Ask HN: Should I quit for 6 months?
BACKSTORY:
25 years old. Not married. I've spent the last 3 years working at a FAANG company - more or less right out of college. For the first 2.5 years I lived at home with my parents. As such, I've saved quite a bit. Now I'm living in the city. With recent changes to my team goals and product, I find myself extremely unfulfilled as of late. I now regularly engage in fantasies of quitting, and my gut tells me it's the right call.
I've always had personal projects I work on. Mostly ones that are intended to make a tiny bit of passive income. No one-hit wonders. But none of them have seen the light of day. I lose interest half way through. In my time off, I would like to finish one of them.
I'm somewhat risk averse, so I would only allow myself to go 6 months before trying to find another job (provided I can't come up with any solo income in that time). I hold no belief that I'll make a profitable project being solo. I don't fantasize about being a startup founder who makes millions. I just want some time to work on projects I enjoy. Maybe make some money off them. Probably not.
USEFUL INFO:
* Rent + everything else = ~4k a month. I can get that lower.
* I have 275k in savings. Not counting 401k.
* 6mo would cost about 25k.
* My lease is up for renew in 6mo, which is a nice coincidence.
* Got promoted in the last 6 months. This may help job prospects in the future - companies may more easily hire me at that level, than if I quit without getting promoted.
RISKS:
1) Sucking it up and working at this company the next 8 years would result in a very lucrative career, and that's a large opportunity cost.
2) Getting a job 6 months from now may not be as easy as I pretend it is. (What if the economy explodes!)
3) I may find that I have motivation for personal projects either, and live 6 months in a quiet depression in my underwear.
ALTERNATIVES:
1) I suck it up and do my job. People would love this job. It's cushy and it pays very well. Just do it for 5 more years and then consider this stuff.
2) Change teams at work. I imagine this might be only a mitigation, but maybe it would make things better.
3) Talk to my manager about working on stuff that I want to. I love to create and experiment. I know our problem area well now. I have things I want to create that would be valuable to the company that I would be passionate about. Would it be wise to ask for a 3 month trial of working on my own solo thing within the company? I would like that.
So what do you think? Should I do it?
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[ 3.6 ms ] story [ 91.3 ms ] threadDo you feel like those projects will really make you feel fulfilled?
That's really the only question here right?
You didn't mention taking any breaks / vacation during this period. Take a week or two off and see how you feel. If you feel you should go longer, do it. I'd strongly advise against going right into a 6 month break.
Always having passive income is good. Side projects will keep you busy and bring in money. What happens in 6 months, or 1 year and you cant get a job? (worst case). There is a ~10% fee for cashing out 401k early fyi.
Take a long vacation, and come back and grind for a year or more then consider this stuff again. As someone that has 12 years on you, I wish I would have saved more and lived less fruitful so I can travel more now. It's easier to be in the grind now, then later. Why pass up good money/good job? My $0.02. Good luck in whatever you decide.
I really appreciate your insight, as a potential future-me. I see two potential regrets in the future:
1) Regret working for 10 years and not pursuing things I was more passionate, just to have a nice stockpile of money
2) Regret abandoning my job and pursuing my passions, which ended up burning through my money, and putting me behind in my career.
Not sure which is worse. By limiting it to 6 months or so, the latter is mitigated, as long as I can get a job quickly again.
$275K is retirement money, it's 1% money. Either your risk aversion threshold is really really low or the size of that savings hasn't hit you yet.
Jumping into a 6 mo vacation is a great trial by fire for testing your retirement skills. Keep that brain busy and you'll be good.
I guess it's a lot of money - I don't spend a lot, other than living in an extremely expensive place... But obviously I don't want to burn through it all. Last thing I want is to get addicted to living without working, and slowly burn through all of my savings. 5 years later, I have to get a job, but I'm no longer a good candidate.
Now, now, a budget is nearly trivial thing. Rent, food, travel, disposable, savings, interest, it's all pretty shallow math. Keep track of your spending and it shouldn't be a surprise as you go along. For a smart guy, running out of dosh shouldn't be a danger.
- You're 25, if you completely waste the next 6 months of your life, you've lost nothing.
- Consider asking your work for a 3 month sabbatical. Or some part time role. This can give you enough time to see if its what you want.
- Make sure you have obsessions outside of work/programming/sitting in a chair for hours. Bonus points if its social/athletic. You might be smart, but you're still an ape.
I would "suck it up" (option 1, with a sprinkle of 3 eventually) and revisit this problem in a few years if it still persist.
Also, 1 week is not a proper vacation, it's not even enough to disconnect the mind from the problems you have at work.
Good luck.
"Sucking it up" seems to have a bad connotation from two different, even opposite points of view. Either you think of it as a coward move, to go against your "real" self and individuality to conform to a cubicle in order to receive a lot of money. It is almost like you are bribing yourself, having both accumulated guilty feelings of corrupting your ideals. On the opposite side "sucking it up" is viewed as a dilemma only for whining, entitled people, who believe they are above the routine obligations of life in society just because they are privileged — the usual "snowflake" critique.
I believe that both views are a dangerously superficial translation of a more profound choice that can lead to fulfillment and maturity; either way it goes.
The benefits of staying in your job can be more than money. There is a lot to learn in facing a harsh environment, facing uncomfortable obstacles, and dealing with unwelcoming people. If you endure all of that, you will recognize yourself as a stronger person, more professionally competent, more prepared to live and thrive out of your comfort zone. It will practially results in you having a better chance of achieving more things decades from now. It comes with the risk of not being any of that and, in reality, is just you staying in your comfort zone, not learning, not enduring, just following spoken and unspoken rules.
The benefits of quitting your job are the number of opportunities that open once you are out of a clear career path where you know all the rules. You gain freedom. You will learn about new things, new people, new cultures, new games with completely different rules you will have to learn. It comes with the risk of losing focus so much that you also learn, endure, and achieve nothing.
Which way to go all depends on which path you are most likely to pursue learning and personal growth, and which path you are most likely to fall back to a stable and unsurprising state, where you are the same person every day. Each person, at each moment of their lives, have their own better path. I am usually the one to go free and experiment a lot, quitting corporate environment as soon as I am bored. My wife chose to endure in a very demanding job because she believed in the mission (it was a non-profit) and successfully arrived at the other end of a tough year triumphantly, stronger, mature, and competent. Very happy with her choice.
We both might invert our positions in the future, and that's a good thing for you. If you quit now, you can work hard to go back to your position later. If you decide to stay, you can quit a year from now.
Good luck with your choice!
EDIT: Don't take this advice from a workaholic paradigm. When I say "learn and personal growth", it can be a year reading, relaxing, meeting people, travelling. To each his own... learning come in many forms
It sounds like you want to take 6 months as a way to enjoy life before getting back to "the grind". Taking time off is good, but I'd think more about where you want to end up rather than just jumping back into the job market and trying to maximize your income again.
It can't hurt to ask, and going on leave rather than quitting would mitigate risks #1 & #2.
This. I've excercised my quitting fantasies a couple times before (I'm 38) and, without fail, after a couple months of working on a side project the excitement wears off and then it's just work - but without daily routine, coworkers and steady (and big!) pay. I find that, having the opportunity to make great money at job, I'm not passionate enough about anything to work on it for uncertain and delayed rewards. Classic golden handcuffs.
However - excercising these quitting fantasies have actually lead to a lot of personal growth, as I was able to test myself and to get to know myself better, not to mention branch out into different areas of life (my projects weren't only in software). And also somehow, after each flop, I've landed a job with similar or better pay than the one I've left. That was in Europe though, so I have no idea how likely is that in the US FAANGs.
> I suck it up and do my job. People would love this job. It's cushy and it pays very well. Just do it for 5 more years and then consider this stuff.
The tricky part here is that, in 5 years, it's likely that your pay will be amazing and you will risk even more with quitting.
If you're 25 and on the fast track to big bucks at a FAANG, the smart move seems to be just to ride it into early retirement. Most people probably cannot resist the tempation of quitting and trying out something else for a while - it's cool, we're not robots. But the default strategy should be early retirement IMO.
This is exactly my experience of quitting jobs to do something else. The grass was never as green as I imagined it to be before quitting, but the amount of new skills I learned and experiences I had were 10x what I would have gained from staying in the same job.
I wouldn't talk to your manager about working on stuff you want or mention leaving to work on side projects.
Focus on your job for now, save even more and test out doing side projects on your own.
Check what documents you have regarding IP for things you work on outside of work on your own hardware. I wouldn't raise a red flag by asking this question through HR.
You might like this podcast StartUpsForTheRestOfUs.com listen to the archive.
I would start building some simple side projects that can earn some money and build up your skills and experience in that area following a stair step approach. Rob outlines it on StartUpsForTheRestOfUs.com.
Once you have a few wins under your belt you can think about leaving your FAANG job in the future to start a SaaS or other project that you feel has a high probability of success and generating quit your job money.
Good luck with your transition.
I think there's not much point in quitting if you want to go back to doing largely the same thing in 6 months. If you really need time off you can always talk to your manager for an extended vacation/leave (churn is terrible for teams, so managers generally have strong motivation to retain you. My manager offered me 6 months leave when I quit, but ymmv)
> I just want some time to work on projects I enjoy. Maybe make some money off them. Probably not.
If you don't have a concrete idea of what you're going to work on or how it will produce income, the probable outcome will be no - In which case, quitting in hopes of having side-project income in 6 months would seem like a bad idea.
I was in a similar spot when I quit 5 years ago. It took me about 3 years and 10+ attempts before my first successful commercial product. 6 months is barely enough time to build and validate your MVP, even if you have a highly specific idea of what to work on.
I think solo-entrepreneurship is an all or nothing proposition. On the one hand, the longer you stay in your career the more invested you'll become and the more difficult it will be to leave. On the other hand entrepreneurship requires a type of experience that is difficult to acquire while working as an SWE (specifically, customer acquisition and the product instinct to make something people will give you money for). I don't think there's a lot of middle ground between these paths, but ultimately it depends on your own skills, experience and aptitude.
Personally I think the ideal strategy is to stay at a high paying job while working on your business, but not everyone can do this (I couldn't, which is one of the reasons I quit)
You will never be 25 again. You will never have your current energy levels, ideas, and zero responsibilities like right now at any point in your life again. Leverage them, build something great or find happiness.
- 6 months is very short time. Carve out 18 to 24 months for a real shot at monetization
- Consider moving to a low cost place or even back to your parents house for a year or two
- Plan finances in a way that you won't regret spending couple of years on a project that produced $0
- At $2k burn, 2 years of free time to pursue your goals for $50k should be a good deal in your position. If not comfortable, wait it out another year or two at a high paying job. Release 1-2 very small products in that time to understand how this world works.
Just remember that job hunting can take a few months with interviews and all the rest.
I've done a similar thing myself - sold a company, decided to try some small ideas. 3 years later, I've accomplished nothing. Now my goal is to get into the position you are in and work on side projects from there.
Some tips:
1. Be careful with social pressure.
A lot of people will resent you quitting their dream job or treat you like some spoiled/privileged guy. You'll be tempted to compromise but it'll make things worse.
2. Don't fall into the freelancer trap.
I see you're not entirely confident with your finances. It's tempting to take on one or two side jobs.
But freelance jobs are a bigger trap than full time jobs. The burst of money can ruin your financial discipline. There's a lot of unpaid hours - you'll be doing bureaucratic things like setting up bank accounts, taxes, writing proposals, unpaid meetings, marketing. It is possible for someone like you to make $200/hour or $300k working 20 hours/week.
Before you realize it, you're running a software agency that's making $1M/year, but barely profitable and high stress.
3. You may want a financial safety net anyway.
I'd recommend getting through something like Toptal or Gigster early on if you need it. The approval process can take a month and you can probably forget it later unless you need it. It's long and that's why the payment is way better than something like Upwork.
4. You may be overestimating your work rate.
Most people I know work about 1-2 hours a day on programming. Full time jobs are great at masking this. Most of the work involves planning something out, writing tests, drawing UI, meetings, refactoring, etc.
As a result, I literally did as much side project work while at a full time job than I did working full time on them.
5. Ideas are gold.
This is probably really controversial. But I think ideas are greatly underrated.
You've said you lose interest halfway. This is likely because the idea does not excite you. It also won't excite people who join you, or people who listen to those ideas.
Ideas are usually hardest early (where there's too many choices) and easiest in the middle (where it spawns more fun ideas, and starts making money).
When in doubt, go for the shortest route to profitability, or at least lots of users.
6. That said, are you sure you don't want to be a billionaire?
I mean it sounds ludicrous. It's literally much harder to be a billionaire than it is to sail around the world or climb Everest.
But it's easier to work on large projects than smaller ones. All the ones I have boundless energy for are epic.
Just plan it out and see how far it can go. It's easy to lose interest in smaller ideas.
A similar mistake I did was to join people who could not have epic ideas. I'd spend a month or two building something ambitious, getting investors excited, and the business guy shirks away from the pressure.
Anyway, whatever you choose to do, good luck. Maybe this might not apply to use, but it could be other perspectives worth considering.
1) Burn rate - $4k is pretty high (I assume bay area). You could be living anywhere in the world for that 6 months on that burn rate.
2) Opportunity cost. If you make $250k/yr, you're spending $125k of potential income. Thats what you'll be thinking of at the end of the 6 months as you start to get a job. This is 100% okay, and life should lived - however, if you happen to be used to a certain lifestyle, and expect that lifestyle in the future, that opportunity cost may bite you when you consider how much more it would have made for you in 10 years.
IMO, if you think there's a real risk you actually sit around in your underwear for the 6 months, then make some change at your job, see a therapist, and examine your motivations both for work and those side-projects. If you don't want to work because you can't stand not being able to work on those projects, then quit and do so. If you're just looking for a change or some way to find your motivation, then make a change, see if its better, and if you're still not motivated take a motivation break and do things that are totally outside your comfort zone.