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Hi HN. I’ve been battling depression for a few years now and have become pretty numb to most things. I’ve tried exercise, sleep, drugs, social events. I think a lot of it has to do with my job, feeling trapped and bound…

Male and 30 moving to UK from USA. Don’t know anyone there, how should I make friends? I’m a software engineer, but that’s my day job. I’d like to meet fun and exciting people. Curious if others have made a move like…

After a few years of sleep deprivation, mix of burn out and stimulants I want to approach this industry (big tech) with some normalcy. I’m realizing I’m wholly unmotivated and easily distracted. How can I improve this…

I'm looking for advice as my partner is finally looking for a full time job and cannot find one. She has a 4.0 from an Ivy league university, got a perfect score on the SAT, did a masters internationally in a second…

After taking a big tech job during an already deep phase of burnout, I basically have allowed myself to spiral into a 2 year deep depression and it’s getting to a point where going to work makes me physically ill. I’ve…

Reflecting on a vacation right now and wondering best ways to avoid mainstream tech news/social media and still stay relevant. Moreso interested in people who have these ideologies, but still succeed in staying…

How’s the software market for switching jobs looking these days? I’m a senior dev at $BIGTECH living in California looking for a change of scenery. Follow-up, but is the new year the best time to start interviewing due…

Are there any real-time communities like Discord that are friendly and more advanced? I’m having a hard time finding people to discuss cool things I’m learning or building and would love to learn from others and have…

Stack exchange usually bans random discussion and Reddit is usually pretty service level. I have had some decent conversation on HN, but the medium is semi poor for convo. I’m wanting to get into studying DB…

Can anyone personally recommend books /courses on this topic? Was reading DDIA and want to drill deeper into building a rudimentary db from scratch.

Can anyone recommend advice to a senior engineer at a big tech company who is looking to join a startup as employee no. 3? Let's assume the company is just kicking off and has secured $600k - $1m of initial funding. How…

I'm realizing that writing original thoughts that are interesting outside some technical tutorial are HARD. How do I get better? Aside from writing _more_, I'm also equally interesting in really learning how to think…