Caring about the people you interact with doesn’t require being attached to them. If you understand this, you can have fulfillment while avoiding most kinds of emotional pain.
Consent has nothing to do with actually caring about you. Never mistake the two. It's really simple he continously asked you those things because a single touch where you didn't it and he didn't ask you can ruin his life.
This was well-written and I enjoyed reading it. It's always tempting in stories without happy endings to ascribe fault. But to ascribe fault is to ascribe morality, that one person or the other did something wrong.
But nobody anything wrong here. Just two people with different expectations and learned behaviors that just didn't match up.
One thing I learned recently is that there was zero concept of adolescence before modern times. Until around a few hundred years ago, once you hit around 13, you were considered an adult. Louis XV was crowned king of France at 13 after a regency that began when his father died, he was 5.
We should celebrate the ability to make mistakes in life. We didn't always have it.
I liked this article a lot. The implication of him asking for consent was that he respected her. Three things reveal that wasn’t true: his non-understanding of what is intimate in sex, his not believing she needed to ask for consent, and his decision to ignore her when he was done.
The conversation around consent is _supposed_ to be about respect. Unfortunately some people don’t actually care about respecting others, and just use consent as a means of covering their ass legally.
These kinds of assumptions are a recipe for misery. And laws are not a way to police how things are _supposed_ to be.
If you want a reasonably good chance of knowing that your potential love interest respects you, there's really only one good way to do it. You talk with them for a long time, months, without having sex. All those things the old-timers did? They did them for a reason.
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[ 3.2 ms ] story [ 35.5 ms ] threadBut nobody anything wrong here. Just two people with different expectations and learned behaviors that just didn't match up.
One thing I learned recently is that there was zero concept of adolescence before modern times. Until around a few hundred years ago, once you hit around 13, you were considered an adult. Louis XV was crowned king of France at 13 after a regency that began when his father died, he was 5.
We should celebrate the ability to make mistakes in life. We didn't always have it.
The conversation around consent is _supposed_ to be about respect. Unfortunately some people don’t actually care about respecting others, and just use consent as a means of covering their ass legally.
If you want a reasonably good chance of knowing that your potential love interest respects you, there's really only one good way to do it. You talk with them for a long time, months, without having sex. All those things the old-timers did? They did them for a reason.