> The fact is, people who base their self-worth on being right about everything prevent themselves from learning from their mistakes. They lack the ability to take on new perspectives and empathize with others. They close themselves off to new and important information.
I saw many junior devs who thought they knew so much that they almost stopped to be curious and find the truth and knowledge out there, and I saw many devs who thought they were experts and just stopped to learn anything.
I've worked with previous my boss's son. This guy felt like he was the best at everything and would get annoyed if people gave him critical feedback on anything he did and would insist he was right. Therefore, even when more experienced people told him things he disagreed with, he wouldn't accept their opinion and keep doing it his way.
This caused a lot of people to not want to work with him and, in the end, was a major part of why I ended up quitting.
People like that are impossible to work with. It's a flavour of narcissism where the person in question is never wrong, cannot be wrong, so any mistakes are obviously someone else's fault.
I don't think this could ever be considered factual, but it makes sense to me.
In times where I'm invested in being right, it's harder to accept learning that I had been wrong, and I'm certainly not seeking out more information with which to challenge my understanding.
It's difficult to think of examples "from this site" because I rarely remember the posters' names.
I would point to cryptocurrencies as a rich source of extremely wrong takes: how bitcoin would replace paypal and credit cards, how government conspiracies would try to fight it, etc. None of those predictions came to pass, to put it mildly. What I can't offer is specific instances of people pivoting from "it's a currency! It even has 'coin' in its name!" to "it's not a currency! It's a store of value". But I'm sure there must be some.
I also remember when here (and, possibly, on slashdot before HN) one overdone "meme" was criticising CSI-style shows for "enhance!" making low-res images of license plates readable. "You cannot recover information that isn't there!" the comment would go, and it was the easiest upvote to get.
Today, there are plenty of AI demos that can, indeed, reconstruct license plates from low-res. Turns out the information wasn't actually lost. Unfortunately, I'm denied the gratification of all those people writing apologies, and I can't prove that they are the ones posting "It's not intelligence, it's just statistics!" today.
Nuclear power might be another example on a pretty good multi-decades run of varying other reactor technologies (pebble bed, fusion, etc) always on the cusp of breakthrough. This example is especially funny, because the actual scientists working on energy, and even the supposedly stupid politicians, have now created alternatives that are safe, clean, and close to competing with even coal in economic terms, let alone the far more expensive nuclear tech. Yet the wider tech community disregards this economic argument, and insists on fighting the public on safety. They just can't let go because they feel they were wronged on that issue in the 80s and 90s. Which is at least plausible, but it just doesn't really matter any more. There's a strong undercurrent of cultural grievances here, as if people were forever living in the science fiction of their youth.
well yes, I was being sarcastic but I'm glad it sparked this high value comment you wrote. It is easy to see how the 'consensus narrative' changes, as the accounts are censored and their comments are in fact promoted by the collective community. But it is impossible to see who was part of that collective community.
I would argue that is a bit poorly phrased. One can base their self-worth on being right and simultaneously be humble enough to understand one can never truly know it all and thus be open to criticism and improvement.
Or is there something deeper from the book that better explains the point?
The book is full of gross generalizations and anecdotes. It's a self help/pop psychology book meant to make you feel good, not a proper scientific analysis. That said, it's still a good book that I enjoyed reading and I have a list of quotes saved in a text file that have helped me understand certain family members.
Came across that in audiobook form not long after a really toxic abusive relationship with someone who suffers from a textbook case of narcissistic personality disorder.
The chapter about the author's wannabe hustler friend described them like it was a biography.
> They lack the ability to take on new perspectives and empathize with others.
It often feels like this, "everyone is dead inside but me", and when we make these sweeping generalizations we'll find plenty of instances to justify them. But we really can't peer in each others' heads, and over time I realized that when I acted on these kinds of assumptions, I behaved like a fucking tool.
It can be a bit uncomfortable to realize that what we think of as "us" these thoughts and feelings we internalize and think of as unique... aren't so I can understand some resistance to recognize the depths and thoughts of others... or being like everyone else.
Prior to reading this article, I was arrogant and conceited. Now I know to proceed through life with intellectual humility in order to amass knowledge.
Came here to say that - actually, I'm impersonating a humble person, which is even better. I feel like I'm still getting the benefit of superior knowledge.
There's a saying in some Indian languages, which I'll paraphrase: the tree which bears a lot of fruit is always bent over. In other words, the person (tree) with lots of knowledge (fruit) is humble (bent over).
Meaning: noble and virtuous persons are always humble and and are always committed to help others and compares them to a tree bowing down with the weight of its fruits. In contrast dull and foolish persons are always rigid and unadjusting like dried wood.
This is a description of the Dunning-Kruger effect. While Dunning-Kruger is a popular topic around tech circles, I'm not so sure about the general population. I wish people weren't so ignorant about their own ignorance.
Edit: Adding clarity
People who have superior general knowledge have greater intellectual humility because they are more aware of their own ignorance and the complexities of the subject matter. Those who do not have superior knowledge are subject to the Dunning-Kruger effect.
Isn't it subjective when we consider the reality of the fish versus the reality of the human? Even among two humans the cornerstones of your psychic landscape can be vastly different. Are you talking about elemental reality? Any "elemental reality" that leaves out the vital elements of psyche, behavior, habit, preference, and perception would clearly omit a lot of vital information in coming to know Reality with a capital R.
You two might not realize how happy that makes me feel. It's like when I discovered how popular the Master and Margarita is on HN. Never underestimate the depth and diversity of interests among your peers!
I have always read that as "The good people are paralyzed by doubt (right now)" - a bad thing for them and for us. The context is a list of ways the world is falling apart.
Reminds me of a Robert Hughes quip: "The greater the artist, the greater the doubt; perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a consolation prize".
1) I am willing to admit if I don't know something.
2) I like to compliment others on their intellectual strengths.
3) I try to reflect on my weaknesses in order to develop my intelligence.
4) I actively seek feedback on my ideas, even if it is critical.
5) I acknowledge when someone knows more than me about a certain subject.
6) If someone doesn't understand my idea, it's probably because they aren't smart enough to get it. (reverse)
7) I sometimes marvel at the intellectual abilities of other people.
8) I feel uncomfortable when someone points out one of my intellectual shortcomings. (reverse)
9) I don't like it when someone points out an intellectual mistake that I made. (reverse)
Critique: I can see some confounding problems right away. When I was younger I was pretty painfully shy, so (4) I would not seek feedback, but not out of a lack of humility. Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing. Also maybe I'm a wierdo but I don't think so much in terms of people being "smart", I think it is something you do. That is, it's hard work.
And with (8) and (9), it takes training to not feel uncomfortable or to not dislike it when someone points out your mistakes or shortcomings. I don't think that is really related to humility. In fact if you are super critical of yourself and judge yourself poorly compared to other people, you still hate it if anybody else points it out.
Note that being great in every of these aspects can lead to suffering. Because most people don't and you'll be talked down regularly to the point of breaking. And it's utterly difficult to keep respect for people when you try to be balanced, team oriented and generous when others only know how to assert their POV and limited experience.
I agree with you. My honest answers to each of questions (save 8 and 9) are what the researchers would probably consider the "correct" response. Personally I don't like it when people point out my shortcomings or errors, but I'd argue those questions are under-specified. I may not like it, but I'll welcome it and earnestly assume they have some insight I do not.
In any case I think it makes me an unenjoyable person to be around. I more or less don't engage in opinionated discussion with people unless I'm intimately familiar with the topic at hand. Then it's no longer discussing opinions but trading facts. When I do engage, it's usually to ask questions of the other person's opinion without really challenging them. While I might agree with their opinions, I'm reluctant to refute them unless I can systematically prove them wrong. That's usually not possible, because they often know more than I do about any given topic. When I am asked questions directly I hedge my answers extensively.
When I was younger I used to take pride in this, but now I find it isolating. It's difficult to relate to people like this.
Like most people I also dislike being wrong. I’m also game for disagreements, which means I’m wrong a lot, easily the most on my team at work. I’d hesitate to say that makes me more “enjoyable” to my teammates.
More likely people find me difficult to take seriously because I’ll passionately argue for something I don’t necessarily have the best evidence for and then immediately give up and say I’m wrong when someone gives me the evidence I’m looking for.
There's a thing called.. hmm .. positive negotiation ? when you interact with someone by always aiming at finding a middleground/compromise, rather than arguing for the sake of it.
Your point reminds me of something that I'm seeing (IIUC). A lot of the time people will assert more than they know (I do that sometimes too[0]) and the discussion will stop. By insisting even at the risk at being wrong, you force everybody to show their hand and sometimes they'll realize that they may be wrong or off point and that they need to reevaluate the situation. .. We're tribal, even in scientific fields.
> By insisting even at the risk at being wrong, you force everybody to show their hand and sometimes they'll realize that they may be wrong or off point and that they need to reevaluate the situation
If this was more common, I think the world would start to become a much better place surprisingly quickly, at a cost of people suffering a little minor intellectual humiliation until they started to be more disciplined about their beliefs.
I feel similarly and agree about the responses. I typically avoid political arguments or heavily opinionated conversations. Maybe it's because I'm still young (I'll be 30 in a couple years) but I don't think this makes me an unenjoyable person to be around.
I like having _good_ conversations, and can still have them about controversial or opinionated subjects. If I don't know enough about a topic to offer my opinion I like to ask questions that will offer some insight as to why the person feels so strongly. Usually (not always) when someone feels very strongly about something, there is some kernel of truth somewhere that will at least be interesting. It's fun to at least figure out _why_ people think they way they do.
I used to have a bad habit of being a devil's advocate. I'm sure it was annoying when I was even younger, but I've found that faking (exploring) an opinion can help give the conversation some depth. Nowadays I do that less, but can get away with it if I preface it nicely enough.
This resonates with me to a surprising extent. My perceived threshold for expressing an opinion is very high, and I also find that I don't really have any particularly _strong_ opinions to begin with.
The "hedge my answers extensively" bit is spot-on, as is the isolating nature of this "trait", unfortunately.
My problem lies in being open minded to hearing out someone who, after enough conversing, has an opinion that you’ve delved into deeply before and have seen the glaring shortcomings of, and when that individual is not open to those factual shortcomings.
That is- dealing with stubborn, close minded people, is incredibly difficult to stay open for me- in the best case I just move on.
> and when that individual is not open to those factual shortcomings.
That's when you should play the part of being stubborn and close-minded yourself, if this is what it takes to ensure that your points are heard. Intellectual humility is the best case, but sometimes it is best to cut one's losses.
While I cannot 100% agree with 0815test's statements (mainly because I don't see discussion as a win/lose battle, counting points, cutting losses...), there is in fact a certain motivation to take the stubborn position. When you look at the real world examples of people who successfully spread their ideas, unfortunately quite often there will be a certain degree of stubborness. It might be called different names - determination, believing in one's goals, but the effect is the same - at a certain point they will refuse to accept an alternative idea, even without any hard data. And by doing that, they might earn a social position that allows them to spread the ideas among many. Sometimes they even turn out to be right, sometimes not, but it was the aura of close-minded belief in themselves that brought them followers. Honestly, I'm a little disappointed that it works like this, because I would really prefer if deliberate polite factual discussion was always the norm.
Sounds to me like you enter conversations with a pre-made idea of what you want the conclusion to be.
Questions to ask yourself if you feel that way regularly:
Have you considered that various shortcomings might hold different weights to people depending on their background, experience in other adjacent domains, etc? That what is factual for you might not be so to others?
How do you know that your analysis of the shortcomings are correct/pertinent? That the person you're talking to hasn't delved in it as deeply as you have and just reached a different conclusion? Are you the close minded one for having decided early in the conversation that because you've thought about it in a certain way in the past, any interlocutor who thinks of it differently is necessarily wrong and stubborn?
I do give the benefit of the doubt for as long as I can. I admit to understanding positions that are premised on different values. I have a hard time when once I understand the values, inaccurate steps are taken to reach a false conclusion.
What I’m talking about is more akin to talking with someone making a mistake in a proof, being pointed out the mistake, but still digging their feet in to not admit the mistake.
I’m fine if assumptions aren’t shared, but not when conclusions don’t follow logically from assumptions.
Being open minded isn’t akin to listening to everything and anything- there are limits.
So no, it is not that ‘I enter conversations with a pre-made idea of what [I] want the conclusion to be.’
Well sure everyone does, to some degree. But I thought dyarosla's clarification was quite sound, particularly this part: I admit to understanding positions that are premised on different values.
In my experience, a lot of people are completely ignorant of this important idea, that values (or axioms) are a crucially important part of disagreements, that someone may be approaching the same general topic from a very different perspective than you. Not only do some people not know/appreciate this, I've encountered several people who completely reject this idea if you point it out to them.
I readily affirm that feelings are most important, but it's pretty common to refuse to abandon one's feelings or one's facts and logic in the name of consistency.
It's not that someone can expect you to feel differently because they've presented a logical argument. That's not likely or expected.
> Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing.
I don't think of this in terms of intellectual fitness, but when I realise I made a wrong step in my modelling of the world I generally take a moment to reflect on where I went wrong and what I could do differently in the future to avoid similar pitfalls.
> Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing.
What's the difference between curiosity and a drive to develop your (crystallized) intelligence?
And during the process of learning what interests you, do you ever find that something tangentially related, you don't fully understand and should learn more about it.
I don't think anyone literally thinks, I need to know this to improve my intelligence as it is a weakness. It's usually more abstract.
I'm not sure your critiques invalidate the questions. This questionnaire isn't a value judgment on who you are as a person, it is simply exploring your behavior. Having good reasons for not giving the "right" answers doesn't mean the questions aren't poking at valid points.
I agree with all your points, especially (8) and (9). I think people who answer "no" to these questions because they lack self-awareness or because they are giving "right" answers instead of honest ones will far outnumber the people who have managed to completely eradicate their insecurity.
> Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing.
Given the amount of cognitive bias each of us has, I'd say an important part of intellectual curiosity is making effort to learn to think better. I mean, a flat-Earther 9/11-truther astrologer could still claim to be primarily motivated by "intellectual curiosity".
The flat-Earther 9/11-truther astrologer probably really is primarily motivated by "intellectual curiosity", he probably just has poor priors. Which is to say, he's seeing that world as he's seeing it, it's just that something in his lower intellectual foundation is rotten.
The interesting question is whether that specific bit of rotten reasoning is still accessible to alteration after one has passed through that specific phase of neuroplasticity.
I agree about not thinking about people being "smart" or not. I think everyone's interest just varies and sometimes their interests intersect with what people think of as "smart things".
One of my friends called me a genius the other day, but I'm just really nerdy about something that makes money. He's really into comics and is a walking encyclopedia of characters, timelines, stories and arcs, but wouldn't consider that "smart stuff", even though it is to me.
> Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing.
It would be more apt to, if you were writing code that has some level of networking involved. During this you think "I don't remember/know much of the OSI model, so I should go read up on the model to better understand the code I am writing". Instead of just trying different things and adapting examples not understanding what it is actually doing.
I would add some important evaluations. These are some less obvious, deeper aspects of intellectual humility:
10) I accept that someone with less experience may have better ideas than I have, even in my own field of expertise.
11) Even if I am not certain of myself, I am willing to suggest and defend my ideas because they deserve equal treatment.
12) I am willing to forgo new ideas when they hurt momentum too much.
13) I am willing to forgo momentum when the benefits of new ideas outweigh the costs.
14) When I feel it is right to assert my position, I am able and willing to back down if I receive feedback that changes my assumptions.
15) I know when to humbly defer decisions to the team even though I believe the team's decision is less than ideal. People are more important than problems to be solved.
>>10) I accept that someone with less experience may have better ideas than I have, even in my own field of expertise.
There are also people who assume their ideas in fields they don’t have experience in are good, precisely because of that lack of experience. They think their “outsider’s perspective” significantly increases their likelihood of being correct because they “think outside the box” or some such. It’s the opposite of humility, and supremely frustrating to deal with!
12 is about recognizing when you're changing too quickly, 13 is about recognizing when you're changing too slowly. A lack of intellectual humility can impede you either way.
> 6) If someone doesn't understand my idea, it's probably because they aren't smart enough to get it. (reverse)
One of my high school teachers said something like: if someone doesn't understand your explanation, then you don't know it as well as you think you do.
It's also quite possible they lack the domain knowledge to receive a succinct explanation of the problem and evaluate if a solution actually solves it.
It is even more true in the real world when the discussions are between people with different knowledge. Do people recognize someone from another background as a peer or not?
That is possible, but it is unwise to bet that way.
Why?
First, because far more things can be explained to an intelligent lay person than most of us realize, and figuring out how to do so improves our own understanding. Therefore it is worthwhile to make the attempt.
Second, because it is far too easy to fool ourselves into thinking that we're making a succinct explanation that requires domain knowledge when actually we're spouting just enough jargon to remind those who agree with us of shared and possibly unexamined dogma. There is a real cost to mental habits that make such mental mistakes easier to make and sustain.
So yes. The other person may be too ignorant/stupid/whatever to understand you. But the alternative explanations should be disproven before you conclude that.
if someone doesn't understand your explanation, it might be that you don't understand the person well enough or you don't know the correct way to explain to that person in a plain language
I always respond in layers. The first layer is to say I work in computers. If they want to know more, they'll ask. If there is a follow up question that doesn't make it clear they're tech savvy, I'll explain one level deeper. I work on the website for x company, or I help secure your credit card info at such and such back. It doesn't matter if you're front end, back end, dba, network, sysadmin, help desk, etc. Just something that a regular human might recognize as being a thing. Most people don't know what those job titles mean, but they know people must do something to make websites work and secure credit cards. And so on and so forth until it's satisfied their curiosity.
The key thing is knowing that their level of curiosity may not be what you prefer. I've come to terms that people often don't actually care about understanding what I do and would rather just make assumptions about it. If you can't accept that and let it be, you can become a very despondent person. :) And then when you try to correct their misunderstanding, you just make them unhappy too. Everyone loses.
Yep, if they're not actually interested, which is usually the case, you're either going to bore them or insult them because it will come off as bragging.
> When I was younger I was pretty painfully shy, so (4) I would not seek feedback, but not out of a lack of humility.
To fix such a things in a questionnaire there are 9 questions. Maximum score you could possible get is 9 times 7 = 63, but probably not many people would get so much. Even those who are super humble.
> Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing.
So you do not reflect on your weaknesses in order to develop intelligence? Or you are doing it sometimes, when it is obvious for you that your task needs more intelligence from you? Maybe 3 as an answer would fit?
> I don't think that is really related to humility.
Good questionnaires are not like a random internet ones. There are special methods allowing to ensure that questionnaire is measuring what we want to measure, not something else. For example, you can measure intellectual humility based on the interviewing a participant, and then ask participant to fill a questionnaire with a 50 questions (or maybe 150, as much as your creativity could devise), that you think might be good. Get 50 participants, or maybe 100. The more is better, but it is a long and difficult task, to interview 100 people, and if you used a several PhD students as interviewers, than you need to control for interviewer also, because different people could get different results even when asking the same questions. So you would need even more participants to get a statistical significance. Number of questions itself also increases the number of data points needed.
After you gathered data, you would run it through R to find questions that are the best fit, to reduce questionnaire to bearable size. Probably after it you should test your new questionnaire by the same tactic you invented it. You even might need to do this, if at the first stage you got insufficient number of participants. But now you would need no factor analysis or something like, just a correlation would be enough. Or maybe chi-square.
I didn't read an article itself, but it is a published paper in a reviewed journal, so I bet it is done good, not just authors picked 9 questions on a random. Therefore I bet, that if you don't think that it is really related to humility, than you probably should change your mind and think the other way around. If it somehow important for you, I'd suggest to find a full text of paper describing methods used to devise a questionnaire and read them through. Maybe you are right after all. There might be a statistical mistakes, mistakenly used statistical methods for example, or some issues with the data gathering.
This test is aimed at the median of the population. However it could be altered slightly.
Answer yes or no AND write a short explanation of why.
Then the judge of the answer sheet should decide if points for or against are awarded for each question.
As an example, I just am really bad at complimenting others. Both because my own overall standards are so high and also because that was never a skill I learned; so I'm actually very shy at doing so. Maybe I should have been complimented more, and better trained as a child to compliment others.
I explained 6 in a different reply under this thread. However a different way of getting the data (which would be better and yield a clearer view) could be to ask: "If someone doesn't understand my idea what are the possible reasons?"
7) This one is just painful. It really depends on who you're exposed to on a daily basis and how you relate to them. I _have_ marveled at how smart, driven, or successful some others are... mostly the successful and driven parts though.
8/9) Emotional reactions are different from how you try to handle emotional reactions.
I feel like for 8 and 9, the right answer is actually that you are uncomfortable and don't like it.
The only people who would deny those things are phonies who aren't in touch with themselves. Accept it, acknowledge it, account for the bias it brings. Then maybe one could work on it.
I'll say this gets causality backwards. Intellectual humility is a luxury of the obviously skilled. In a room of smart people where everyone is competing for influence and attention, admitting your lack of knowledge can be a real handicap. When I was younger rather than admit anything I just kept my mouth shut. Now when I am in a room, no one questions I know what I am talking about, and I can usually establish my expertise with a few choice observations. This gives me a lot of lattitude to ask questions and admit what I (or what we all) don't know, because I have the social standing to get away with it.
I'm not sure this is necessarily a mark of my humility.
You're also getting at why it's difficult for those underrepresented in industry to make headway or gain knowledge. It's not as easy as "we have a diverse team". :)
Which brings us to an even more important facet of humility, being aware enough to know you're uncomfortable with certain people _because you're unfamiliar_. Most people are not nearly as cosmopolitan as they imagine themselves to be.
Yes and no. Yes, being known as one of the ones who knows gives you freedom to say "I don't know" without being judged. In the past few years, I've started feeling that freedom. (Maybe others wouldn't have judged me before. Maybe the issue is that now I don't judge myself for not knowing.)
But no, being the one who doesn't know in a room full of those who do shouldn't stop you from learning. There are two different cases here, though.
If you're in a sane (not too political, and not too toxic) environment, just ask when you don't know something. (Don't do it so often that you hijack the meeting, but do it once or twice a meeting.) You will often be speaking for others as well who don't know but are unwilling to admit their ignorance (unless you're the only junior person). Your asking can free them to also ask and also learn.
If you are in a toxic or political environment, you still need to learn, without getting destroyed. That's harder. You need to try to find out who it's safe to ask. But the bigger task in that environment, in my opinion, is to not learn to be political or toxic yourself.
I think that is a good point. However, when I skimmed the article my thoughts were of the opposite people: the people who brag about their skills but then end up having very few skills in that area.
The article points out that there are conflicting studies. Personally I don't believe there is a strong correlation (one way or the other) between intellectual humility, intelligence or breadth of knowledge. But my opinion on that matter is entirely unqualified; all I have to go on is basic anecdata I've observed along with my own interiority.
While reading through the article I found this interesting:
> In terms of insight, higher scorers in intellectual humility were less likely to claim knowledge they didn’t have (the researchers tested this by assessing participants’ willingness to claim familiarity with entirely fictitious facts that they couldn’t possibly know), and they also tended to underestimate their performance on a cognitive ability test.
I can appreciate the reasoning behind asking that question, but the fact that it's so useful for judging intellectual humility saddens me. Why would a person spontaneously respond, "Yes" when asked if they're familiar with a thing they know they aren't? What does that say about us as a species, that this behavior is so prevalent?
We have a long history of education based on punishment, reward, and PR.
Myself I've felt compelled to pretend to know-it-all out of fear of being excluded. Being excluded is not a naive thing, it could mean not getting any job, and falling in disgrace and being hated by a majority of people. It happened to me for saying the wrong thing in the wrong place at the wrong time to the wrong people.
There is also the problem of PR, the post-modern fallacy, people who think they can convince anyone of anything just to get what they want, because truth is relative, and it doesn't really matter if you are good or competent as long as you get a seat at the big table.
Modern western society has a low tolerance for ignorance, which is sad given that many people is ignorant not out of their will, they were just dealt a bad hand. Also, it is very difficult for ignorant people to get out of their ignorance if nobody helps them, there are unknown unknowns which they cannot see without external help.
Using "aperçus" in an article about intellectual humility? Ironic, I'm pretty sure. Unless I'm just unfamiliar with inexplicable pluralization being appropriate.
I took it as a tongue in cheek thing, but if you look here https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=now%207-d&geo=... you might find the results amusing. Apparently a decent amount of people reading an article about intellectual humility are the type to google a word they don't know.
Good for them! I looked it up, too, to see if there was a common usage I'm unfamiliar with. I am a non-native French speaker, and the pluralization didn't make sense to me, but I thought maybe this was a case where I was unaware of a word being re-appropriated and used differently in English. It does seem to show up as plural, but without the accent. I still don't really know, though.
The pluralization does exist, as “those who have perceived” or “those which have been perceived”, but it is indeed a grammatical error in the article's usage. The ç is always correct, but accents are a common casualty of transliteration and informal writing.
> A final study showed that participants who read a popular magazine article about the malleability of intelligence (designed to foster a “growth mindset”) subsequently scored higher on intellectual humility than another group who read an article about intelligence being fixed.
> What’s more, those in the growth mindset condition went on to display a more positive approach when imagining dealing with someone with opposing views, and this seemed to be driven by their increased intellectual humility.
I find this part interesting as it might explain why some communities are so toxic and other... nicer: the niceness can spread between members. So the first few members are very important in setting up the community's culture.
Isn’t there a chance it’s the other way round. People might start off arrogant but once they acquire enough superior general knowledge they figure they know jack and forces them to be humble ? It’s a common enough fallacy to get cause and effect backwards.
Is the article implying causation or just correlation? Because either cause->effect pathway would imply correlation. The pathway you describe seems like a common way to get to humility, through actually learning how little domain knowledge you have.
There is also a chance these concept correlate because they share many of the same characteristics, i.e. they are mostly the same thing.
Measuring psychological concept is far easier then then rigid and if you align one question or answer to one concept there is a good chance you are actually measuring the other, or both. In fact the very concept of general intelligence has been severely criticized for this. To an extend that many psychologist (and laymen like my self) don’t even belief it exists.
> People might start off arrogant but once they acquire enough superior general knowledge they figure they know jack and forces them to be humble ?
There are too many other variables at play - i.e. inherent psychological disposition, environmental and social factors, institutional incentives - to know how cause and effect work in the development of intellectual humility.
But sometimes arrogance in general (and perhaps intellectual arrogance too) is itself just a thin defense against a dominating unexamined insecurity about oneself.
If acquiring more general knowledge helps make you more comfortable with yourself, it might make you more intellectually humble, but it could also do nothing, or even the opposite.
I know that there isn't a lot of scientific support for Myers-Briggs vs the Big 5 personality test - but I always found the "judging" vs "perceiving" aspect of Myers-Briggs to be sonewhat meaningful in understanding people's mindsets. I think this article clarified for me that the factor I was actually looking for boiled down to intellectual humility. It would be interesting if they did do myers-Briggs and other personality inventories alongside these studies just to see if it really does match up.
I hate to nitpick but "superior general knowledge" should probably be "more depth and breadth in general knowledge." Superior is subjective and in this context sounds elitist.
I'm reminded of something Jesse James said on Monster Garage (I'm sure he wasn't the first to say it and he is not the best role model himself but...) If a guy says he knows everything he probably doesn't but the real experts are the ones that are more humble about their skills.
Makes sense. Well educated people have educational credentials that protect their self-esteem. They can afford to be intellectually humble. Admitting to mistakes or ignorance doesn't hurt as much.
I think this article overlooks a crucial factor, which is ego insecurity. People with an exaggerated sense of overconfidence often learn and achieve more, because their overconfidence serves as a buffer against insecurity, and their inflated self-importance gives them motivation to work hard.
A certain amount of overconfidence is an integral part of being a healthy, thriving human being. People who are depressed have more accurate self-assessments than healthy people. Humility exposes a person to a lot of unpleasant, aversive feelings that can convince them that their energy is not being well spent, making it hard to continue investing at a high enough level to achieve much.
I think it's good to learn the ideas and skills of humility. I think it's important to recognize that it's unpleasant to find out that we're wrong, and we have a natural tendency to avoid unpleasant things, so we have to consciously and actively compensate for our tendency to preserve our own mistaken assumptions. However, I wonder if it's really healthy to internalize humility, to give up a subconscious way of thinking associated with high functioning and adopt a subconscious way of thinking that is associated with depression.
Ideally we'd all have such unassailable emotional security that we wouldn't be bothered by an accurate degree of humility. In reality, I think we have to fake it, and I think a lot of the people preaching this gospel of "you shouldn't feel bad when you find out you're wrong" are faking it too. But that's okay. Our full being is a combination of our messy human psyche that isn't designed for the things we try to use it for and the conscious ideas by which we interact with it. Sometimes these parts are compare to an elephant and a rider — the tiny rider on top is the part of our mind that we consciously control. I think it's okay if that's the only part that really practices humility.
I think this is an interesting point, but responding to the last part ("...a lot of the people preaching this gospel of "you shouldn't feel bad when you find out you're wrong" are faking it too. But that's okay.")
I think there are different levels of "feeling bad". When I'm wrong about something, it certainly doesn't feel good, and in some cases it really sucks, but I don't then generalize that feeling to represent something intrinsic to myself. I think the crux is separating the bad feeling of the instance from an overall bad feeling. Ie - I got this one wrong, but that doesn't mean I'm stupid.
As an artist i must say that this is actually the opposite of what you want to be when making inovative art. You have to push your world view so hard that it becomes real.
Ignorance creates art[1], stubborn ignorance guided by personality.
Ps. This might explain why so many artists are narcissistic
One of the ways I think about humility is that it is the ability of a person to successfully integrate information that requires some non-trivial refactoring of one's internal model of the world.
Refactoring can be a costly operation, so it makes sense that the mind shouldn't take on that task too often, especially if one's mind is more likely to suffer net harm from an unsuccessful or partial refactoring.
However, if a person is gifted at learning in the broadest sense, then it would make a lot of sense that their mind would undertake this process much more gladly, and as a result, form a very strong model of the world.
Probably not bad, but taxing. Unlearning and re-learning is difficult so it's avoided at the expense of retaining bad habits or knowledge. Like the adage about people getting more stubborn as they age, teaching an old dog new tricks etc.
I suppose you have an incomplete model where you haven't thought of and understood all of the corner cases.
I don't think you ever 'finish' a refactor! But you get to be able to deal with your everyday without bumping into conflicting information that causes you to have to refactor every day.
I think a partial refactor would be bad because you're working on an inconsistent model, and if it's wildly inconsistent then it can cause you issues, and might not be a complete model.
For example, imagine you just learned that sugar is bad for you! But thats the sum of your new dietary knowledge. So you start going for fatty foods with lots of preservatives. This isn't going to be any better for you. And you'll have to 'refactor' when someone points out your new diet is still bad for you.
You know that scene from Animal House where the 60's college kids are sitting around smoking a joint, and someone proposes the idea that every electron is a universe, and their minds are all blown? That's a parody, but it also really is what a human mental model refactor looks and feels like. (Both from the outside and the inside. Yes, I'm speaking from personal experience.)
how can you know when you have completed a refactor?
Before you've completed it, other people might think you're annoying because you want to talk about one particular thing a whole lot, and they're waiting for you to get over it. Most likely, you'll roll back some of the changes and make some bug fixes, and you'll stop feeling "whoa" and euphoric, and people will start treating you normally again.
The above answers:
why would a partial refactor be bad for the mind?
Probably good for your mind, but an interruption for your social progress.
Based on my understanding of the learning process, typically you can tell when a refactor is occurring if you go through "Foundational Collapse," meaning that you've learned something that makes almost your entire understanding of the subject - even one that you've known for a while, to fail. This occurs until you are able to rework your entire understanding of the subject to fit the new criteria. This occurs more easily the better you understand the subject in the first place, as long as you understand what is happening and you give your brain an opportunity to contextualize the information.
Since this is done by the DMN instead of working memory, when this occurs I think that the best thing you can do is take a weekend off. When you are learning aggressively, like at a high level university, I imagine that a student will go through several of these a year in various subjects.
refactoring is a very appropriate term here. how is it bad or costly? it should be done constantly, every day. if i can make myself less full of shit at least a tiny bit today, i will take it.
having seen many characters in the line of duty, the clear pattern is - if someone is not afraid to say "i was wrong" or "i am not the smartest guy", then there is no doubt who is the smartest guy in the room.
Then sometimes, you meet someone with the attitude, "I must be very intellectually humble, because I already know just about everything!" This sounds like a cheap joke, but I'm serious about this observation. It's easy to fall into this for someone who has been inculcated with the academy's values with regard to knowledge. This not only includes academics, but disciplines with some degree of intellectual rigor, like programming and software development.
Here's a good rule: Don't get so pumped up, that someone else wants to poke you to deflate you.
My understanding of the great geniuses is they tend to not be very humble...is this concept empirically supported, or does it just sound nice?
In my experience, the really knowledgeable people tend to be quite opinionated, while also being willing to question their own ideas and receive critical feedback. So, it seems they have both great humility and arrogance, not one or the other.
The canonical genius has to be Albert Einstein, who was known for humility. As to some others, people make history as geniuses for (1) doing genius things and (2) making sure everyone knows they're the genius that did it, so you have to consider the effect of (2) when you try making a list.
If they manage to do #2, they are still a genius, which contradicts the notion that geniuses must be humble.
Personally, I prefer a bit of arrogance so that people clearly state what they believe and why, even if it is a bit blunt. The clarity of this approach seems to lead to better ideas, since my personal observation is that great ideas also tend to be fairly simple and can be stated in a straightforward manner.
Plus, when an idea is clearly stated, it is easier to know if the idea is right or wrong, which is necessary for the humility bit of self questioning.
TBH I doubt this very much. In fact I doubt, in general, that such broad assertions can even be made. Anecdotally, I have worked at 2 research labs by now (one of them was MS Research, another relatively unknown), and of the few truly genius-grade people I met there none really had much "humility" on display. They know a staggering array of stuff really well, and they know they know it. If you don't know something, they'll let you know without much consideration for your self-esteem.
Unlikely. My bar for a "genius" is pretty high. It's actually pretty obvious when you're in a room with one - it almost feels like they're different species. Stuff that's insurmountable to you is easy as a pie to them, and they can explain it in simple terms. They couldn't care less about the fact that you weren't able to understand it on your own.
And some of them present very modestly most of the time, but if you're wrong about their stuff, they won't mince words. Nor would they be humble about things to get along with you, or doubt their knowledge just because it's trendy to do so. They don't necessarily shove themselves into everyone's face.
Sometimes people can be acting passive aggressive in the name of humility. It's hard to understand yourself to find out if you truly are willing to find out or just trying to prove another person wrong. I think I have lived in both spectrum in different phase of my life so I can vaguely relate.
Actually had an option to make something like this a teaching moment to my kids yesterday. I'd been reading articles about the bridge between Abell 0399 and Abell 0401. There was a Forbes article that said this provided supporting evidence for dark matter. https://www.forbes.com/sites/startswithabang/2019/06/06/scie...
Dark matter bothers my sense of cosmic aesthetics. I'm not a physicist, I just like reading about how the universe works, so please don't attack my ignorance; there's only so much I can read. I'm painting with very broad strokes here.
Going back to the Forbes article, it provided some good arguments that this was supporting evidence. I had to concede that the blocks making up the argument seemed sound, so I started rearranging mental furniture.
Then there was the correction at the end of the article, and I'm at the position where I can understand how you can provide a situation that can at least provide supporting evidence to support dark matter.
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However, that's not the main point, it's just the foundation for where I'm going.
I used it to show my kids that you can understand/believe something that seems right or is "known" to be true. But when you come across evidence that shows you're wrong, or presents valid evidence to support a differing point of view, then you have to consider it outside of what you desire to be true. Mind, after examining it, poke at holes that exist and shred it if it's garbage, but if it's not susceptible to that, you need to change your world view.
I believe this is largely the reason Galileo is often considered the first scientist. When Copernicus argued for a heliocentric world-view, he was largely doing so on the basis of aesthetic value: it simplified the mathematics. But it was always theoretically possible for another mathematical model to make the geocentric perspective more appealing, so anybody who was attached to it could simply cast his model off as a mathematical trick.
But Galileo built a telescope that anybody with a pair of eyes could use, no matter your aesthetic preferences, and he was compelled to transform his world-view on the basis of the facts he observed in it. He didn't really have to make any mathematical argument at all; he just had to explain what he observed, and it directly contradicted the Aristotelian model of reality.
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I've never heard of this happening can you give examples on this site?
This caused a lot of people to not want to work with him and, in the end, was a major part of why I ended up quitting.
In times where I'm invested in being right, it's harder to accept learning that I had been wrong, and I'm certainly not seeking out more information with which to challenge my understanding.
I would point to cryptocurrencies as a rich source of extremely wrong takes: how bitcoin would replace paypal and credit cards, how government conspiracies would try to fight it, etc. None of those predictions came to pass, to put it mildly. What I can't offer is specific instances of people pivoting from "it's a currency! It even has 'coin' in its name!" to "it's not a currency! It's a store of value". But I'm sure there must be some.
I also remember when here (and, possibly, on slashdot before HN) one overdone "meme" was criticising CSI-style shows for "enhance!" making low-res images of license plates readable. "You cannot recover information that isn't there!" the comment would go, and it was the easiest upvote to get.
Today, there are plenty of AI demos that can, indeed, reconstruct license plates from low-res. Turns out the information wasn't actually lost. Unfortunately, I'm denied the gratification of all those people writing apologies, and I can't prove that they are the ones posting "It's not intelligence, it's just statistics!" today.
Nuclear power might be another example on a pretty good multi-decades run of varying other reactor technologies (pebble bed, fusion, etc) always on the cusp of breakthrough. This example is especially funny, because the actual scientists working on energy, and even the supposedly stupid politicians, have now created alternatives that are safe, clean, and close to competing with even coal in economic terms, let alone the far more expensive nuclear tech. Yet the wider tech community disregards this economic argument, and insists on fighting the public on safety. They just can't let go because they feel they were wronged on that issue in the 80s and 90s. Which is at least plausible, but it just doesn't really matter any more. There's a strong undercurrent of cultural grievances here, as if people were forever living in the science fiction of their youth.
well yes, I was being sarcastic but I'm glad it sparked this high value comment you wrote. It is easy to see how the 'consensus narrative' changes, as the accounts are censored and their comments are in fact promoted by the collective community. But it is impossible to see who was part of that collective community.
Or is there something deeper from the book that better explains the point?
The chapter about the author's wannabe hustler friend described them like it was a biography.
It often feels like this, "everyone is dead inside but me", and when we make these sweeping generalizations we'll find plenty of instances to justify them. But we really can't peer in each others' heads, and over time I realized that when I acted on these kinds of assumptions, I behaved like a fucking tool.
It can be a bit uncomfortable to realize that what we think of as "us" these thoughts and feelings we internalize and think of as unique... aren't so I can understand some resistance to recognize the depths and thoughts of others... or being like everyone else.
Also make sure you're not overly invested in having the attitude of NGAF.
The trouble is most people believe me when I say I'm not that smart.
And so was born the pervasive humble brag.
This is the paragon of humble-brags.
Also, it's intended to be ironic.
That's a brag about being humble.
शुष्क काष्ठस्य मूर्खश्च न नमन्ति कदाचन् ||
Namanti phalino vrukshaah namanti gunino janaah.
Shushka kaashthasya moorkhashchas nsa namanti kadaachan.
Meaning: noble and virtuous persons are always humble and and are always committed to help others and compares them to a tree bowing down with the weight of its fruits. In contrast dull and foolish persons are always rigid and unadjusting like dried wood.
Edit: Adding clarity
People who have superior general knowledge have greater intellectual humility because they are more aware of their own ignorance and the complexities of the subject matter. Those who do not have superior knowledge are subject to the Dunning-Kruger effect.
"The best lack all conviction, while the worst are full of passionate intensity" - The Second Coming (poem).
"The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt." - Bertrand Russell
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1) I am willing to admit if I don't know something.
2) I like to compliment others on their intellectual strengths.
3) I try to reflect on my weaknesses in order to develop my intelligence.
4) I actively seek feedback on my ideas, even if it is critical.
5) I acknowledge when someone knows more than me about a certain subject.
6) If someone doesn't understand my idea, it's probably because they aren't smart enough to get it. (reverse)
7) I sometimes marvel at the intellectual abilities of other people.
8) I feel uncomfortable when someone points out one of my intellectual shortcomings. (reverse)
9) I don't like it when someone points out an intellectual mistake that I made. (reverse)
Critique: I can see some confounding problems right away. When I was younger I was pretty painfully shy, so (4) I would not seek feedback, but not out of a lack of humility. Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing. Also maybe I'm a wierdo but I don't think so much in terms of people being "smart", I think it is something you do. That is, it's hard work.
And with (8) and (9), it takes training to not feel uncomfortable or to not dislike it when someone points out your mistakes or shortcomings. I don't think that is really related to humility. In fact if you are super critical of yourself and judge yourself poorly compared to other people, you still hate it if anybody else points it out.
In any case I think it makes me an unenjoyable person to be around. I more or less don't engage in opinionated discussion with people unless I'm intimately familiar with the topic at hand. Then it's no longer discussing opinions but trading facts. When I do engage, it's usually to ask questions of the other person's opinion without really challenging them. While I might agree with their opinions, I'm reluctant to refute them unless I can systematically prove them wrong. That's usually not possible, because they often know more than I do about any given topic. When I am asked questions directly I hedge my answers extensively.
When I was younger I used to take pride in this, but now I find it isolating. It's difficult to relate to people like this.
More likely people find me difficult to take seriously because I’ll passionately argue for something I don’t necessarily have the best evidence for and then immediately give up and say I’m wrong when someone gives me the evidence I’m looking for.
There's a thing called.. hmm .. positive negotiation ? when you interact with someone by always aiming at finding a middleground/compromise, rather than arguing for the sake of it.
Your point reminds me of something that I'm seeing (IIUC). A lot of the time people will assert more than they know (I do that sometimes too[0]) and the discussion will stop. By insisting even at the risk at being wrong, you force everybody to show their hand and sometimes they'll realize that they may be wrong or off point and that they need to reevaluate the situation. .. We're tribal, even in scientific fields.
If this was more common, I think the world would start to become a much better place surprisingly quickly, at a cost of people suffering a little minor intellectual humiliation until they started to be more disciplined about their beliefs.
I like having _good_ conversations, and can still have them about controversial or opinionated subjects. If I don't know enough about a topic to offer my opinion I like to ask questions that will offer some insight as to why the person feels so strongly. Usually (not always) when someone feels very strongly about something, there is some kernel of truth somewhere that will at least be interesting. It's fun to at least figure out _why_ people think they way they do.
I used to have a bad habit of being a devil's advocate. I'm sure it was annoying when I was even younger, but I've found that faking (exploring) an opinion can help give the conversation some depth. Nowadays I do that less, but can get away with it if I preface it nicely enough.
The "hedge my answers extensively" bit is spot-on, as is the isolating nature of this "trait", unfortunately.
That is- dealing with stubborn, close minded people, is incredibly difficult to stay open for me- in the best case I just move on.
That's when you should play the part of being stubborn and close-minded yourself, if this is what it takes to ensure that your points are heard. Intellectual humility is the best case, but sometimes it is best to cut one's losses.
> That's when you should play the part of being stubborn and close-minded yourself, if this is what it takes to ensure that your points are heard.
Do you honestly believe that this is an effective technique in spreading your ideas?
Questions to ask yourself if you feel that way regularly:
Have you considered that various shortcomings might hold different weights to people depending on their background, experience in other adjacent domains, etc? That what is factual for you might not be so to others?
How do you know that your analysis of the shortcomings are correct/pertinent? That the person you're talking to hasn't delved in it as deeply as you have and just reached a different conclusion? Are you the close minded one for having decided early in the conversation that because you've thought about it in a certain way in the past, any interlocutor who thinks of it differently is necessarily wrong and stubborn?
I do give the benefit of the doubt for as long as I can. I admit to understanding positions that are premised on different values. I have a hard time when once I understand the values, inaccurate steps are taken to reach a false conclusion.
What I’m talking about is more akin to talking with someone making a mistake in a proof, being pointed out the mistake, but still digging their feet in to not admit the mistake.
I’m fine if assumptions aren’t shared, but not when conclusions don’t follow logically from assumptions.
Being open minded isn’t akin to listening to everything and anything- there are limits.
So no, it is not that ‘I enter conversations with a pre-made idea of what [I] want the conclusion to be.’
Not all humans present that. They have reasons, some of which may just be their nature.
Well sure everyone does, to some degree. But I thought dyarosla's clarification was quite sound, particularly this part: I admit to understanding positions that are premised on different values.
In my experience, a lot of people are completely ignorant of this important idea, that values (or axioms) are a crucially important part of disagreements, that someone may be approaching the same general topic from a very different perspective than you. Not only do some people not know/appreciate this, I've encountered several people who completely reject this idea if you point it out to them.
That statement on "values", coupled with the other ones, all support strong self consistency.
How people evaluate things can, does, will vary from a highly rational POV.
I’ll concede that some people don’t value logical consistency - but that doesn’t make them more rational in their arguments.
If there is subjectivity in a ‘logical inference’, I’ll err on the side of being open to it.
However, people are often not entirely rational creatures.
Advocacy, for a very effective example, is a combination of reason, emotion and character.
How people feel matters. Who they are interacting with and or referencing matters.
Roll all that up, and we are likely to encounter people who are not self consistent.
That is OK, human. I just noted that being a predetermination, that's all.
Secondly, there is no requirement they be more rational in their arguments. They may not even see something as one, depending on what it is.
They may, for example, seek better mutual understanding.
It's not that someone can expect you to feel differently because they've presented a logical argument. That's not likely or expected.
The OP said they did not predetermine, and I just pointed out that they do. (And I do not care)
No worries, just information.
Understanding others helps considerably when having conversations IMHO. My comments here speak to that.
Just know others may, or may not make the value judgements presented in this thread, that's all.
It is far more likely than you think. Consider a politically charged issue, some matter where religion is involved...
This all just is not the set piece implied.
I don't think of this in terms of intellectual fitness, but when I realise I made a wrong step in my modelling of the world I generally take a moment to reflect on where I went wrong and what I could do differently in the future to avoid similar pitfalls.
What's the difference between curiosity and a drive to develop your (crystallized) intelligence?
Like I don't read to be well read. I don't listen to news to be informed. I read and listen out of my interests.
I don't think anyone literally thinks, I need to know this to improve my intelligence as it is a weakness. It's usually more abstract.
Given the amount of cognitive bias each of us has, I'd say an important part of intellectual curiosity is making effort to learn to think better. I mean, a flat-Earther 9/11-truther astrologer could still claim to be primarily motivated by "intellectual curiosity".
The interesting question is whether that specific bit of rotten reasoning is still accessible to alteration after one has passed through that specific phase of neuroplasticity.
One of my friends called me a genius the other day, but I'm just really nerdy about something that makes money. He's really into comics and is a walking encyclopedia of characters, timelines, stories and arcs, but wouldn't consider that "smart stuff", even though it is to me.
It would be more apt to, if you were writing code that has some level of networking involved. During this you think "I don't remember/know much of the OSI model, so I should go read up on the model to better understand the code I am writing". Instead of just trying different things and adapting examples not understanding what it is actually doing.
10) I accept that someone with less experience may have better ideas than I have, even in my own field of expertise.
11) Even if I am not certain of myself, I am willing to suggest and defend my ideas because they deserve equal treatment.
12) I am willing to forgo new ideas when they hurt momentum too much.
13) I am willing to forgo momentum when the benefits of new ideas outweigh the costs.
14) When I feel it is right to assert my position, I am able and willing to back down if I receive feedback that changes my assumptions.
15) I know when to humbly defer decisions to the team even though I believe the team's decision is less than ideal. People are more important than problems to be solved.
There are also people who assume their ideas in fields they don’t have experience in are good, precisely because of that lack of experience. They think their “outsider’s perspective” significantly increases their likelihood of being correct because they “think outside the box” or some such. It’s the opposite of humility, and supremely frustrating to deal with!
One of my high school teachers said something like: if someone doesn't understand your explanation, then you don't know it as well as you think you do.
Why?
First, because far more things can be explained to an intelligent lay person than most of us realize, and figuring out how to do so improves our own understanding. Therefore it is worthwhile to make the attempt.
Second, because it is far too easy to fool ourselves into thinking that we're making a succinct explanation that requires domain knowledge when actually we're spouting just enough jargon to remind those who agree with us of shared and possibly unexamined dogma. There is a real cost to mental habits that make such mental mistakes easier to make and sustain.
So yes. The other person may be too ignorant/stupid/whatever to understand you. But the alternative explanations should be disproven before you conclude that.
if someone doesn't understand your explanation, it might be that you don't understand the person well enough or you don't know the correct way to explain to that person in a plain language
My answer always changes since I haven't narrowed down a way to describe "cloud engineering" to people.
I've heard this saying before and every time I think, "maybe I don't know what I do".
To fix such a things in a questionnaire there are 9 questions. Maximum score you could possible get is 9 times 7 = 63, but probably not many people would get so much. Even those who are super humble.
> Also (3) I don't get, because while I am extremely motivated by intellectual curiosity, I have maybe zero motivation to "develop my intelligence" like it was some kind of fitness thing.
So you do not reflect on your weaknesses in order to develop intelligence? Or you are doing it sometimes, when it is obvious for you that your task needs more intelligence from you? Maybe 3 as an answer would fit?
> I don't think that is really related to humility.
Good questionnaires are not like a random internet ones. There are special methods allowing to ensure that questionnaire is measuring what we want to measure, not something else. For example, you can measure intellectual humility based on the interviewing a participant, and then ask participant to fill a questionnaire with a 50 questions (or maybe 150, as much as your creativity could devise), that you think might be good. Get 50 participants, or maybe 100. The more is better, but it is a long and difficult task, to interview 100 people, and if you used a several PhD students as interviewers, than you need to control for interviewer also, because different people could get different results even when asking the same questions. So you would need even more participants to get a statistical significance. Number of questions itself also increases the number of data points needed.
After you gathered data, you would run it through R to find questions that are the best fit, to reduce questionnaire to bearable size. Probably after it you should test your new questionnaire by the same tactic you invented it. You even might need to do this, if at the first stage you got insufficient number of participants. But now you would need no factor analysis or something like, just a correlation would be enough. Or maybe chi-square.
I didn't read an article itself, but it is a published paper in a reviewed journal, so I bet it is done good, not just authors picked 9 questions on a random. Therefore I bet, that if you don't think that it is really related to humility, than you probably should change your mind and think the other way around. If it somehow important for you, I'd suggest to find a full text of paper describing methods used to devise a questionnaire and read them through. Maybe you are right after all. There might be a statistical mistakes, mistakenly used statistical methods for example, or some issues with the data gathering.
Answer yes or no AND write a short explanation of why.
Then the judge of the answer sheet should decide if points for or against are awarded for each question.
As an example, I just am really bad at complimenting others. Both because my own overall standards are so high and also because that was never a skill I learned; so I'm actually very shy at doing so. Maybe I should have been complimented more, and better trained as a child to compliment others.
I explained 6 in a different reply under this thread. However a different way of getting the data (which would be better and yield a clearer view) could be to ask: "If someone doesn't understand my idea what are the possible reasons?"
7) This one is just painful. It really depends on who you're exposed to on a daily basis and how you relate to them. I _have_ marveled at how smart, driven, or successful some others are... mostly the successful and driven parts though.
8/9) Emotional reactions are different from how you try to handle emotional reactions.
There are alot of discussions which basically come down to how humans interact and communicate with one another, and what works and what doesn’t.
I noticed I compliment others quite a bit more since listening.
The only people who would deny those things are phonies who aren't in touch with themselves. Accept it, acknowledge it, account for the bias it brings. Then maybe one could work on it.
Some people like being uncomfortable because it motivates them.
Being comfortable for some people can lead to complacency.
Weirdo in a good way. Thanks for this one - sometimes I forget that thoughts/actions are smart, not people.
I'm not sure this is necessarily a mark of my humility.
But no, being the one who doesn't know in a room full of those who do shouldn't stop you from learning. There are two different cases here, though.
If you're in a sane (not too political, and not too toxic) environment, just ask when you don't know something. (Don't do it so often that you hijack the meeting, but do it once or twice a meeting.) You will often be speaking for others as well who don't know but are unwilling to admit their ignorance (unless you're the only junior person). Your asking can free them to also ask and also learn.
If you are in a toxic or political environment, you still need to learn, without getting destroyed. That's harder. You need to try to find out who it's safe to ask. But the bigger task in that environment, in my opinion, is to not learn to be political or toxic yourself.
While reading through the article I found this interesting:
> In terms of insight, higher scorers in intellectual humility were less likely to claim knowledge they didn’t have (the researchers tested this by assessing participants’ willingness to claim familiarity with entirely fictitious facts that they couldn’t possibly know), and they also tended to underestimate their performance on a cognitive ability test.
I can appreciate the reasoning behind asking that question, but the fact that it's so useful for judging intellectual humility saddens me. Why would a person spontaneously respond, "Yes" when asked if they're familiar with a thing they know they aren't? What does that say about us as a species, that this behavior is so prevalent?
Myself I've felt compelled to pretend to know-it-all out of fear of being excluded. Being excluded is not a naive thing, it could mean not getting any job, and falling in disgrace and being hated by a majority of people. It happened to me for saying the wrong thing in the wrong place at the wrong time to the wrong people.
There is also the problem of PR, the post-modern fallacy, people who think they can convince anyone of anything just to get what they want, because truth is relative, and it doesn't really matter if you are good or competent as long as you get a seat at the big table.
Modern western society has a low tolerance for ignorance, which is sad given that many people is ignorant not out of their will, they were just dealt a bad hand. Also, it is very difficult for ignorant people to get out of their ignorance if nobody helps them, there are unknown unknowns which they cannot see without external help.
I find this part interesting as it might explain why some communities are so toxic and other... nicer: the niceness can spread between members. So the first few members are very important in setting up the community's culture.
Measuring psychological concept is far easier then then rigid and if you align one question or answer to one concept there is a good chance you are actually measuring the other, or both. In fact the very concept of general intelligence has been severely criticized for this. To an extend that many psychologist (and laymen like my self) don’t even belief it exists.
There are too many other variables at play - i.e. inherent psychological disposition, environmental and social factors, institutional incentives - to know how cause and effect work in the development of intellectual humility.
But sometimes arrogance in general (and perhaps intellectual arrogance too) is itself just a thin defense against a dominating unexamined insecurity about oneself.
If acquiring more general knowledge helps make you more comfortable with yourself, it might make you more intellectually humble, but it could also do nothing, or even the opposite.
A certain amount of overconfidence is an integral part of being a healthy, thriving human being. People who are depressed have more accurate self-assessments than healthy people. Humility exposes a person to a lot of unpleasant, aversive feelings that can convince them that their energy is not being well spent, making it hard to continue investing at a high enough level to achieve much.
I think it's good to learn the ideas and skills of humility. I think it's important to recognize that it's unpleasant to find out that we're wrong, and we have a natural tendency to avoid unpleasant things, so we have to consciously and actively compensate for our tendency to preserve our own mistaken assumptions. However, I wonder if it's really healthy to internalize humility, to give up a subconscious way of thinking associated with high functioning and adopt a subconscious way of thinking that is associated with depression.
Ideally we'd all have such unassailable emotional security that we wouldn't be bothered by an accurate degree of humility. In reality, I think we have to fake it, and I think a lot of the people preaching this gospel of "you shouldn't feel bad when you find out you're wrong" are faking it too. But that's okay. Our full being is a combination of our messy human psyche that isn't designed for the things we try to use it for and the conscious ideas by which we interact with it. Sometimes these parts are compare to an elephant and a rider — the tiny rider on top is the part of our mind that we consciously control. I think it's okay if that's the only part that really practices humility.
I think there are different levels of "feeling bad". When I'm wrong about something, it certainly doesn't feel good, and in some cases it really sucks, but I don't then generalize that feeling to represent something intrinsic to myself. I think the crux is separating the bad feeling of the instance from an overall bad feeling. Ie - I got this one wrong, but that doesn't mean I'm stupid.
Ignorance creates art[1], stubborn ignorance guided by personality.
Ps. This might explain why so many artists are narcissistic
[1] https://youtu.be/25kmuPSt60w around 2:48 guy makes a good point about this
Refactoring can be a costly operation, so it makes sense that the mind shouldn't take on that task too often, especially if one's mind is more likely to suffer net harm from an unsuccessful or partial refactoring.
However, if a person is gifted at learning in the broadest sense, then it would make a lot of sense that their mind would undertake this process much more gladly, and as a result, form a very strong model of the world.
(I don't consider the mind to be digital, and the brain even less so)
how can you know when you have completed a refactor?
I don't think you ever 'finish' a refactor! But you get to be able to deal with your everyday without bumping into conflicting information that causes you to have to refactor every day.
I think a partial refactor would be bad because you're working on an inconsistent model, and if it's wildly inconsistent then it can cause you issues, and might not be a complete model.
For example, imagine you just learned that sugar is bad for you! But thats the sum of your new dietary knowledge. So you start going for fatty foods with lots of preservatives. This isn't going to be any better for you. And you'll have to 'refactor' when someone points out your new diet is still bad for you.
how can you know when you have completed a refactor?
Before you've completed it, other people might think you're annoying because you want to talk about one particular thing a whole lot, and they're waiting for you to get over it. Most likely, you'll roll back some of the changes and make some bug fixes, and you'll stop feeling "whoa" and euphoric, and people will start treating you normally again.
The above answers:
why would a partial refactor be bad for the mind?
Probably good for your mind, but an interruption for your social progress.
Since this is done by the DMN instead of working memory, when this occurs I think that the best thing you can do is take a weekend off. When you are learning aggressively, like at a high level university, I imagine that a student will go through several of these a year in various subjects.
having seen many characters in the line of duty, the clear pattern is - if someone is not afraid to say "i was wrong" or "i am not the smartest guy", then there is no doubt who is the smartest guy in the room.
Here's a good rule: Don't get so pumped up, that someone else wants to poke you to deflate you.
In my experience, the really knowledgeable people tend to be quite opinionated, while also being willing to question their own ideas and receive critical feedback. So, it seems they have both great humility and arrogance, not one or the other.
Personally, I prefer a bit of arrogance so that people clearly state what they believe and why, even if it is a bit blunt. The clarity of this approach seems to lead to better ideas, since my personal observation is that great ideas also tend to be fairly simple and can be stated in a straightforward manner.
Plus, when an idea is clearly stated, it is easier to know if the idea is right or wrong, which is necessary for the humility bit of self questioning.
And some of them present very modestly most of the time, but if you're wrong about their stuff, they won't mince words. Nor would they be humble about things to get along with you, or doubt their knowledge just because it's trendy to do so. They don't necessarily shove themselves into everyone's face.
Dark matter bothers my sense of cosmic aesthetics. I'm not a physicist, I just like reading about how the universe works, so please don't attack my ignorance; there's only so much I can read. I'm painting with very broad strokes here.
Going back to the Forbes article, it provided some good arguments that this was supporting evidence. I had to concede that the blocks making up the argument seemed sound, so I started rearranging mental furniture.
Then there was the correction at the end of the article, and I'm at the position where I can understand how you can provide a situation that can at least provide supporting evidence to support dark matter.
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However, that's not the main point, it's just the foundation for where I'm going.
I used it to show my kids that you can understand/believe something that seems right or is "known" to be true. But when you come across evidence that shows you're wrong, or presents valid evidence to support a differing point of view, then you have to consider it outside of what you desire to be true. Mind, after examining it, poke at holes that exist and shred it if it's garbage, but if it's not susceptible to that, you need to change your world view.
But Galileo built a telescope that anybody with a pair of eyes could use, no matter your aesthetic preferences, and he was compelled to transform his world-view on the basis of the facts he observed in it. He didn't really have to make any mathematical argument at all; he just had to explain what he observed, and it directly contradicted the Aristotelian model of reality.