I'm an Indian American, now married. Any woman has the right not to date me or anyone else, for any reason, including race, without being shamed as a "racist". Furthermore, an app that allows women and men to specify their racial preferences saves time and avoids disappointment. If you are color x, why would you want to be set up with someone who does not want to date color x?
> has the right not to date me or anyone else, for any reason
Exactly, that's sortof the overarching point isn't it? Dating is inherently discriminatory, that's basically the point is to determine who you feel an appropriate partner is. And that right naturally trumps any party's concerns about being discriminated against. Anything else is unconscionable.
Dating and marriage is the one place where people are allowed to be racist. My wife wanted to marry someone of her race; I didn’t care. Both are fine. If a business owner doesn’t want to hire a certain race I’d say “get over yourself or get shut down.” With marriage I would never tell someone who is racist to marry someone he or she dislikes, have kids with them, and spend the rest of their lives with them.
You can't help who you're attracted to, and race (which is much more than just color) plays a part in that just like body shape and a million other factors do. Yes, as with anything else involving race, it's a huge source of racist noise, but underneath all that there is still the inescapable fact of it.
counterpoint: you can. you can consider & reassess your dispositions. we have superficial attractions & being willing to consider, try dating & entertain people outside our normative/preferred norms, make room to try & see can make a world of difference.
I agree, however I still find it weird to be so explicit about something like that. Wouldn't simply not swiping on people you don't find attractive be effective? Same with other factors like weight, etc., though with weight, I suppose its easier to hide.
Filters also seem like a good options, but dating apps love to milk money by making people pay from seemingly the most basic features.
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[ 2.9 ms ] story [ 37.7 ms ] threadExactly, that's sortof the overarching point isn't it? Dating is inherently discriminatory, that's basically the point is to determine who you feel an appropriate partner is. And that right naturally trumps any party's concerns about being discriminated against. Anything else is unconscionable.
You can't help who you're attracted to
Filters also seem like a good options, but dating apps love to milk money by making people pay from seemingly the most basic features.