally thought having a kid would be like having a dog. In the sense that I do a bunch of shit with my dog that I don't necessarily want to do and she is often a burden to things I want to do (mainly…
Agreed. I moved back in with my Dad with my husband. I'm 32, hubby is 30. He had two strokes and my little sister didn't want to be the only one nearby. It's been 6 months. Is it the easiest? No. But it's amazing to…
Huh. I'm surprised to hear this. I have a liberal arts degree, and I had zero issue getting a job after going through a bootcamp 6 years ago. My brother-in-law did the same 3 years ago. My husband last year. He…
Yes. You didn't really negotiate. Ideally you interview broadly, then use the higher offers at companies that aren't you top choice to boost the offers from companies that aren't your top choice that offered less---and…
Nice theory. And yet I seem to run into so many men who have a death grip on porn and a dead bedroom.
This is literally how I found out that I had a half-brother. 23andMe. I looked up family members, for fun. WHAM, half brother. I called my dad who, after some prodding, confirmed it was his child. I reached out. The man…
Yea, we reconnected with a half-brother on our Dad's side. Jeezum. It's just so clear, it's weird.
> Nobody on either side believes this; the right judges the left as communists destroying America and the left judges the right as Nazis destroying America, that's the nature of politics. This attitude is the exact sort…
Yes, this problem exists on both sides of the aisle. Loud, crazy people who the other side assumes is a stand-in for the entire group or at minimum has the support of everyone else since few are calling them out. It's a…
1. Repeat their own perspective back to them, validating how awesome they are for having it. Seriously. Find the origin/axiom of their perspective from their POV, which is usually something rather commendable, and be…
I was responding to > If co-worker comes to work and says guns are bad. Ok whatever your opinion man. But if they come to work and like yo guns are awesome, 2nd amendment bros. I own one, then for other side this person…
Oh, I misunderstood. Saying that gay marriage is disgusting reads to me as calling out the policy, NOT saying that gays are disgusting. I completely agree that calling a group of human being disgusting is an uncalled…
I'm sure that's true. I haven't personally lived in a conservative area in America for any extended period of time. Hopefully we can both agree these are bad things to occur due to race, gender, sex, political…
Pro-life as a man = sexist because you're trying to control women Strict immigration laws, particularly around deportation or punishments for illegal entrance = racist Lowering or abolishing minimum wage = racist and…
Look, it's HARD to see the other side. I get it. But take a beat. No one is asking you to sit quietly. Your welcome to disagree. We expect the conservative to be able to hear about your approval (from their perspective)…
> safe spaces I'm not sure "safe space" is the right word. People lose jobs, housing opportunities, and professional connections for being conservative in the Bay Area. There's a damn good reason to be afraid and it…
Offensive, interesting. Yes, I don't think it's offensive. I do think the attitude of "my time is worth more than yours" isn't one I particularly appreciate. When I was interviewing and got at-home coding challenges, I…
Not a single person gave me that advice.
> people should be free to express themselves in whatever way they choose to, and this way of communication clearly works for certain groups of people Sure. In non-professional capacities. But in professional areas, we…
I'm cool with that as well. Happy as a clam if we want to start making a bunch of sport distinctions around advantages such as height, T, bone density, etc. However, until we do so, the problem remains that there are…