Tell HN: Did you know you can negotiate price on many things?

196 points by staccatomeasure ↗ HN
I learned this late in life, but I came to realize that for anything you buy from a small business or from someone on commission, you can negotiate.

After reading about it on Reddit, I‘ve shown up to hotels and gotten 40% off initial price.

At Guitar Center, you can negotiate the price of guitars.

I’ve seen people negotiate a round of shots in NYC.

The world exists out there at a discount if you’re willing to ask for it.

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Yesterday, Comcast tried to start charging me 2.5x for my Internet service... I called to cancel the service and all of a sudden, they were able to give me the old price...
Retention department is always a great place to get a deal for this type of thing. Same with wireless.
Sadly, in my experience this only works if there's a viable competitor in your area. Last time I asked to be transferred to the retention department, after getting nowhere with the Comcast rep, the only question they had for me was "what date should we process the disconnect for?"
When it happened in my area they told me they (Comcast) couldnt compete the the fiber service in my city in term of cost and speed. They didn't even try to retain.
They may secretly start throttling you/adding latency to get you to call back. I may be crazy, but after I renegotiated a higher speed for a lower price, I have been having all kinds of crazy latency/timeout issues that don't happen on a VPN.
Squeaky wheel gets the grease. If you call a few times to complain about your network speed, the problems have a way of just disappearing.
If the isp throttles you, why they left vpn connections alone? My guess it's just suboptimal peering on their part and/or overloaded dns server. Those are my top issues with my ISP and they're gone with vpn (vpn providers has different peering and their own dns server).
Yes, it could be. What are some good tools to debug every step in the connection? Traceroute doesn't seem super useful in this case.

I have custom DNS setup, that didn't seem to improve it much.

BTW traffic being faster in a VPN is pretty common for ISP throttling, for whatever reason.

Basically just traceroute, and perhaps combined with looking up your isp's peering information (and their peer's peering information, depending on how deep you want to investigate them) on peeringdb.com . For example, you might discover your isp will use route traffics to a certain website via a slow peer based on your traceroute information and data on peeringdb.com.

But like you said, it's not useful to us as a customer of an ISP because we can't alter the routing table used by the ISP even if we identified a problematic routes/peers. You can try to complain to their customer support, and might get lucky if the customer support has technical authority to debug peering issues.

I still get 5ms ping in CSGO and they upped my limit from 1tb/month to 1.2t/month....
I don't think that would have anything to do with latency. 5ms ping is also pretty good...
Even going to her cousin’s birthday is negotiable.
It's a skill that needs practice to perfect. I wish somebody offered a service where a professional would bargain on your behalf. Sort of like Leon from Curb Your Enthusiasm showing up to make sure people aren't taken advantage of financially when they're getting work done on their house/car/etc.
Levels.fyi has a salary negotiation service which people say works well.

https://www.levels.fyi/services/

You’re still doing the negotiation, they just tell you what to say and what to ask for - advice unique to your situation.
IIRC the lesson there seemed to be "you get what you pay for". Everyone was initially happy with the cheaper "solution" that Leon negotiated, but in every case it blew up and became a costlier problem in the end. Each homeowner would have been better off if they'd just done the initial expensive thing rather than eke out a deal. Of course, we're talking about a fictional TV show, so your real-world mileage may vary.
In my experience it’s not really worth negotiating a service price when quality can make a big difference… maybe it’s a coincidence, but the couple times I’ve done it for house construction work I ended up having problems with the results

buying a car or getting a hotel room? not much harm can be done there

Immigrant parents teach you this pretty early on lol :).
The third Rule of Acquisition states: Never spend more for an acquisition than you have to.
I've negotiated 40% off of mattresses at different Mattress Firm stores. Most of sales people do not want to negotiate, don't waste time with them and move on, matress chain stores are a dime a dozen. You can even call them and say you're looking to buy X and are calling around to find the sales person that will sell it to you at $Y.

Don't ask for a "deal", "discount", "best price", etc, ask, "Can you do X at $Y?"

Consumer Reports has a good chart you should scroll down and look at:

https://www.consumerreports.org/cro/magazine/2013/08/how-to-...

At markets where haggling is common and expected, asking 'Can you do X at $Y?' sends the signal that you know the real market price of the product and are not a novice just asking for a discount.
I got something like 40% off a matress by acting uninterested... Of course, I thought I was uninterested (which made it really easy to act like I was) and they made a sale, so who knows who won.
The best negotiations are where both sides are happy with the outcome

Sounds like this is a perfect example

I assume it's like this around the world but in Australia at least, retail mattress prices are double what the mattress shops will happily sell them for.

Mattress sales where all mattresses are half price happen pretty frequently.

Same models being sold multiple times for discount year after year... Yeah, the real price is close to regular discount price so there is high change that getting it at that or near that price other times too.
The online/podcast mattress price is still cheaper than that, unless you're hard to ship to. The wholesale price people on mattress DIY forums I assume exist use has to be much cheaper than that still.
I’m not convinced anything is intended to be sold for the tag price in that particular store fwiw. The sales people seem to know the “actual” price.
The Mattress Firm salespeople that will negotiate down to 40% always type it in the computer before saying "yes" or "no".

The others say they can only do 10% or that I can't negotiate. The later, I just laughed and walked out the door as he was trying to get me to stay. I didn't want to reward that behavior. The rest, I just thank them for their time and wish them a good day as I leave.

You don't even have to negotiate on mattresses. At least where I live they regularly do huge 40-50% sales on select mattresses. You just have to wait until the one you want is in the next round of select sales. I bought my last two mattresses with a 50% price reduction on it just like this. You don't have to wait for black friday as they have sales on some items every week. They just switch around what is on sale about once a week or fortnight.

This is also true of tvs and a lot of electronics.

I bought a mattress on a holiday where they of course had a sale going on. They don't advertise percentage discounts, just the dollar sale price, and it was only something like a 30% discount. (I was still able to negotiate a price which came to 40% off.)

But if you need a mattress and can't wait for a sale, then you do have to negotiate if you don't want to leave money on the table.

The greatest leverage is in your willingness to walk away. Being more willing to walk away than your counter-party is an enormous advantage in nearly any negotiation. (Being perceived as more willing to walk away is almost as good.)
Good point, but makes me wonder how Medical Bill negotiation is on the list at all? How do you walk away from that? I could see some leverage if you're already in collections I suppose. Edit: The list posted by "MerelyMortal" above.
The leverage is – "I will not pay you and take the credit score hit, which I am okay with. You will then have to sell my debt to collections for pennies on the dollar. Instead of that, let's work out a favorable monthly payment plan."
I've always wondered if you can buy your own debt from collections and pay it off there, as some sort of soaring medical cost hack albeit tanking one's credit score.
You can offer to settle, which is similar. A "settled in full" note goes on your credit report.
if you’re going to tank your credit score why bother paying at all
Not sure, but you can definitely negotiate with debt collectors. They have been known to withdraw things from people's credit reports in exchange for payment. Especially if you play hardball and insist on seeing paperwork to prove they they have the right to collect.
It appears you can. At least searching for "buy your own debt" gives results for entities who claim to help you do so, without tanking your credit score. "You're certainly not going to take legal action against yourself".
Why can't they just sue you if you fail to pay? Surely if someone doesn't pay for your services there must be some legal means to get the money that you are owed.
They of course can, and through small claims it's monetarily inexpensive, but it's both time and effort, and for more than small claims will handle, it's expensive. Some businesses won't show up personally at small claims and will get counsel involved, which is expensive.

Depending on the debt, getting most of the difference between the legal expenses and the debt itself is in reach, given a creditor who is a rational actor.

If someone doesn't have the money to pay a debt then suing them isn't going to magically produce it.
This submission is about getting a discount when you otherwise wouldn't have. If you can afford to pay in full. You have the money to pay.
Why do that, when they can sell the debt to a collections agency that's willing to pay:

(probability of recovery) * (1 - profit margin) * (amount owed)

today, for the right to sue on you behalf?

Note: I think the current debt collection system in the US is terrible, especially for medical debt. I suggest looking at the charity "RIP Medical Debt" if you do too.

At the very least, when selling a debt to a collections agency, the (re)seller of the debt should be obligated to first offer the same price to the person that owes money.

> At the very least, when selling a debt to a collections agency, the (re)seller of the debt should be obligated to first offer the same price to the person that owes money.

That seems reasonable at first glance, but it would lead to an explosion of people simply refusing to pay and waiting for the 'debt collector price' offer to arrive.

If you ever ask a lawyer to sue a person with not much money, you might get a proverb in response: "you can't get blood out of a stone". Literally, if someone doesn't have the money, you won't get it.

Suing people who don't pay their bills is a losing proposition. You will be paying lawyers and getting very little to nothing in return.

The difference is that we are talking about a case where you can pay bills but you just want a discount so you threaten not to pay.
I'm on the same page. But, the hospital doesn't choose their collections strategy just because of one person. They can't see inside your bank account. Most people who can pay, pay. Most people who can't, can't. If they started suing people who couldn't pay, they'd lose money overall, so they don't.
I didn't think of it that way. Thanks. So as long as most people don't try to do this then the negotiating strategy can work.
> They can't see inside your bank account.

In the "of course that exists" category, there are services that give a score about somebody's ability to pay.

I really hate how every business process can be (and frequently is) optimized to the nth degree at the cost of privacy.

https://www.equifax.com/business/product/ability-to-pay/

Getting paid today (or a payment plan starting today) is probably worth a discount over getting paid after a lengthy court process; even if you'll get compensated for legal fees and time value of money.

How much of a discount that's worth depends on the likelyhood of collecting after the legal process as well as how much of a reputational hit going through the process would be.

I wouldn't negotiate with most things after the service was performed (unless it wasn't to my satisfaction), but most services will have a firm quote before the service (sometimes that's legally required). A mechanic can keep your car until you've paid, but a hospital can't refuse to discharge you until you've paid, so they don't have the leverage to get immediate payment.

My first son was by cesarian and we did not have insurance. The bill was $15,000. After some various payment plan discussions I asked if there was any other way to pay. The lady said yes, if you pay cash before you leave the hospital is is $2000. I since have used the pay cash method to pay a fraction of various medical bills.
The more I read about the American healthcare system the less it makes sense.
I just read all three credit bureaus removed medical bills from their report.
I was curious and found these details.

https://www.businesswire.com/news/home/20220318005244/en/Equ...

> Effective July 1, 2022, paid medical collection debt will no longer be included on consumer credit reports.

In addition, the time period before unpaid medical collection debt would appear on a consumer’s report will be increased from 6 months to one year, giving consumers more time to work with insurance and/or healthcare providers to address their debt before it is reported on their credit file.

In the first half of 2023, Equifax, Experian and TransUnion will also no longer include medical collection debt under at least $500 on credit reports.

>leverage if you're already in collections I suppose.

What about before you undergo the medical services? Why is it so damn uncommon to ask for a price before seeing the doctor?

> Why is it so damn uncommon to ask for a price before seeing the doctor?

The main reason is that, often, the doctor is choosing the specific procedures after you show up, not before. There's not a price for "stomache ache".

For the elective procedures where it is known what is involved up-front, there is some price shopping that does happen.

There is a price for office consult. And when the doctor says, "I'm going to order a blood test," or "I'm going to clean your ear out" or whatever, you can ask them to have it priced out before they do it. People ought to know that.
Insurance has driven a market where the pricing is opaque. The doctors are trained to req services without concern for money and the billing office reconciles it with the insurance bean counters.

Imagine choosing doctors like plumbers. Do you go with the one with the low initial exam fee? How about the one your family member recommended? Or the one with good reviews on the internet? Then, when they tell you the plan, do you go to another one and pay their exam fee to find out their plan?

I have some experience at this from the veterinary side. Some people do treat us like plumbers. They know there are several points of leverage in the pricing. However, it is a two edged sword. If you decline the plan and renegotiate it, the vet is liable to stop recommending the expensive options because you are more focused on money than health. This happens unconsciously. If you decline a $20 diagnostic after a half hour of haggling I won't have time or energy to try to convince you to spring for a $100 monthly treatment when an inferior but acceptable treatment is available for less. I'll present both options and you will probably choose the inferior one as part of your haggling strategy.

Haggling makes lots of sense when the quality of the commodity is not under control of the salesperson, it is easy to determine, and the salesperson pads your price with lots of margin. In medicine, everything is opaque and haggling is rarely able to take a broad cut on price without sacrificing quality.

Elective surgeries.

Need a hip replaced? Having a child? These things can negotiated in advance at a substantial discount.

Tried this buying a used car a few weeks ago, but didn’t work. Still spent money on some stupid crap (pre installed lojack, door edge protectors) to get the car I wanted.
With supply chain issues, cars are not very negotiable right now. Supply chain issues notwithstanding, used cars are trickier to negotiate because you can't go to another dealer and buy the exact same item like you can with new cars.
It sounds like it didn't work in large part because you actually weren't willing to walk away (which makes sense in a lot of cases; if you need something and don't have a good alternative, you may reasonably choose to accept a worse deal than if you were indifferent).
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that costs time and mental energy it's not always worth.
This.

The price i pay for not dealing with the stress of haggling is well worth it for most things (salaries an exception where it may be worth it)

Even if I'm only going to save $1-$10, I'm still going to attempt as it helps me build experience for when I do negotiate something where I might save hundreds or thousands of dollars.

I don't view negotiating as something stressful.

Negotiating is pretty much dead these days in most western countries where large chain retail has taken over. An ever increasing chunk of shopping happens online, where negotiation is obviously impossible. Other than that, employees at stores like Walmart, Home Depot, Costco, Target, Lowe's and all grocery and convenience stores don't have the authority to alter prices either. When you have ruled out like 95%+ of all retail, where exactly is this bargaining happening?
> Other than that, employees at stores like Walmart, Home Depot, Costco, Target, Lowe's and all grocery and convenience stores don't have the authority to alter prices either.

They sometimes actually do, but they aren't meant for haggling purposes, and are often only allowed up to a small amount (like say $20). They're meant for things like price-matching or resolving pricing discrepancies.

Yep. At Target, the cashiers can easily change the price if I said the tag said something else.

I used to be a cashier at a sporting goods chain store. No one ever told me, but I discovered I could give 5% discounts without an override. My team lead could give 10%. No one ever asked for a discount, but I would have probably given them if the customer asked nicely. Of course I could also adjust the price if the tag showed something different, and the computer did not request an override unless it was a large discrepancy.

they may have the authority to correct errors, but they don't have the authority to negotiate. if they're caught lowering prices because a customer has haggled them down, they're going to get fired.

don't try to haggle with retail staff.

I've had a couple good experiences at, of all places, Walmart - including the a pool cue I bought several years ago

There was no slot for the cue anymore, and no sticker on it

Asked the guy in Sporting Goods how much it was

He looked at it for a minute and said, "how's $5.97 sound?" (that was the price of the marked-down solid maple stick, this was a two-piece fiberglass jobbie (probably a $40-50 cue at the time))

I told him, "sounds great"

He printed-out a "replacement" price tag, and went to check out

It doesn't seem to happen on stuff like Craigslist either anymore. I've been surprised that people just pay what it's listed for.

I also have a suspicion that people even find haggling rude. I also think others are confused by it, like the choosing beggar subbredit seems to often just be bad attempts at haggling

I bought a Fire Stick off FB Marketplace recently, and received an unprompted and pretty racist communication from the seller that I was the "first white guy to contact her and the only person who didn't try to low-ball." It really weirded me out and I ended up kind of calling her out on it so that she backed down and apologized— though even that was weird, I was like "Ma'am, I'm not the one who is hurt by you having these attitudes; don't apologize to me, please just try to do better in the future."
> I'm not the one who is hurt by you having these attitudes

But you are tangibly hurt by systemic discrimination. Otherwise qualified people give up their career choice to avoid harassment or because of inequitable salary. Then we are left with less qualified and motivated people staffed in important positions. Your work, health, or other aspect of your life are affected, just not in ways you can easily see or measure.

It seems plausible that white people associate with white people (whatever "white" is where you live) and not-white-people associate with not-white-people. These two groups may have developed different cultures.

Of course in this era of ultra-sensitivity to racist issues, your seller's phrasing seems problematic. But the ability to recognize the difference in cultures is an asset, not a liability.

YMMV, but most attempts at negotiation that I see when selling on Craigslist are just lame. A camera that goes new for $1000, up for $800, the ad says "firm", you get boring low-effort "will you take $500?" nonsense. Maybe it works on some people, but it just inclines me towards ignoring them.
what else do you want people to do though? Just not respond until you lower the price on the add your self?
Tbh - I kinda prefer this sometimes. I will set an ambitious price and then slowly lower it over the course of 3-4 weeks. Eventually someone bites and I’ll usually get higher than any email I’ve been sent before.

I get a lot of low effort people who want you to drive everything to them and pay bottom dollar (even though I’m very centrally located). Super annoying.

As I said in the sibling, the alternative isn't "lowering the price", it's "not selling". That's what "firm" means, yeah?
For what its worth, 20% off of the retail price for a used item on CL seems like such a huge risk to me. I have gotten enough stuff off of CL where I didn't discover some issue with the item until I got home that I now generally won't even consider a listing that isn't 50% or more below retail (I mostly go to CL for "bespoke" stuff though, so often there is no "retail" price to compare to). When you add in the time and effort to respond to listings and then drive out, etc... it makes even less sense.

So you most likely are getting those responses because a large chunk of the CL buyers are in the market for prices at that level. A 20% discount feels like something you can get from the retailer if you just wait for a sale. But I guess, CL is popular enough where if you have the time to wait it out, you might eventually find a a buyer. But still seems insane to me that anyone would take that deal considering the risks.

Also, FWIW, there is no reason you can't counter offer in those cases. Considering the amount of time and effort it takes to meet in person, it is probably better that the price be pre-negotiated via e-mail before meeting in person. I certainly would never show up in person and try to get a lower price on the spot. The few times I have lowballed via e-mail (I was/am looking for a really niche item, and the only suitable listing has been sitting on CL for weeks) I got counter offered. It was still too high for my tastes, but the listing is still there so I might try again in a few weeks!

So I'm a professional in this space and I don't have the mental energy to bother with counter-offering when I know a fair price for the thing. Two seconds of looking at the thing will verify that yes, it has under 300 shutter activations, and yes, the body, EVF, and sensor are in fine shape, and yes, it's coming with a lens (kit, so nothing special, but still worth a few bucks) when the body doesn't normally.

"$800 firm" means something. The alternative to "sell at a fair price on both sides" is "no sale", not "sell at a stupid price." I kept the camera and still use it instead. I was getting rid of it because it wasn't 100% what I wanted in my studio space, but it's fine (just not delightful) as a B or a C camera; 80% of what I could optimally do with a different model is worth way more than taking an extra $300 bath. Eventually I'll sell on eBay and get what I'm looking for that way--I didn't want to bother with shipping, but wasting my time with unserious offers makes that a lot more appealing.

(And we aren't even getting into the significant mental effort of engaging with the ridiculous set of scammers trying to get you to fall for their fake-Zelle-notification stuff.)

Right, I am not saying it isn't a fair price. I am just letting you know what the typical buyer on CL is likely thinking. Because CL is generally in person transactions, frequently in cash, the buyer has no recourse. On ebay, if someone thinks you sold them a bad camera, they can dispute the transaction. The risk is generally higher for the CL buyer, so naturally they look to be compensated for it with deeper discounts.
Yeah I get that. Just saying that negotiation requires both sides to think that that risk discount is fair. We're pretty much in agreement. ;)
This has actually followed over into the NFT space as well--there are bots that put up paltry offers on every NFT in a collection (10% or 1% of floor price for example) and they are MASSIVELY profitable because some small percentage of people accept the offers. Then the bots just list slightly below the floor price for a quick profit so they hold minimal inventory. Quite the numbers game.
I mean you can haggle before agreeing to meet but when you drive across town and then the guy says “I can only do X” it’s pretty rude.
Get back in the car and drive away again.
That’s the outcome, the discussion was about haggling being rude in various contexts.
> I also have a suspicion that people even find haggling rude.

I do. Or used to. Then I kinda learned how it all works. If I had an item that could sell for say, 100 on ebay, I'd list it for 80 to get a quick sale without shipping. Then people offering 50 seem rude or crazy to me.

Then I learned to just price it high. So now, that item I'll list for 120, and 'fine, final offer' it to 80 and that works way, way better.

I think people just want to feel like they won, more than about values of items.

Another protip: Never list anything for free. You'll find the worst in society. List it for 5 or 10 dollars, then just tell the buyer it's free when they come.

or you wont find anyone at all - listed some chairs for free, no response, changed it to $25, and 3 offers in an hour...
That's interesting, and I wonder why. From my perspective, I'd probably either assume if it's free you already got a million offers, or they are in terrible shape. Perhaps that's why people didn't bother.
When you do a search on craigslist you pick the section of the site you want to search (i.e. "Furniture", "Computers", "Cars/Trucks", "Free", etc...). Based on my experience, the "Free" section is almost always not worth the effort. Either the items are low quality or they are impossible to get due to craigslist "flippers".

So I could see a situation where most buyers with actual intent to purchase are only searching in the "Furniture" section. And the chairs in question might not have been nice enough to attract interest from the "flippers" in the free section.

It's pricing theory (there's a better name for it ... but I cannot recall of the top of my head)

Underpricing something is as bad (or worse) than overpricing it

If I think that chair is worth $50, and you're giving it away ... I think there's something wrong

If I think it's worth $50, and you ask $20 ... I think "he must not want it - this is a great deal!"

> Never list anything for free. You'll find the worst in society. List it for 5 or 10 dollars

It is insane how true this is. If I put something on Craigslist for $10 that I was thinking about throwing away, someone polite will buy it within a week and show up on time. The first time I put something in the "free" section instead, someone sent me a legit hate email because they didn't like the item I was giving away for free... wtf?

I've had a lot of good experiences with my neighborhood's free box/buy nothing facebook group. I've probably had two dozen pickups and everything has been picked up usually in 1-2 days at a time convenient to me.
Ah, good to know. I guess I'm thinking back to my experiences on Craigslist. You get some absolute crazies for free things. I've had multiple encounters of people cussing me out, calling me names, and even death threats for a) not holding items, or b) not delivering items...that again, are free.
The problem with Craigslist and the like is that if you list something you can expect that the overwhelming majority of buyers are going to negotiate in bad faith. It isn't worth your time to engage and sort through all of it, so it makes more sense to just list stuff at a low but firm price and decline or ignore all the lowball offers.
Not my experience. The issue I have with CL tend to be time-wasters who don't actually want to buy. Everything I've actually sold has been for the asking price.

Maybe we just set the initial price differently?

> time-wasters who don't actually want to buy

Do you consider that to be good faith negotiating?

I’d say it’s more like - people who are trying to convince themselves that they want something. They try to pitch you a lower price - you work with them on it. Maybe find a more reasonable ground… then they’re like, “well actually I live 100 miles away. Can we meet halfway?”

And maybe you work with them on that and they’re like, “ok but I actually have a commitment tomorrow and can only meet at 3:30am and if there’s a waning crescent moon hovering above us…”

The demands get longer. It’s clear they’re not actually interested. They’re just testing their own waters and are time wasters.

For online you just agree to take that 10-25% on your first purchase for being on their newsletter. So lame, but totally possible because of how it works with the person growing the newsletter subscriber base not having to care about the bottom line.

I used to sell bicycles where everyone expects a discount. Not being weak I would risk them walking away. Typically I would explain that we don't have much mark up on actual bikes and would also point out that I had spent a half hour or so on them so they can get the perfect machine. I would also explain to them that next week they would forget the price and that in ten years time they would see the price paid as a bargain.

I would then say that everyone likes a deal and that I could do them lights or a D lock or a helmet. I would explain that he brackets for the lights or the lock can be a faff to get right, and that if they took my deal, then we would get the chosen extras fitted properly and now. Usually this was enough for them to get the free lights, paying for the helmet and D-lock. So, by not being weak and being honest about 'my boss killing me for discounting', I would get full retail plus the upsells and a loysl customer. Nobody walked off with this stance which was great.

Naturally we had mountains of the accessories offered so it would cost $10 - $20 in parts that cost less than trade price.

Which is great. It means when you pick up something, you know you're getting the "fair price," or at least the same price as everyone else. You can just look around, pick whatever you want, and you know exactly how much you will pay without even asking.

South Korea has thousands of traditional markets which have been slowly dying for decades - lack of transparent prices is frequently cited as a major reason. Few people want to spend time haggling just to buy a mackerel.

gosh I agree so much, I feel like sellers that expect customers to negotiate often would inflate the price to account for any potential negotiation, (So they can meet the customer in the middle). This means I have to spend time and energy to negotiate the price just to get a fair price, which I'm not really good at.
I understand the feeling of not being able to negotiate because 95% of my purchases are small ticket items from national chains, but if you think negotiating is dead then you aren't looking.

I am NOT a strong negotiator, I'll usually only ask if I'm buying a few things or my checkout price will be greater than ~$200, but just asking will usually be enough. "Can I get a discount" or "can you throw in some of this stuff for free." But even with that, I've been able to get plenty of discounts.

And that expands a TON if you add floor model/open box/dent and ding items. Almost any store will give you a minimum of 10% off on AT LEAST those items.

Places you can negotiate:

* Any car dealership

* Buying houses or real estate

* Renting apartments/houses not managed by multi-city corporations

* Music stores, excluding Guitar Center

* Guitar Center (somewhat)

* Mattress stores

* Furniture stores (that are at least on the level of Ashley furniture) or independent (so no Ikea).

* SaaSes that have sales teams [email them and ask, they often will give discounts if you have a better reason than "I want a discount" which is a pretty low bar. Like student (real student, not I still have my college address 10 years later), military, I'm a poor startup founder and can't afford the full price. <- I've used this a few times pre-revenue]

* Smaller software companies that aren't selling games (email them and ask, they often will give discounts if you have a better reason than "I want a discount" which is a pretty low bar)

* ANY place that sells anything used from slightly used to antiques

* Farmer's markets

* Boutique food stores (this one is kinda iffy unless spending a fair bit)

* Flea markets

* Dentist offices (the approach is different here usually appealing to loyalty discounts, personal hardships, or extra cosmetic type services)

* Mall kiosk vendors oftentimes

* Outside of the US any kind of vendor in a shop that is in a specialized mall (ex. In Seoul in the electronics district, there are malls full of small vendors that have similar inventory as everyone else, you can haggle a ton)

* Any independently owned shop that has most items retailing for >~$50 or average ticket price >~$100.

* Non-chain Restaurants (but I'd generally avoid it unless going high end because margins are usually tiny)

* Pretty much ANY store that hasn't "standardized" itself to death.

* Rental cars

* I could keep going.

Places you can't:

* National chains where the sales staff is minimum wage. Walmart, Best Buy, Target

* Stores selling small-ticket items (average purchase is under $100)

* Online retailers (outside of standard coupons, etc)

* Grocery stores

* Regional/nationally managed rentals.

* I'm having trouble thinking of other places you can't negotiate at least a little at...

If you also throw in "price matching" you can haggle at even more places.

The moral of the story is any place with a physical presence MUST charge a considerable markup (40% markup would be in the discount store range of markups) in order to stay in business, so if it is worth their while to make a sale they will haggle.

If they are selling commodity goods or small ticket items it's difficult to make it worth their while to even talk to someone wanting to haggle.

Granted it's not something I normally do, but for just once I tried getting a 48 % discount on an item in a large-ish retail baby store just a couple of weeks ago. After a brief back-and-forth they were okay with it.

Despite the fact that the store in question usually has pretty crappy service and I avoid them, the customer focus in that interaction increased the chances that I'll go there again in the future.

(Why did I try if I normally don't? It actually started when I misheard the price they said, and I figured why not just roll with it and see what happens?)

At least at my local Lowes, there's often a lot of wiggle-room on floor models (which are often returns)

We ended up with over 35% off a mower last year because the engine meter had more than .1h (6m) on it, along with some dirt and grass clippings in the mower deck

Brand new (minus 20 minutes of run time and some dirt) with all the warranties intact

I'm really really bad at this.

in fact I'm so bad at this that it extends to the inability to see prices on items.

If I walk into a shop and notice that it doesn't have prices on items I'll walk out. I do NOT want to be talked into buying something.

Those shops are for other people than you or I. Those who don't care about spending money, or so busy buying everything they see.

The last thing you want to do with a customer like that is remind them they are spending money.

Same here. If I had to live in an area where negotiating was commonplace and online shopping was an option, I'd be doing a lot more of the latter. See price, decide I'm happy with that buy, decide I'm not, don't. If I don't see an obvious price I assume it is too much, or that there will be a painful (for me) negotiation (or massive upsell to try to avoid).

Unless it is something I really need/want, in which case I might have to step out of that comfort zone. But retailers might be surprised by how much I'm willing to do without in order to avoid that!

I was at an office supply store trying to buy a chair and an employee told me they didn't have any more of the model I wanted. I pointed to the chair I had just been trying out and he said it was a floor model, but they didn't have any in stock. I asked if I could buy the floor model, and he said yes, but the floor models were more expensive. I said, if anything, the floor models should be less expensive because they were used, he agreed and gave me a discount on the floor model.

Negotiating for price still feels very weird to me in most circumstances though.

I have never heard "floor models are more expensive" before. By definition it's used goods. Wonder why they said that?

I reguarly will buy the last of something and end up taking the floor/display model. Usually for a 10-25% discount (very occasionally more on things most people wouldn't touch the floor model on and have a healthy mark up) on the price they have listed.

That and buying a bunch of things and asking for a discount are the best ways to haggle that I've found. If buying 10 things from a shop (not small ticket items or at chain stores with minimum wage employees) it's usally easy for them to throw in the lowest priced items as "freebies".

Chiming in to add - Lasik!

I saved and saved to get mine in my early 20s, and assumed it's just the price you pay like anywhere else.

About 8 years later, went to same place for my wife and between age and experience I just said 'ah, sounds like too much we'll go elsewhere' and they nearly halved the price. Wish I knew that the first time!

However, don't overdo it. You're highly unlikely to get anywhere trying to negotiate at big box or grocery stores on typical items and likely just annoy the cashier. My brother used to get driven up the wall by people wasting time doing this - noting they were usually foreign people and that may have been how things worked in their native country.

Basically, it only makes sense to haggle when the other person actually has a nontrivial incentive to make the sale. If their pay is going to be the same regardless of the sale, "I'm taking my elsewhere elsewhere" is going to be meaningless.
Great point. I realized that when working auto parts as a teen. There was zero incentive for me to care about sales, I just got my barely minimum wage.

My manager though would always be ready to wheel and deal on big items. He told me eventually they get bonuses based on monthly sales, so would do anything to get them.

Weird dynamic really. So basically you only might get a discount on non busy days when the store manager was in. This is probably why the whole 'Let me talk to the manager' stuff came about in the first place.

It also only makes sense to haggle when the other person has the authority to change the price. Retail salespeople sometimes makes a commission on sales but have no say in the price.
This is why, pre chip shortage, there were great times to buy cars - the end of their financial year.

If a dealership sells an agreed on number of cars they get a % back on each car purchased, I've heard 5% quoted.

At the end of the financial year, they quite possibly might only be a few cars away from this, and it's a big deal. I was buying a new car, and they were adamant about sticking to the list price, so I walked. A few days later they phoned up offering a STEEP discount (25%), sadly, the one they had in stock wasn't the colour or spec I wanted, and I managed to get another dealership to cut almost as much off. But it goes to show - knowing who you're buying from, knowing how they make their money, and when they need sales quick, and crucially, being ready to walk away, are important.

Perhaps it was the 8 years that did it?

During those first years they would have paid off all the equipment and sold the treatment to the vast portion of eligible patients.

Congrats for asking! I should try that!

Naw, I got a 30% cut by simply saying “that’s higher than I was hoping was, I was expecting closer to $XXX” to which they said “we can do that if you can schedule it next week”.
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Big box, like big box electronic stores?

They generally have a discount budget they can use on small items if you buy big items.

E.g, I got my carrying case for free because I bought a switch _and_ two games.

Got delivery and installation free because we bought a stovetop _and_ a fridge.

But it had to be negotiated.

Tangential question: How'd LASIK work out for you?
Like everything else in life, I obsessed and compared pros and cons for weeks before deciding on PRK. In the end, the thought of having an 'eye flap' was disgusting enough to me to choose the older option.

The surgery was super quick, and I could see amazing right away. Then it all went away. I probably slept for 2 or 3 days straight... waking only to take a pain pill and sleep again. I remember looking at the ceiling fan each day and it looking clearer and clearer before my eyes hurt and said pills.

I could finally work but my eyes were super light sensitive and my resolution was trash. I was sitting in a room with no lights, sunglasses, and my laptop screen zoomed way in when I started back at work, and even then kept confusing minus for equals.

In short time it healed and like most things, I forgot the bad and am completely happy.

My wife got Lasik and could see perfectly a few hours later with no side effects.

I guess she doesn't mind that gross eye flap I kept reading about, lol.

In the end, we are both happy with our choices and would do it again in a heartbeat.

For anyone who's bothered about the way the "flap" was traditionally created for Lasik (i.e. a blade – no, I wouldn't have liked this either!), there is now commonly a bladeless laser-based approach. They still have to move the flap off and on but it's a second or two in a 10 minute procedure and saves many post-op hassles of PRK.
I wonder if the significant deflation was a feature of this being a medical context, a US medical context in particular.

My vague understanding of the subject is that everyone just pulls giant numbers out of thin air to start the professional haggling conversation with (presumably) the recipient's insurance adjustment team - who will promptly bring things into the realm of reality they work within. IIUC if insurance is held hostage for a full amount (eg, workplace injury) it might end up a lot lower, while if there's an opportunity for recipient copay (eg, elective surgery) the insurer will punt and say "ok we'll just do $X" - even though the recipient may not realize they can adjust the cost down just as easily as the insurer can.

(I faintly recall reading about someone getting some random procedure done, getting quoted $10k by a doctor in a medical center, following up and going "?!?!?!" and being told by the receptionist or similar that the procedure was really just $300 or so (or similarly less). Something like that. The doctor simply had no idea so pulled a number out of rand().)

I think things started out trying to manage liability and lawsuit funding (and legal can generally be a giant price guide watermark hot air balloon...), but sort of accidentally got permanently associated with "oh that'll be expensive" to the point the whole thing just a self-fulfilling-prophecy-powered perpetual motion machine - and not just that, but one with an ever-widening margin between expectation and reality... that the powers that be are distinctly disincentivized to disentangle in any way shape or form.

So being able to assertively question medical fees, and do it Correctly™, is a definitely-useful skill, albeit one that is categorically tricky to learn (caveat emptor :/)...

Negotiating is typically only possible in situations where the salesperson is receiving a commission (Guitar Center) or is in a position to directly benefit at the expense of the business (bartender hoping the discount will translate into an equally sized tip). That said, there are a lot of places that applies to and it never hurts to ask.
Loyalty is another one. I'm very regular at the cheese counter at my local farmer's market, spending ~$20 most weeks— it's ended up where I'm on a first name basis with the guy who is usually there. He never weighs any of my stuff, just lops off big chunks and is like "sure that's about the right amount lol." Based on the grocery store prices for these cheeses, I'm pretty sure he's giving me a 30-50% discount.

But part of it is probably also that I'm very easy going; I'm happy to take whatever it is he's trying to move, and happy to grab chunky ends or other pieces that would be annoying to cut, etc.

While I wouldn't necessarily categorize that as negotiating, I totally agree that befriending employees, managers and owners is one of the best things you can do for your bank account. Especially true for restaurants. The first thing I do when moving to a new area is find a good restaurant or deli that I could see myself frequenting, and then go there every day while being as personable as possible (which is not exactly my natural state). It takes maybe a couple of weeks before the customer appreciation perks start appearing.
Called the good guy discount. Or nice guy discount.
Heh. I have the opposite problem. I am learning that you can't negotiate when the market is not favourable (i.e., current times). Applies to all big ticket items - cars, rent, real estate, etc. I have internal metrics for what things should be worth, and if you stick to it, as I have, you end up getting nothing.
What are some of those internal metrics? How did you come across or develop them?
Historical trends, geographical trends, plain old intuition and gut, or any number of angles that you think make sense, but all that goes out of the window if you are in a bad market. The price is what the market is willing to bear, as they say.
Maybe that's not so bad? Having a firm internal sense of something's value that prevents you from overspending on it even when it's on discount?

Feels like a lesson every gamer with a Steam Sale backlog could stand to learn.

I mean, if you consider that "a problem" then your sense of what things are worth is probably wrong, since if you're valuing things correctly then you should be happy with a "no deal" outcome for things that are to expensive.
I use a similar strategy often and agree it's an issue, but overall quite a good strategy.

The solution of course is to actively keep in touch with changing market dynamics. The last couple of years have had rapid changes through the shortages and inflation, so you need to consider todays value not yesterdays.

I often feel bad asking for a discount. I know that my 10% discount is often halving their profit for the item.

I prefer shops where they have already offered stock at their best price and refuse to price it lower. One less thing to worry about.

Profit is different for different items at different businesses.

I'm not a Business Major or anything, but I'm guessing the median mark-up on items is 100% (50% profit). Thus if I get a 40% discount on something (like a mattress), the seller is still most likely making a 20% profit.

> I'm not a Business Major or anything, but I'm guessing the median mark-up on items is 100% (50% profit).

Well, there's your first problem. A 100% markup will only yield 50% profit if you have no operating costs at all.

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A little different story while negotiating with family-run small businesses.

India is on a path to digitizing everything from all the mom-pop stores to the random tea-sellers on the corner of every street to even the beggars accepting payments digitally. Yes, India does have a financial infrastructure far better than many developed countries.

I have been on the back-end side of one such digitization effort and have seen the data. Everything that we do, or anyone in the ecosystem does to optimize profit -- end target/product are always those small businesses and the mom-pop stores run by the neighborhood uncle and aunties.

When I buy from the local stores, the small businesses, I try not to negotiate, even when I know I could have and everyone else does. I know they make a tiny more profit, and I'm happy with my decision. If your help (maid, errand boys, others)[1] bought something and might keep the change. You know they kept the difference, but you just ignore it. It is a tiny sum for you but might just be dinner or different snacks for their kids.

I had my experience, and I don't want to be on the other end and be that smart-ass negotiator. My aunt helped me sell edibles during the Indian festival of Holi. In my first year (when I was 6-8 years), I was out-negotiated to reduce price and/or add more that I lost money in the transaction. I believe I cried, and ever since, wherever I can, I try never to take advantage of someone smaller/weaker on the other end of the negotiation.

1. India has a surplus of cheap labor. It is prevalent, affordable (and thus generate employment) for middle-class households to have maids around.

"I try never to take advantage of someone smaller/weaker on the other end of the negotiation"

100% this. Sure, you CAN negotiate with the roadside vendors. But please, don't.

On the other hand, did you know you CAN negotiate the room rates at 5-star hotel chains? You definitely should :)

Is this really a thing in 2022? There's already a whole bunch of OTAs furiously competing on price, effectively doing the negotiation for me, and with most all chains now doing "best rate guarantee" as well, it's unlikely they will beat the price on the official website.

The one situation where I have had a lot of luck "negotiating" with 5-star hotel chains is when I'm already staying there and need to extend. In this case walking up to the front desk is more easier and far more likely to get you a good rate then enduring the hell that is trying to change your reservation online (Marriott, I'm looking at you).

One reason you might negotiate directly is if you have a loyalty membership / status with the hotel chain — you probably don't want to book through a discount OTA (because, depending on chain, you may miss out on the benefits of your status), but you can absolutely negotiate the price by emailing the hotel directly, and keep your perks.
> Is this really a thing in 2022? There's already a whole bunch of OTAs furiously competing on price, effectively doing the negotiation for me, and with most all chains now doing "best rate guarantee" as well, it's unlikely they will beat the price on the official website.

This, just booked an hotel in NYC and on Booking.com was like 20% cheaper than the offer on the hotel website itself (where you had to pay in advance, while in Booking.com you would just pay at the hotel!!). I guess I could negotiate the full hotel price with the hotel, they are adding a ludicrous margin, but not with Booking.com (even if they are adding their good margin anyway).

I don't actually think you can negotiate with the hotel; they pre-sold those bookings to the OTAs for whatever reason but everyone's rates are still what they are. The hotel desk will suggest you get HotelTonight instead of booking with them though.
In my experience, if you make a (free) account with the hotel chains, they will give you the same or cheaper price than the re-sellers and also give the free cancellation up until 24 hrs to the date of stay.
>My aunt helped me sell edibles during the Indian festival of Holi.

I'm assuming "edibles" means something different in Indian English... Or you guys are very liberal when it comes to 6 year old drug dealers!

LOL! Yes, sweets and other 'non-drug' snacks eatable for kids and adults alike during Holi, the color of festival in India.

Edit: You got me thinking, what else was I selling. I kinda remember when weed not yet deemed illegal to grow locally (in India) or was I in a neighborhood with lots of them growing around. Seriously, I need to talk to my aunty.

Small one but I negotiated at Safeway (chain grocery store in parts of the US) recently, for an item without a price tag. Ended up getting it for a dollar, half of the original offer of $2. Later found out the real price was like $6 which would have been a bit of a ripoff.
Funny story, waited in line at the grocery store while the lady in front of me was being handled by the cashier. Once all the groceries had been scanned, the cashier told the customer the total. The lady offered her about half of that. It completely confused the cashier who was not expecting someone to haggle. It went back and forth a few times and then the manager was called and I was helped in the next line over. I waited a while to see what would happen, and in the end the lady stomped out angrily and the manager had an employee restock all the stuff she had brought to the register. That was not a place where there was any price flexibility.

However, at the Farmer's market, there is a lot of price flexibility on products.

It is an excellent life skill to be able to distinguish between markets where prices are fixed and markets where they are flexible.

We've had local business owners come in before that have tried to haggle with us. Even had one specifically point out repeatedly that he ran a business so he knew how it worked. Wouldn't take no for an answer.

It frustrates me to no end when someone doesn't understand the word "no".

“No soup for you. Come back, one year.”
A friend (small business owner) had this excellent retort when confronted by some particularly aggressive faux-sympathy-mongering:

> Oh, really, you're a small business owner too? Then you should know better.

There are people who ALWAYS want to negotiate. It's a reality that sellers/buyers have to accept. I usually stop after one "No" because I'm very bad at haggling, but I know a lot of examples that people get what they want even after multiple "No"s. Some people are good at this.
A local computer store here has a well known policy: If you ask for a better price, they'll come back with an offering 20% above list price. If you question it, it'll go up again.

Honestly I don't mind this. If a video card costs $100 and you're selling at $110 and someone says "I'll give you $50" and makes you devote an hour to the sale, they aren't worth it.

This reminds me of an imaginary situation I made up one time. Naturally I never leave my backpack with my laptops (yes, plural) in the car. So when I've shopped at a tech store like Fry's (remember them?!) I kept my pack on my back.

I wondered what I would do if they asked to search my backpack on the way out. My imaginary response was, "No problem. I charge a ten dollar search fee, which of course if fully refundable if you find I've stolen something. If you question my fee, it goes up to twenty bucks, non-refundable."

Alas, I never got a chance to follow through on this, but it was a fun thought experiment!

You could do that at places that check receipts such as Walmart, but not Costco as they can just terminate your membership.

I just walk by and usually they don't say anything, or if they do, I just reply "No thank you," as I am walking. Only one time a receipt checker actually (literally) yelled out, "That's not fair!" Everyone else just turns their attention to the next customer.

Yep, at Fry's I used to let the exit checker wipe the pink pen on my receipt if no one else was in line, or maybe one person in front of me. It let them feel like they were doing their job, and it didn't cost me much time.

But if a few people were in line, I would just nod and smile and walk on by.

I never had an exit checker question this (they were trained not to!) but I did get a few dirty looks from other customers.

Sorry friends, it's not my fault if you don't know the rules. ;-)

Even Costco couldn't detain me if I didn't let them inspect my cart. But as you noted, they could refuse to let me shop there again.

Of course it would be my loss. Even if nothing else, the membership is worth it for the olive oil!

Did you happen to score any of the 2020 organic Val di Mazara? I've been a huge fan of their Toscana year after year, but the Val di Mazara is something else. Such a delightful peppery oil. I hope they get it again in the next harvest.

There are a number of cases of people being arrested or assaulted for not showing receipts.

https://kfor.com/news/man-suing-costco-for-670000-after-refu...

The fact that you think they don't have the right, even if you are correct, does not mean it won't happen.

You raise a good point.

If an exit checker ever did say "Wait! Stop!" of course I would be friendly and let them check my receipt.

This would be the simplest solution, as my goal was not to prove a point about my rights, but simply to exit the store in an expeditious way with the merchandise I paid for.

But they never did question me, so it was never a situation I had to worry about.

Every now and then I'll be shopping and the security device by the door will beep as I'm walking out, even though I haven't stolen anything. I always just assume there's been a mistake, e.g. the cashier forgot to deactivate my security tag, and walk straight on out; I'm not going to waste my time being searched when I know I haven't done anything wrong.

This doesn't happen very often but as far as I can remember I've never been challenged when I do it.

But what I find really interesting is: based on what I've written above, isn't it trivially easy to guess my skin color?

Most stores have explicit policies not to chase people even when they visually observed shoplifting. It creates too many problems — it’s easier and safer to just turn the video over to the police.

Those security devices are generally there to scare potential thieves not actually detain or prevent them from leaving, so your anecdote doesn’t actually show anything interesting.

> But what I find really interesting is: based on what I've written above, isn't it trivially easy to guess my skin color?

Nope. Maybe it would be if I the reader were in a country where people are stopped exiting a store based on race, but thankfully the vast majority of the world isn't like that.

Interesting, I've never heard of exit receipt checking before. Where I live (in Europe) it doesn't seem to be a thing.
A local computer store doesn't likely have a lot of flexibility on price. They're working on low margins and are competing in a tight market already with online sellers. They're going to argue that they're offering something other than price- whether that's support, return policies, supporting local, etc.

But many of the comments on here have been anti-haggling, which is another way to say "Anti-negotiation". The problem I see isn't negotiation but instead how the negotiation takes place.

Let's take this computer store as an example. If you're one customer and you're making a single purchase- this is a simple transactional relationship and it behooves the store to optimize against such customers.

But if you are a customer who has been buying from this store for 10 years and using them for all the computer needs of a small business, presumably they've built a relationship up, in which case the computer store should know that they're gaining a loyal high-volume customer- a valuable asset indeed.

This means they can negotiate on many things, price being only one. They could negotiate on a barter of services, or they could negotiate on a personal relationship that's built up, or they could negotiate on service.

A good negotiation rarely happens in a single transaction.

I’ve wanted to try this strategy when buying a used car from a dealership. Offer them a good price, and if they counter, reduce my offer.
It really depends on who relies on whom. It looks like they are doing fine and can remove unwanted business as they wish.

I for one won't even touch this shop unless absolutely necessary. There are tons of alternatives online/offline. Good luck with your business.

At our local farmer's market, I trust the farmers to negotiate for me.

They have seen me before, and they will often give me a little discount or throw some new thing into my bag to try.

Maybe I could get an extra buck or two off, but I have it pretty easy as a software developer working from home.

Farming and selling at farmer's markets is hard work. If I don't get the very best price, I figure that's a little tip for them.

Of course if I were buying in quantity I might see it differently. But for the bit of produce I buy, I'm happy to pay for quality.

And I bet that if I needed a larger quantity, they would offer me a good deal.

Part of negotiating is building relationships.

I'm not disagreeing with you, and I really enjoyed that strange grocery story. Just offering a related perspective.

The margins on a grocery store are very low, it would be crazy to try to haggle there.

In a farmer's market, they probably throw away half the produce, the margin is more in the quantity of goods than in the price, so it would always be better to try to get more goods for free than to put price down!

> In a farmer's market, they probably throw away half the produce,

I don't think that any modern farm can sustain itself on farmers markets alone except when it's a hobby farm.

Everything not sold there will be sold to supermarkets in bulk. Farmer's markets are just a nice cherry on top where the margins are higher.

I think you’re assuming industrial agriculture? Smaller farms can and do survive on markets. Just because they might only be an acre doesn’t mean they’re a hobby farm; some of these are grossing well into 6 digit income.
I think arguing the definition of "hobby" farm is drifting from the point. Whether or not unsold food gets wasted is the more pertinent question, and I know the small farms I live near, as well as our own hobby farming, has very little waste. Between eating our own food, canning it, or recycling it to the chickens or livestock... not much gets thrown away.

Put into that context, there is absolutely a bottom to the price it is worth selling at. If you are offering less than its value as chicken food, we won't sell. Admittedly, that is still pretty cheap.

I worked on an organic vegetable farm for 5 years. 90% of their income came from direct farmer's market sales. We had the benefit of being able to remember what we sold last week, last year, etc. at farmer's market. We just planned based on that, and rarely ended up throwing away a substantial amount of produce. Lots of vegetables can be returned to cold storage and brought to a market the next day, too. Carrot & beet bunches with greens on them get topped and sold in 5lb bags. Onions, garlic, squash, potatoes, etc don't suffer from going to and from different markets. Salad greens can be more sensitive, but it depends on the weather and how they're displayed.

Also, a box of veg that was made well and truly unsaleable by a day at market would be thrown in the compost to be turned into next year's fertilizer.

The place I worked had ~10 acres in cultivation and grossed $200 - 300k. Their kids have college funds.

They don’t. That would be a wildly stupid thing to do. They sell at multiple markets.
The key to getting good deals at a farmers market is to show up near closing time.

The produce has already been picked; it's not like they can take it back and re-plant it. They will most probably just sell it in bulk to some mom-n-pop grocery store and head back to their farms. So you can score some really nice deals.

I did this when I was tight on cash for a month or two and needed to survive on the more bare minimum budget.

> The produce has already been picked; it's not like they can take it back and re-plant it.

That is such an insightful comment; thank you!

And it's the best kind of negotiating. Not only do you get a good deal, it's a win for the farmer too.

It’s not. Most of them make very little money. They sell their goods at multiple farmers markets.

I know many and they all complain about that rich assholes that do this thinking the food is just going to get thrown away.

> They sell their goods at multiple farmers markets.

Unless they invented some time-travel machine, it's impossible. Most farmers markets around these parts have similar hours: 9AM to 2PM or so.

So, if the farmer leaves the market at 2PM, where will they go? No farmers market is open after 2PM.

There goes your little theory.

Pro-tip: stop treating farmers like children who don't know what they're doing. You city people think you know it all, when in reality, you don't.

You've raised some good points in your comments in this thread.

Can you please leave out the insults and adversarial style?

We try for respectful and polite conversation here, even when we disagree on something. That way we can learn from each other.

From the site guidelines:

> Be kind. Don't be snarky. Have curious conversation; don't cross-examine. Please don't fulminate. Please don't sneer, including at the rest of the community.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Thanks, and I look forward to reading more of your insights!

No comment on the dude calling me an "asshole"? I hate to say "he started it", but he clearly did. It irritates me when people show up with holier-than-thou attitudes, assuming others don't know what they're talking about (I'm referring to @david38, of course)
This is how I get all my cakes. At the end of the day at a donut or cake stand, most of the goods go in the trash.

Even if there is no price flexibility, the employee will often agree to sell you a cake for full price then give you a cake of similar value he was about to put in the trash for free. If they know you always tip and can convince themselves that their employer is also winning, they are highly incentivised to agree.

Sometimes people in a job like this will take the un-eaten cakes home, but in the end they can only find a home for so much free cake.

The trick there, of course, is that you have to not want some of the stuff that sells out
This is a good way to piss off hard working people who don’t make much.

You clearly don’t know anything about how they operate.

You do know the vendors go to multiple farmers markets, right? You’re not saving anything from waste. Unless your particular farmers market is the last stop for that vendor, you’ll piss them off.

You know what happens when you ASSUME things?

You are ASSUMING that I offered them less money.

You are ASSUMING that I somehow forced them to do something they wouldn't do otherwise.

Reality is, they themselves offer great deals on whatever is left. No coercion required.

And last time I checked, it was a free world: I'm free to take their deal or not, and they're free to offer me one, or not.

And by the way: I learnt of this trick from farmers themselves.

> However, at the Farmer's market, there is a lot of price flexibility on products.

And the price flexibility increases as closing time nears!

My favorite comment heard at a garage sale, "In the morning the selection is good, in the afternoon the prices are good." Same energy :-)
Personally I don’t like to negotiate with farmers. They’re usually family run and is rather they make a good living. At car dealerships like autonation? Oh fuck that, I’ll fight for every dollar!
Median farming family in the US are millionaires, and it's not a good thing they're family-owned any more than a used car dealership or small landlord is. They're both in the same class of landed gentry/small business owners, except farmers get more tax breaks.

As you can learn from @SarahTaber_bww, they're also the most likely to use slave labor because small businesses can't afford HR departments.

Are you sure that applies to farmers at farmer's markets? The farmers at the farmer's market that I personally know are not that wealthy and have farms on dozens of acres. Re: slave labor, you might be talking about farmers that have thousands of acres, selling at large scale, who need to hire a lot of hands.

Also, "millionaire" seems a bit misleading here. A family farm that's passed down might have a million in assets, but that gets eaten up quickly when you count land, vehicles, livestock, etc. It doesn't necessarily mean someone is living like a king with dispensable income.

However, I'm definitely ignorant about the data when it comes to this, so I'll take a closer look!

Is this true for farmers in farmers markets? I think this might be the case for large scale farming. Most farmers I see in my farmers market have relatively small land.

My hypothesis is that if they’re big enough they don’t need to deal with the small quantities at farmers markets.

And car dealerships, especially the chains are absolutely not in the same bucket.

Nice sounding aphorism that's probably false: it's not a market if the price is fixed. It's a cartel
Holy crap! I had no idea, my eyes are open.

I've always assumed prices at retail shops are fixed, because, for the brief (and horrible) period of time _I_ worked retail, prices are set by corporate...

Any suggestions? Advice? Links? Primers?

I've negotiated my whole life for salary and consulting rate, but never negotiated anything else.

Additionally, for anyone reading this that doesn't know it, you CAN negotiate AirBNB rates, and often do it in a way where you AND the host are happier. I didn't know this until being with someone who runs several top-tier AirBNB houses.

Some AirBNB hosts would be happier letting you stay for a few days "officially" (to make sure you're not crazy or a jerk), and then extend the reservation in cash. Or book the reservation for a long duration, then shorten it once you check in.

It varies from location to location but we sometimes offered guests a 15% off discount if paid in cash, frequently it worked out that we got the same amount.

It frustrates my partner to no end. I always ask for a discount. Worst case you end up paying the amount you expect, best case you open up a window to negotiations of a discount. It never hurts to ask.
I don't like doing so. I don't want to have to be fake-friendly with people just to get the 'best' price on something, and leave feeling like I could probably have paid less if I'd just negotiated harder.

It's too much mental effort and I don't find there's any mental reward to the process. It doesn't feel like I got "a deal" it feels like the business or individual I negotiated with is probably trying to rip me off, and probably succeeded.

I'll get the best price by businesses competing with each other for my custom. Or I won't. Either way 'haggling' is alien to me and I prefer the world to be more straightforward.

I needed to order some parts from an online store, and I missed their sale. So I figured I would email them and ask for a discount.

Turns out if I bought a minimum amount they were willing to give me a significant discount - much better than the sale pirce, and the minimum amount wasn't that much.

I may start doing this a lot - just email and ask for a coupon.