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Good read. The sooner that society comes to grips with the concept that sociopathic behavior in a t-shirt and jeans is exactly the same as sociopathic behavior in a Prada suit the better.
First of all, no one on Wall Street wears Prada suits. Prada suits are high fashion trash. They wear Zegna or Canali or bespoke.

And second, what about this story reads you as sociopathic? Sure, there's alot of shuffling in this business, but how much worse is that than any other? Restaurants and bars close down all the time, and no one accuses restaurant and bar managers of being sociopaths.

Anecdotally I've heard my friends who work in small business food and alcohol places as servers, cooks, bartenders, etc. call their bosses and business owners sociopaths more than once in unrelated conversations.
I mean, that's always going to be a standard capital v. labor argument. What I'm saying is that industries like tech shouldn't be singled out for run-of-the-mill decisions.
They are, and they should be. Which industry gave us stack ranking?
Depending on how broad your definition of stack ranking is, every industry does stack ranking.

Every single successful business has the problem of "we have this large amount of money in bonuses that we would like to distribute out to our employees and we want to figure out equitable way to do it". Invariably they end up having the rank and group the employees to do that.

The behavior this engenders, people do everything they can to stay out of the bottom bucket,” one Microsoft engineer said. “People responsible for features will openly sabotage other people’s efforts. One of the most valuable things I learned was to give the appearance of being courteous while withholding just enough information from colleagues to ensure they didn’t get ahead of me on the rankings.

https://www.vanityfair.com/news/business/2012/08/microsoft-l...

How’s that different than Jack Welch’s famous “fire the bottom 10% of your workforce” that he implemented in GE in the 80s? Honestly, it was close to textbook management strategy when originally implemented at Microsoft.

Now, sure management science has advanced since then, and a lot of the ways that Microsoft implemented stack ranking at the beginning we’ve realized are counterproductive.

But that doesn’t really change the core principle that they end up ranking employees at some point in time

I've already been refuted by the fact that GE did it first.

The shocker to me is that such a huge player in our industry applied it to a collaborative task like software development.

I don't know the specific case of GE, but could imagine that, as it was a novel strategy at the time, workers weren't already in a competitive ranking-focused mindset.

Additionally firing the bottom 10% is something that should happen naturally as you discover hiring mistakes. Of course just firing the bottom 10% when they are close to average performers is counter productive.

The most famous example is GE which is a huge conglomerate that spans many industries.
1.) I hardly think the brand of suit detracts from my point.

2.) Go read the comments on the article itself. It’s littered with antecdotes about training your own replacement, being fired before a stock vest, etc.

3.) I would argue that bars and restaurants are a different story all together. The article mentions being a contractor in charge of six-figure decisions which to me reads as a could treat people appropriately chooses not to.

> 1.) I hardly think the brand of suit detracts from my point.

Not saying it does; I'm just saying you should learn some more about suits.

> 2.) Go read the comments on the article itself. It’s littered with antecdotes about training your own replacement, being fired before a stock vest, etc.

I did. The major anecdotes are:

* layed off from a job with one month severance, three months healthcare, because the company realized it needed a different direction

* multiple difficulties with interviewing and attempting to find a new job

* another layoff when a company is acquired and his position is eliminated, where even the author says he considered his severence "more than fair"

* one experience as a contractor where his contract was cancelled with no severence

Sure, it's crappy to have all of those events happen to you, but other than the one contracting gig, I'd consider those layoffs extremely empathic and generous.

I’m interested where you are going with this. I made what I thought was a pretty innocuous comment about actions mattering more than appearance. Are you making the point that tech in general is not building in some sociopathic behaviors as an industry?
I think that backlash against tech has reached such a fever pitch at this point that a huge number of criticisms of it are overblown.

Does tech have problems? Sure. But in order for the criticism of it to be effective, we shouldn’t mix it in with general compliants about our current economic system.

In a restaurant and bar though the employees are viewed as humans, they actually know the person deciding their fate and the reason for that decision. In his story there was always an invisible hand guiding decisions that could completely devastate or make his life.
I mean, the largest percentage of restaurant and bar layoffs are just due to the restaurant and bar closing. In that case, the invisible hand of the free market can be even more cruel than these.

Especially since you won't get severance.

I interviewed with a bank recently, and was blown away by the level of professionalism I experienced compared to everywhere else in tech I've been.

My mental image of finance was "bros a'broing", but the reality of the experience was professionals who were fully attuned to the reality of dealing with billions of dollars, and no delusions about how a few lines of javascript will change the world.

Whereas when I went to Google, I was met with a mix of "you're changing the world, selling eyeballs to advertisers" and "It's so great, we get to dress like we're 12 and play like we're 12".

Or the long since pivoted startup I interviewed who was doing their best to break the internet through awful PDF readers while in the office, everyone was ziplining and pogo-sticking around. (I await the mod slap for speaking ill of a YC company).

Reading these threads as an European tech worker is weird. Or maybe I've missed all the pogo-sticking companies. The most I've seen was some people wearing inoffensive t-shirts and jeans, and a couple of companies which had a foosball table in the break room.
Here I thought at first "well that looks relatively reasonable even though it's a big space." and then the go carts....
Same here. I was prepared to say "Okay, that's silly, but they still work", but the zip line was a tad too much. Why would you have that in your office?

Edit: They did a follow-up some years later (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_v7v51le0lc) and somewhat surprisingly they were still pretty similar! I guess they really know how to balance themselves, since they do seem to be putting out a good product.

Yeah I caught that, too. Also had nothing against Scribd because I came onto them later and liked the platform. I wouldn't have guessed that's what the place was like. Though I'm not sure I'd personally like it. But I understand @jowiar's point a bit.
How familiar are you with the early history of Scribd?

They were a darling of HN(YC financed the early rounds) here at first in the late 200Xs following the classic Youtube/Kim Dotcom growth strategy of allowing pretty much any content on Scribd.

The "any content is good content" strategy seemed to work and Scribd grew in popularity but profits remained elusive.

Then Scribd went all dark-patterns on users locking content behind paywalls. This was content that users had submitted themselves.

Finally the inevitable pivot to ebook subscription services happened.

Scribd seems somewhat respectable now although how profitable?

This culture is firmly entrenched in the West coast of the US, and possibly some East coast finance. I worked in the tech industry for decades in a large US city and only came across that type of culture once, and that company folded within a year.
It exists in Chicago, too.
American tech workers also make double to triple the total compensation...
Yes, I realize that. Not sure how it's relevant, but okay.
I've been in offices where the ping pong table was square in the middle of the open office, and games ran during the workday.

I've heard of other offices where they didn't have the pingpong table, so they just threw the ping pong balls at each other all day.

This is in the midwest, at lower-tier tech companies that you probably haven't heard of but you probably have used some of their work.

I work in tech. The company I sell for is a big well established company that sells services to other big companies across many industries.

The closes we get to "bros a 'boring" is the occasional free beer on a Friday.

Outside of SV it seems like that culture is a minority.

Unsurprisingly, modern white-collar work is incredibly anti-human. Blue-collar work is, as well, but in a different way.

This is a natural consequence of our economic systems. Companies that won't burn you the moment that your department's RoI is <1, will be outcompeted or acquired by ones that will.

Though it may seem that way, nothing about this state of affairs has to be immutable.

In what way is this not the natural consequence of a system that attempts to optimize wealth?

If there's a solution to this, it seems that the wealth once created should be distributed differently, rather than attempting to kill the goose.

Proof: all those world-changing innovations just pouring out of socialist hotspots of the world, with their shared high living standards outpacing the rest. (/sarcasm).

If Musk had not gotten wealthy on paypal, SpaceX wouldn't have been possible. Nor Tesla. If some country had capped his wealth at an arbitrary # (say, $1,000,000) none of this would have happened. Instead, there's a self-driving car in orbit around the sun and thousands of engineers doing amazing stuff.

Opportunity is the natural consequence of a system that maximizes liberty. And yes, that opportunity is for success and failure. But by removing reward, you remove incentive, which reduces effort. Vicious circle. How is this difficult to understand?

> If Musk had not gotten wealthy on paypal, SpaceX wouldn't have been possible

Cool, that's about one guy.

I understand that wealth management often includes investing into companies actually doing something, those will most often still be motivated by efficiency (because otherwise they'll be out-competed).

This capitalist system works well, but the humans in the market can be helped out by regulating (oh, the evil word) the companies to give their workers certain rights. This slightly limits wealth accumulation on the higher end not by setting a maximum bank account balance, but by giving money to people who need it (and spend it), thus stimulating the economy further.

This is something all "developed" countries seem to have realised, with the exception of the USA. Or maybe not.

I find it difficult to believe that people being assholes is a result of any particular economic system.
I think you're right in a way that assholes will do better in all imaginable economic systems, so it's not a result of capitalism per se.
Not all businesses have to compete. There are countless monopolies out there that don't really compete: At&ts ISP division, Google, facebook, etc and the list is only getting longer and longer.
They don't compete in their core businesses (usually because they were there early), but many still want to expand and run profitable side businesses.
Is any this of this specific to "tech"? It just seems to confirm that a lot of companies are run by sociopaths (see Gervais principle) who don't care about the impact of their actions on the people that work for them.
Is that really the case though? Do the leaders of such companies really have other options which still accomplish their goals? People are hired to accomplish the goals of the company, not the other way around.

Seems to me like its not so much that companies are run by sociopaths but that workers have trouble empathizing with a CEO and understanding that nothing is guaranteed. Rarely are they going to be happy to lay people off, they know it causes problems for people. They're human too. Sometimes there isn't much of an option which preserves their interests. Some might react going "but that's just the problem, they only care about their interests" but...do you really care about theirs? Does anyone work long ours putting passion into a project because they hope to make the executives rich so they can feel good about how rich they made the executives? I certainly don't, I work passionately on something because I believe in what it does/what I'm doing/making, and secondarily for my own gain of wealth. A good CEO runs a company because s/he believes in an idea, and secondarily for their own wealth, and perhaps finally for the ability to create jobs and benefit people that way. But that is a final result of the process, not a primary goal. Of course there are CEOs which just want wealth but in tech space at least they are unlikely to go too far, more likely to fuck up in their greed.

I think with the rise of shareholder capitalism it has become OK to treat workers like disposable items. I grew up during a time when it was not OK to lay off people while giving a bonus to the CEO. Now that's normal practice.
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I'm a little confused about what you mean by shareholder capitalism, and how that would pertain to an employer's loyalty to their employees.

Joint-stock corporations have been around for several hundred years, and limited liability has been a legal concept in American law for almost 200 years.

Employer loyalty may have gone down in the past few generations, but attributing that to shareholder capitalism seems vague and unfounded. Perhaps you mean something else?

I was around in the 80s when suddenly shareholder value was the main driver of companies. Before that there was more of an understanding that the relationship between employer, employees and community was mutual and should benefit all. Then slowly the attitude became that the only responsibility of a company was to the shareholders and nobody else (and no, there is no legal obligation for a company to do this. Their only obligation is to engage in lawful business). This led to underfunding of pensions, layoffs and wage stagnation. Essentially shifting of benefits from employees to shareholders.

I think in the 50s a lot of CEOs would have been embarrassed to announce layoffs while raising their own pay. Now that's normal.

Fair enough, but the notion of "shareholder primacy" has been around since the early 1900s.

My understanding of the shift that occurred in the latter part of the 20th century was that businesses became less dependent upon fixed local communities.

Part of it was that the communities themselves were dispersing (increased geographic mobility among the populace).

But other factors include:

- a shift from capital-intensive industries like resource extraction and manufacturing, to service industries

- the opening of foreign labor markets

" Fair enough, but the notion of "shareholder primacy" has been around since the early 1900s."

I started hearing about it with Jack Welch ("neutron jack"), GE and others. There was a noticeable change in attitude. "Greed is good". Layoffs were good for the share price.

I really appreciate this comment, for offering an alternative perspective. It's easier to dehumanize someone after labeling them as a psychopath. I believe there are a few studies that claim psychopathy is overrepresented in the business world, so it is a thing, but sometimes it does feel like people latch onto this and take it to an extreme. No, not all business leaders are psychopathic! Most simply can't be, statistically speaking.

I think there are real problems with the current economic system, but that it would be easier to discuss solutions/alternatives when people aren't so eager to demonize each other.

I don't think the notion of "sociopath" used in the Gervais Principle has the same moral connotation that we typically associate with the word. That's why I prefer Eric Dietrich's term "opportunist" instead[0].

I agree with you sentiment regarding whether many line-level employees[1] really understand what is involved in running a company.

[0] https://www.daedtech.com/book/ [1] I include myself in that category

"Seems to me like its not so much that companies are run by sociopaths but that workers have trouble empathizing with a CEO and understanding that nothing is guaranteed."

I don't think it's this, but it's that, while a CEO may face troubles, they're nowhere near the troubles that a worker would face. When a CEO fucks up, at the very worst, they're going to get their golden parachute, and land on their feet. They can still get a job if they want, but they likely don't have to. Their families are not going to starve or go homeless.

Compare that to the average worker, who, even if they do everything right, has a decent chance of getting laid off simply because the executives fucked up. Now, they run the real risk of not being able to make their rent/mortgage. Their families might not be able to eat. And, on top of that, the executives will get bonuses.

So I recognize that a CEO is human. But I also recognize that they very rarely face the consequences of their actions, and that those consequences are usually nowhere near as drastic as the consequences that normal people face.

All that churn sounds inordinately expensive.

It almost seems like its time for someone to come along and disrupt the disruptors with a little good old fashioned loyalty and a modicum of institutionalized common sense.

Most of these "disruptive" companies are pissing away investors' money without actually accomplishing anything. They will never be productive or profitable, so there is no point in trying to out-compete them.

Edit: as far as the BigCos are concerned, this is also true of many of their internal teams that are chasing "moonshots" in parallel to the main business model. The "investors" in this case are the profitable parts of the BigCo.

It seems obvious to me that companies are inherently amoral. I'm not saying this is good, but does it really take a full blown sociopath to prioritize business goals over the repercussions of firing someone?

I don't run a business, maybe I don't want to with this in mind.

It doesn't seem like the "business goals" were why the author was fired, I'm not sure where you get that from. It is certainly possible that these companies simply couldn't afford to pay them. So it was a choice between firing them or being financially insolvent. I don't really know how firing one (or a few) people is less desirable over the entire company going under and everyone losing their jobs.
Companies are inherently non moral, non sentient, legal constructs. Any sense of morality comes from the people in the company, and they can be highly moral, immoral, or anything in between.
There's an interesting argument[1] that the behavior of corporations can be very accurately modeled as artificial intelligences that use humans as computing resources. If you accept that argument, it is no longer accurate to say that morality comes only from the people that make up the company, a company has its own agency that isn't just the sum of all of the decisions made by the individuals who make up the corporation.

[1] http://www.antipope.org/charlie/blog-static/2018/01/dude-you...

Yes. The paperclip maximizers are already here.
The primary goal of a business is to make its shareholders money. When you add public trading of corporate stock into the mix, you're essentially cementing that idea into how the business is run.
It is a matter of case law you prioritize a business over the people for a public co.

Ford v dodge bros

Even if you are in demand, none of these places have any honor. It is a shame too. People are usually ok at rolling with the punches if you just tell them one might be coming.

That, and as tempting as it may be to lay it all at the door of capitalism, I'm not sure that's fair. Even in a competition, honor still has some value. I'd put more of the blame on the aphysical conflict-averse types office work generally attracts.

In what world does honor have value for businesses? The business that is willing to like, steal, and cheat their way to higher profitability is going to outcompete the ones who will not. Even if they get bad PR just hire a company to clean up your image,rebrnd, or hide your activities behind a plethora of other companies and branda you own.

Nothing in the history of corporations has shown any preference for honor on their part

I was talking capitalism. In a market transaction between individuals, trustworthiness of the other party has some value.

You're talking corporations. "none of these places have any honor" I completely agree with you on corporations.

Honor is part of culture and culture is what attracts certain types of employees and customer loyalty.
>In what world does honor have value for businesses?

The one we live in. Honor and integrity are matters of justice. It is honorable to pay an agreed upon price for widgets. It is just. If one deviates from that they are painted as dishonorable and people don't like doing business with someone who has the reputation of being dishonorable (companies that lie to their clients or don't pay their bills).

>The business that is willing to like, steal, and cheat their way to higher profitability is going to outcompete the ones who will not.

Banks can do this unfortunately, but not other companies. You don't build a legacy like Ford, or Samuel Gawith in England by lying, cheating and stealing or treating your customers like trash.

Your examples include Ford who literally decided it was cheaper to let customers die instead of fixing their product[1] This is what I mean, just a little bit of PR and companies can get you to ignore literal manslaughter

[1]https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ford_Pinto

It would be fine if they weren't hypocrites.

They have zero loyalty yet they demand it from their employees.

What nobody told this unfortunate person is that working for a tech company is not the same as being a tech worker.

I'm not defending the two-tier system inside many tech companies, just pointing out that it's real and it's maintained by market forces bigger than any one company.

If a big Seattle software company lays off a team of programmers, recruiters are swarming around them by the end of the same day.

Absolutely. Not only that, but the experience as a tech worker is quite terrible at almost all companies and especially startups. The difference is, of course, that jobs are plenty and demand is high. If that's how they treat their developers, it should come as no surprise that everyone else is treated even worse. I can't imagine why anyone would want to work in this industry if they don't have some obsession with technology, nor that many people who don't have such an obsession make it long term. It's brutal, although probably less so out of the tech hubs like SF and Seattle, at small companies, and generally wherever people still have some human decency. Human decency in business, if it was ever there to begin with, seems to be declining heavily.
> the experience as a tech worker is quite terrible at almost all companies

But then you acknowledge the economics ("jobs are plenty and demand is high") and also say everyone else is treated worse - so "terrible" relative to what then?

Having been on the other side (hourly clerk and sales) I would say that tech workers are treated really really well.

Having plenty of jobs and being in high demand have nothing to do with being treated well on the job.
Yeah, either you're a programmer or you're a second-class citizen in many tech companies.
What's funny is it's completely the opposite in other industries. If your a tech worker for a non-tech company your the second class citizen.
Well, if you're a tech worker then I guess the solution is obvious.
You gotta understand, it's a reflection of supply and demand. Companies will treat you exactly how well you are valued by the marketplace, no better, no worse (in the long term average). There's an extremely vast oversupply of non-engineering talents (MBAs) etc, so they're treated poorly. At least with engineering there is some semblance of balance. There's still some oversupply of engineers but it's not nearly as vast as other areas.
Then I seriously don't understand why so many tech workers want to lower the bar for entrance into the profession and induce higher supply of tech workers. What they don't realize is that that won't make lives better for the new tech workers - it will just make it worse for existing tech workers (just like what mechanical engineers or lawyers went through).

This is probably the biggest con pulled by tech companies - play on egalitarian tendencies of tech workers to induce more supply and thus gain additional leverage over employees.

Correct. And it's been this way for a long, long time.

Back in the early 1990s, I recall browsing the "open positions" list, posted in the cafeteria at work and being shocked at the variance in starting salaries: Windows (3.0) Programming positions (C & Visual Basic) requiring no more than a high school education were offered at $70,000. Positions for PhD Chemists began at $35,000 and demanded a long list of accomplishments not limited to publications in major journals. "listed as primary inventor on one or more patents, a plus!"

So in summary, one trade could be learnt by a motivated self-directed student in the span of a summer, for no more cost than a short stack of books. The other required at least 6 years of advanced education and likely $50,000+ of debt -- a serious investment not only in time and money but also opportunity cost, as those 6 years are NOT being spent earning. Yet the former paid twice the latter. (And may still, for all I know.)

Obviously, this was a lead-up to the great wave of offshoring efforts. Executives must have noticed this variance as well.

Then are tech workers working in none technical organisation. A programmer in financial services or retail company. IT is seen as just a cost centre and there always seems to be mistrust between the IT department and the business. Most tech jobs in my country are not with tech companies but within industries.
That whole distinction between "IT" and "the business" makes me nuts. No one refers to marketing, sales, finance, production, etc., a thing separate from "the business" yet IT is just as fundamental to many businesses as any other function. Hearing IT people do it is worse.
:-) I will be sure to be more specific. Actually, I think it is the other way round. All other business units marketing, finance, communication are fairly well understood by everyone. When it comes to IT they don't understand why the DBA seems to earn a big salary but he cannot help fix the MS Word issue. Afterall it is IT. Therein lies the problem.
If your tech company sees IT as a cost center, then you're not working for a "Tech" company as described in the article. The mythical, utopian "Tech" company the writer wanted to be at is built on top of gossip about the perks of working for Facebook and Google, where free lunch (M-F) is assumed, so the question is what are the breakfast specials and dinner options? How many free Uber credits do I get per month? When is massage-day?

IT for this kind of "Tech" company is not a cost center. There's a closet or a vending machine chock full of Apple magic keyboards and magic trackpads at ~$100 a pop, plus all the USB-C adapters that you could want (because everyone new gets a touchbar mac).

The attitude is that it's not worth anybody's time to sit there to dispense $100 keyboards or mice, and that promotes the feeling that the company just... trusts everybody there. However, it's undoubtedly more expensive to stock Apple mice and keyboards that way, than it would be to have much cheaper wired alternatives and a minimum wage worker to gatekeep - at least in terms of IT's balance sheet. However, if any employee has to taking an hour off working, to replace their mouse (starting with filing a ticket with IT), the company has lost more than the cost of basically giving away $100 keyboards in productivity.

A good reminder that 'tech' is more than the people sitting in front of screens [mis]mashing code together.

It seems odd that the same code/infrastructure-y peculiarities of interviewing would get extended to marketing roles - why do you need a 5-person interview loop for things that revolve around communication and people skills? The only reason that those (awful) processes exist in the first place is because it's extremely difficult to judge a candidate's technical skills in a broad swath of concepts and technologies with limited time. But what sort of businessing doesn't require marketers? Is that sort of thing not reasonably figured out?

The author's last contracting stint also smells sort of like the 'gig economy'. Sort of like how nowhere hires janitors anymore - the company which owns the building contracts services like that out to another firm which rarely offers full employment.

Back to the 'rat race', eh?

wanting to solve a defined problem is a much better reason to join a certain company than on name alone. clearly the author just wanted a better salary. fine.

i agree that this has a limit. if one were to want to fix facebook's problems, you'd inevitably have someone tell you no.

"I wanted an easy life but instead got reality"

more news at 11

> They got unlimited paid time off (yes, you read that right—some companies offer unlimited vacation time to compete for talent).

I started reading the article with skepticism after that. At my previous startup, unlimited vacation time ended up meaning no vacation time. Sounds great in theory, not in practice. When I left, I did not get reimbursed for the unofficial ~15 paid vacation days we're technically allowed.

Exactly. I will never work again for a company with unlimited PTO.
I guess it depends on your company, At my company we have unlimited PTO and I definitely get more PTO days then people with a set number of PTO days at other companies.
Are you in engineering? Ask around sometime: The amount of time people feel entitled to take at “unlimited PTO” companies varies widely by department and role and how much competition there is for your position. People who feel extreme pressure to perform are likely to take much less time off, especially when they know they’re not entitled to a specific amount.
There's also this weird dynamic of not having number on paper. I once took off three weeks for vacation, first in a very long time, several years. When I got back, there was definitely this air of "so and so is finally back, working like the rest of us." Even with my direct management, it felt a lot like I had spent trust for time off.

Since then, I've worked in a large corporate job for a while now as well, and it's different. Here, management and I can look at my PTO sheet and see I've accrued X hours so I can take off Y weeks, and that's earned. It feels more like a contractual obligation at that point, and not just an off-the-cuff spree.

> I once took off three weeks for vacation, first in a very long time, several years. When I got back, there was definitely this air of "so and so is finally back, working like the rest of us." Even with my direct management, it felt a lot like I had spent trust for time off.

That's too bad. The person who sits to the left of me just got back from a 6 week long vacation and I have not noticed anyone being upset or treating them differently afterwards. We caught them up with the stuff that happened while they were gone and they went right back to helping the team.

Yea, I'm in the Engineering department and at my company it depends on your manager for the unlimited PTO. My manager is awesome so I can take time off pretty much whenever.
I was similarly skeptical about `Unlimited PTO` companies, but I am currently working at a tech startup in NYC with Unlimited PTO (we don't track time off) where the norm is for engineers to take about 4 (sometimes 5) weeks off a year.

The workload is high, but it's very common for engineers to take a week off after a big, stressful project is delivered.

Because the norm for vacation is set high, I don't feel bad about taking as much time off as I feel I need.

It really helps that our CTO also takes at least a 2 week vacation every year and takes time off for himself when he needs it.

Having said all this, I am not too optimistic, in that I don't believe this situation is very common in the industry.

When I worked for (WIFI) I got more days too, but less options and a meager wage compared to companies right down the street. They had an abusive scrum process and overly aggressive agile practices as well. Managers would coerce employees to revise and lower estimates on non-critical items thus increasing stress unecessarly and necessitating the need for a lot of people to take a lot of "mental health" days off.
That's my experience as well.

I was initially against it, but my company (or at least my department?) is now very good at making sure people get sufficient time off.

Yea I've been reminded by my manager more then once to make sure to take time off when I first started the job which is awesome, it made me feel like unlimited PTO was actually the policy.
Why didn't you take time off?
Whenever I asked, there would always be some project, deadline or fire. It was my first job out of college. I was naive and didn’t realize ‘no’ was an acceptable answer. With unlimited vacation days, it was this gray area where I didn’t know where the line should be draw. When you don’t draw the line, management will draw that line for you.
How far in advance did they have deadlines and fires that you couldn't get time off? Seems strange to me, but I guess it really depends on management.
I worked on the Data Science team. We were headcount strapped. At the same time, we were crucial to the rest of the business operation. At the time, data science positions were hard to fill. At least when you don’t want to fork out exorbitant compensation. On the one hand, we managed our own infrastructure which was unstable at the time. On the other hand, there were a constant stream of business campaigns (every week) which depended on the data science team updating the data warehouse. I got sick my first week, and even then was coerced to come in. That set precedence for me about what the expectations were.
I think the only way to get around this loophole is for companies that offer "unlimited vacation" to have a mandatory minimum amount of vacation, and if you leave without taking the full mandatory minimum you're compensated based on those unused vacation days.

For instance, if I were running/when I run a company I'd offer unlimited vacation with a two week mandatory minimum, which rolls over up to a four week mandatory minimum. So if you only use one week of vacation in year 1 and then leave, you'd be paid for a week's worth of vacation. If you stay on to year two, your new mandatory minimum is three weeks and you'd be compensated accordingly if you left without using it all.

I worked for one company where, as soon as the old earned time-off balances were wiped away, management of the biggest engineering group started telling people they couldn't take more than 4 weeks off. Sure, it was 3 weeks before the change, but you could roll it over, or be paid for it if you left.
Back in my 20's I had a girlfriend who simply could not handle the opportunistic, hit-or-miss nature of finding work in tech.

I ended up breaking up with her. I just couldn't tolerate that kind of friction and lack of support when I was already under the pressure of a job transition.

Even when I succeeded in landing a better paying job she was never truly happy for me. From my point of view it felt like a lack of trust.

With the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, I see how I failed to understand the emotional burden I was asking her to carry for me.

I haven't worked for that many companies, but every company I've worked for has fired a marketing department. Usually because they realized their marketing department was useless.
> I'd always heard growing up that if you make yourself indispensable, you'll never get fired.

This is terrible advice. Indispensable people are your team's biggest weakness, and your boss knows it. If you become the single point of failure, you're a problem to be fixed.

Yep, make yourself 'invaluable' instead. If you're always returning a disproportionate value, whatever the task, you are doing it right.

If you make yourself 'indispensable', the best that can happen is that you're never fired but never promoted. The worst is that you're a target for replacement.

Also you will be prone to burn-out because you might never get a break.
Every company of reasonable size takes into account the "bus factor"
Yes, I can empathize with getting frustrated both facing the superficially hyper-positive, but in reality severely opportunistic and ruthless nature of startup culture, and with being treated like a freely interchangable, faceless number in a large company. Been there both, and it was harrowing.

That said - and it's hard not to sound condescending here - halfway through the article I found myself agreeing with his girlfriend when she described his state of mind as "delusional".

Going after what has been said in the article: What did he actually expect as someone with absolutely no experience and no education and/or skillset for the job beyond those transferable from being a waiter? (The often underrated value of those notwithstanding). And the primary motivation being "I want to work 'in tech' and have it made!" (And not, say, being interested in at least aspects of the core field or product of the company.) And the only actual mention of what his work was at those companies being "marketing" and "whiteboard[ing] the shit out of everything." (Because writing with colorful markers on a whiteboard makes you look important.)

This screams "disposable", or more benevolently "likely one of the first to be let go when things go south", no matter the kind of company or field, or even the type of job at the company.

I don't have as much sympathy for this person as I probably should. So someone decided being a waiter sucked and they wanted one of those cushy tech jobs. Without much self awareness as to why they exist or which jobs are valuable. Later in the article they almost figure it out:

> One of the more apparent lessons I've learned during all this is that when working in tech, anyone is dispensable, from the C-suite to the sales floor. (Actually, IT is untouchable, and rightfully so.)

This former waiter then proceeds to land not one but three tech jobs. Based on what qualifications? Apparently just good networking skills. Wow, what a rough industry. Oh I almost forgot they turned down a fourth job because that would have meant relocation.

It sounds like "tech" was willing to give a go-getter chance after chance and either due to their performance or the company's performance it just didn't stick. Maybe despite many people being willing to give the author a chance, he/she just wasn't qualified to do the job?

I stopped sympathising with the writer after "... very smart people who deserved work...". The way I see it, if you come in with this mindset of the world owing anybody anything, then you are surely in for a big disappointment. The world doesn't care about a particular human any more than it cares about a particular amoeba.