Ask HN: What are some mentally healthy apps to have?

121 points by rco8786 ↗ HN
Like many of us, I’m in a battle to minimize social media and related apps influence over my life. But I’m not at a point where I want to just toss my phone in the corner and forget about it either.

I’m looking for some apps that people use and get genuine value out of. Can I learn something while I’m bored on the couch? Keep up with some unbiased news while I’m using the toilet? Etc

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DuoLingo for learning languages. Works up to a point and is useful as a starter.
For East Asian languages i would recommend LingoDeer.
Try Calm. I started using it few weeks back because I was facing sleep issues. It's totally worth the monthly price you know. The speakers are great and the white noise effects work like a charm to calm your senses.
Do they require Bluetooth or can you run a cable if you're willing to buy a dongle?
The 7 Minute Workout [0] app from Johnson & Johnson is nice. Free & no advertising.

"Mens sana in corpore sano" [1] as my dad used to say :)

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[0]: https://7minuteworkout.jnj.com

[1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mens_sana_in_corpore_sano

I got excited about the J&J app, but requires creating an account to use it at all, and for some reason the iCloud “hide my email” isn’t available on the account creation page.
Intro:

Why are you putting more apps onto the phone when you could live with the ones you have?

Body:

I haven't used Android in years but the high level concepts I'm describing probably apply equally, I've noticed a lot of cross pollination of ideas between them and us "iOS folks"[1][2]

Here are three apps you can use to improve your mental health, by reducing the chances your phone will be hacked and helping you plan your + make predictions.

1.) Notes app + emoji.

I have not used Android on a day to day basis for years, but on iOS, you can "pin" lists. Title the first line with emoji, then the second line with a description since titles are visible if someone forces you to unlock your phone.

Then add password to the notes.[3] A long one, stored in a password manager of your choice, or just write it down and put in in a safe place, like your wallet, or a physical safe. Or memorize it. Or use another technique I don't publish (because some things should be kept esoteric and offline)

Then set up a few lists like "Dailies" (stuff like morning pushups), "Groceries" (stuff you need from the store), Names (first name plus a few details about business contacts, lovers, and/or agents of foreign power).

2.) Clock app

Add a few time zones, and start checking them whenever you see an event in the news.

I currently have UTC, Zurich, London, New York, Toronto, and Tokyo.

(But I also have little mental hacks for each, like "Brussels is London plus one" so I'm not clogging the list with every single city that's on my radar.)

3.) Stock app

Add a few stocks you're interested and currencies. When you read a news article, check the time zone, then check the stocks and currencies. Try to guess if they'll be up or down. Don't record if they were -- you're training yourself to trust your gut.

Conclusion:

If you do these three things every day for a couple years, you'll start to get the same rush you get when you put a bullet in the center of a target, or successfully hack a server for the first when you confirm you were correct... but be careful -- on the rare occasions you're wrong, you'll probably need to smoke a strong indica to recover from the sad feelings you'll incur knowing you were wrong and will have to start the process over tomorrow.

Citations:

[1] I very purposefully chose an iPhone as my comms device. I don't want total control of my phone. I want a set of vetted apps to select from, protected by a strong passphrase so folks can get a warrant, spend millions or billions of dollars to get into my phone, or literally match me up with some catphishing goth girl informant who will probably go white as a sheet and panic when I just look her in the eye, tell her I'm not a serial killer, then go into the bathroom to turn off my phone as she rifles through my backpack.

[2] Ich besitze immer noch keine Schusswaffe, aber ich habe allen Spielern im Spiel gesagt, dass es kein Softplay mehr geben wird. Habt einen schönen Tag, wenn ihr könnt.

[3] https://support.apple.com/guide/security/secure-features-in-...

I hope these posts gets flagged (mine, and yours), because Jesus Christ dude. It's in the past now but that sort of mentality to something so far beyond practical reality is really terrifying. I hope you got some psychological help and are better now.
I think he is referring to the fact that this is a pretty low-key topic about a website to learn new languages, but your reply involves a very divisive political topic that you seem heavily invested in. It's almost as if you went up to the counter at an Arby's and started talking about intense political subjects to the person taking your order: it's very out of place.
Kindle
This would also be my answer. Put the phone away, preferably out of arms reach, and read a book.
>But I’m not at a point where I want to just toss my phone in the corner and forget about it either.

Why not? it works.

Yeah... I do exactly that fairly frequently (often enough it's a running gag in my family that if you want to call me - call my wife, since I won't have my phone.)

It turns out that your phone is an incredible tool, but only if taken in small doses. In larger doses - it's a nightmare device, actively designed and engineered to suck as much free time from you as possible.

The answer is simple: Stop using it except for explicit reasons.

If I want to dick around with tech - I'll use my desktop/laptop.

My phone is for

- Checking messages twice a day, once in the morning, once in the evening (sometimes more frequently if I'm coordinating with or meeting folks).

- Maps & GPS

- Shared internet connection if I need to use my laptop while out and about

- Unlocking my e-bike

That's it. I'm down to about 5 total apps I open (phone/camera/messages/maps/ebike) and I have never liked my phone more.

5 years ago I was on my phone all the time and miserable. It's much better to lug around a magazine or kindle, or turn on a podcast. Just don't get sucked into the time trap that "social media" is engineered to be. It's literally digital cancer.

Basically - don't open websites or social media apps at all.

>Yeah... I do exactly that fairly frequently (often enough it's a running gag in my family that if you want to call me - call my wife, since I won't have my phone.)

I am a big fan of leaving my phone in a different room if i am coding or in the car if i am building something. Problem is i run a business now and i have to be reachable, in case someone calls.

But i dont use any apps other than maps on my phone nowadays.

>If I want to dick around with tech - I'll use my desktop/laptop.

That is exactly what i do.

iPad: Alo Moves, Books, The Economist, Notes

Apple Watch: Fitness

A few years ago I made it my personal goal to pick up my phone only when absolutely necessary and that has done wonders for my mental health. For photos, I have a Canon G7 X and appreciate that it only has one job and it does it very well.

I've just been using Instagram as a place to browse art. I think you can't really unfollow toxic people (you technically can but your brain won't let you). But what you can do is flood it out with positive vibes.

My Instagram feed is full of e-commerce memes, AI generated art, and hand drawn dungeon maps.

It's not exactly useful but it keeps me inspired for the next day.

Plug for a related project I’m working on: mixgrid.io
Pages on any social media associated with the US National Parks (the department and the parks themselves) are very nice looking, promote healthy activities, and are mildly educational (and give you some positive rabbit holes to go down, like identifying plants or birdwatching).
Tangential but what are your favorite e-commerce meme accounts?
There's not that many, it's just a dig at @ecommurz. There were a lot of good tech memes on Facebook, but even the memes don't drown out the negativity.
I have found Headspace very useful for learning how to practice mindfulness and meditation. It’s very easy to get started with.

https://www.headspace.com/

The getting starting part is what I love most about headspace. They teach you the fundamentals in such an easy way. They make you really understand the 'why' behind meditation.
Sorry if this sounds blunt but the question is a bit like "what's the least harmful kind of crack I can get to improve my health?" From the way it's phrased it sounds like you're struggling with mental health and excessive phone/devise usage. The two issues might be related, my advice would be no app.
I’ve been stuck in bed due to medical stuff quite a bit over the last year. My iPhone has essentially preserved my sanity. Like any powerful tool, the user can can choose to make it good or bad.

I learned quite a bit about music theory and writing music over the last year. The iOS music ecosystem is fantastic and affordable.

I’ve been drawing in procreate on my iPad for several years but this also helped pass the hours.

Those are both pretty wholesome activities for something that you describe as “crack”.

> The iOS music ecosystem is fantastic and affordable.

I've been having good experiences recently with Flip for some quick fun jams.

Any suggestions of the "fantastic" kind ?

While that works for you, pen/paper, or even books and magazines/newspapers are great offline alternatives.
As a thought experiment, imagine you had a smart phone without internet access (but it was somehow able to download apps).

Apps you would want on that device might include a lot of healthy apps.

For example —

It would replace many of the devices we used pre-internet. A compass. A calendar. A guitar tuner. A pedometer. A notebook. A recipe book - where you place recipes. A recording device - and a bank of guitar effects pedals.

These are all healthy apps in my opinion.

Creative apps are healthy apps.
Procreate my well be the best value per dollar of anything I’ve purchased in my entire life measured in hours of joy and self-improvement it has provided.
I second this. I purchased an older ipad pro, pencil, and procreate for probably around $900 total. I rarely use the iPad for anything else (whiteboarding is the other main use), and joke that it's my Procreate machine. It's still the best money I've spent.
Cool. It looks like KidPix for adults.
Same here. I bought Procreate for my older iPad Pro and it has proved to be a real game changer for me. It transformed my relationship with the device so much that I installed a few other image tools on there and now it is my go-to for creative work. I also bought some art ‘books’ on the Kindle app and that has also helped with my mental health.

At some point in your life you get bored of doom scrolling on various apps and even browsing the web I’m now totally bored of it all. There isn’t anything new. Getting creative on the iPad using Procreate and using the phone for its camera to take reference shots and arty photos has been great. We have marvellous tools at our disposal and to use them for social media or reading rehashed blog articles masquerading as news seems like a crime to me. At any point in history people would have loved to have those tools available!

You've hit the nail on the head. The problem is not the phone, it's unlimited internet. You can waste almost as much time on a laptop with unlimited internet as on a smartphone. OTOH, it's pretty hard to get into unhealthy smartphone usage without (or with serverly rationed) internet access.
I've always thought of the phone as a digital Swiss Army knife. It's a tool to get various things done when I'm away from a proper computer. I carry an iPhone mini which helps with this, as it's a palm sized device that has some utilities on it vs an expansive 2-handed canvas for consumption.
The meditations on Withsara are nice, after that my go to free option is Insight timer.

https://www.withsara.com https://www.insighttimer.com

I second this recommendation for Insight Timer. I just use it as a timer that’s nicely customized for meditation, though it has guided talks and recordings that others may find useful.

The timer is MUCH better than the built in iOS timer. It has pleasant (less jarring) bell/gong sounds and customizable presets.

It also keeps track of your sessions which is useful as a subtle nudge to keep a routine practice.

It’s not essential but is nice, useful and free.

Not exactly what you’re looking for, but I’ve had fun checking the Oblique Strategies app every now and then.
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Extremely unpopular opinion from a software engineer on a tech forum but: mental health is as far away from the Internet as possible.

The more you can integrate the slower pace of nature and natural life, the better your mental health. Your physical presence is optimised for long days of doing fuck all, sitting in the grass, waiting for a deer to pass by.

Still struggling with this, but my long term life goal is living in a cabin in the middle of nowhere with easy access to the unnatural and constantly accelerating flow of information that is the Internet.

This is my future plan too. Make a rooftop solar with integrated battery and buy a high speed starlink.
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Did I misread? Wouldn't you want "middle of nowhere with no easy access to the ... Internet"?
No, the Internet is fun, in moderation, and it pays the bills. But then I want to switch off, step outside my front door and sit in the grass, soothed by the sound of insects, birds and wind.
I too did a double take on that, I thought you’d left out “without”. It’s a hard balance huh?

Perhaps the ideal way would be to have your main cabin with no real internet, and a 100 yard path to your tiny work cabin with internet. A physical friction to prevent needless interruption.

One can dream.

> mental health is as far away from the Internet as possible.

I don't think it's the internet, exactly. But anywhere on the internet where your attention has been commoditized.

Basically - if you aren't paying to use the app (and it's not decent open source software), get that fucking cancer out of your device.

Just the basics: messages, calls, GPS, maps, shared connection, photos/videos

those make one awesome, compelling device. Don't ruin it by letting fucking scum companies siphon all your energy and attention away for their own profit (and they are actively trying - complete with statistics and graphs, OKRs & key performance indicators... all painting a picture about how much they can fuck you by stealing all your attention and time)

Turning off notifications - all notifications - helps quite a bit. It's a lot easier to ignore attention-grabbing apps when they can't put their attention grabbing alerts in front of you.

I have an iPad explicitly configured this way, and it's incredibly relaxing to use it.

That does sound pleasant. I wish I could push notifications into a todo list with 1 button / click. I am usually not bothered or distracted by seeing a notification, but having to choose to delete it or act on it immediately is what gets me. I tend to delete everything and keep the interesting ones in the back of my mind for later ("I should check out my gf's new IG post")

I like notifications, and I try to respond to them intentionally. I open apps intentionally (this was easy enough to learn) and close apps intentionally (this was hard to learn). So I am pretty good about actually going into the app to do what I intended to do in response to the notification, and then closing the app. I can reassess afterwards if I want to spend more time in the app and open it back up, but again I create an intention before opening it that has a stopping point.

Intention is the difference between enjoying some funny short videos while sitting in a waiting room, and losing 1-2 hours of your life a day to doomscrolling. And if I could have a filtered list of notifications in a todo somewhere, I can set aside time to update myself on whats new that I care about but arent super important

Reading this from a cabin in the middle of nowhere — However I combine it with regular work and news consumption but it's definitely beneficial to be able to easily step outside for ideation and decision making, or some push-ups in the grass.
> waiting for a deer to pass by

We don't know everything about the era that shaped our bodies, there are a few contradicting narratives:

One being that we were mainly scavengers during the time that our brains grew to this size, especially savoring the marrow of the large bones of the large animals that used to roam the earth before we finished them off and had to look for other sources of highly nutritious foodstuffs. [1]

Another (albeit questioned) is that we hunted prey by running them to exhaustion, so called persistence hunting - a far cry from "waiting for deer to pass by" [2].

Some do argue that the preagricultural societies seemed to have plenty of leisure however [3], so you might be right :-).

But the larger point is if we would be mentally more healthy if we stuck to the old ways of hunting mammoths - or if we are first and foremost adaptable ... I guess my penny is on the latter, within reason.

[1] https://www.nature.com/scitable/knowledge/library/evidence-f...

[2] https://undark.org/2019/10/03/persistent-myth-persistence-hu...

[3] https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/for-95-percent-of-human...

One thing is for sure though!

They didn't have to pay taxes!

(this is a joke)

Village elder want meat, but they no hunt. Grug no like.
> the larger point is if we would be mentally more healthy if we stuck to the old ways of hunting mammoths

Certainly, if me and my buddies could hunt a whole mammoth our entire tribe could afford to do nothing for a month, as meat lasts a while in cold latitudes.

Sadly, nowadays one can't work very hard for a week and ask the boss to take the rest of the month off.

> The more you can integrate the slower pace of nature and natural life, the better your mental health. Your physical presence is optimised for long days of doing fuck all, sitting in the grass, waiting for a deer to pass by.

I am 1000% on board with this perspective, yet find your prescriptive solution to be a tad askew.

To me, the early internet - especially the pre-broadband days - was very similar to "doing fuck all," waiting for something to come by my screen to engage my focus & attention. In fact, the keyboard-driven computing world was a very pure invocation of the hunter-gatherer mindset. I wrote an article on Medium about this back in 2017, called "Tyrannical Illiteracy." [0]

I have yet to conceive of a more fitting description of today's internet than that.

[0] https://medium.com/@AndrewUnmuted/tyrannical-illiteracy-part...

i still find games to be great for my mental health, even more so now as an adult than as a kid. they are a place where i can make uninformed decisions based on my gut, and experience no negative consequences to my life. i treat every game like a sandbox. dont get sucked into the idea that anything you build or create, or skills you develop, in the game is meant to last.

For example, in an RPG game when I find a powerful 1-time use item - I use it as soon as I can.

There are many factors to optimal decision making, and optimized results are just 1 factor. Games help me explore trade-offs with quick vs long decisions, side effects of over planning, stress and panic effects on decisions, etc.

It carries over into the rest of my life, even work, where I am better able to manage things, like diminishing returns on my efforts, in ways that are very personal to me and my natural tendencies.

> Your physical presence is optimised for long days of doing fuck all, sitting in the grass, waiting for a deer to pass by.

No, your physical presence is optimized for being active most of the time. If you do "long days of doing fuck all", you'll lose bone density, muscle mass and probably gain weight and a mass of health issues. You'll probably experience cognitive decline.

The older you get, the more rapid these issues manifest themselves and the more important constant activity becomes.

I would recommend reducing your activity spent in the online world. It's mostly not reflective of anything in real life and the business models of everything that usually gets our attention there is manipulative enough to be a drain on your energy, mental health and sanity. Treat it like another world that is sometimes fun to jump into, but one that should not ever be taken seriously.
Don't forget boring old Ebook reader apps eg Kindle. Spending more of those little 5 or 10 minute breaks on reading a decent (fiction) book instead of browsing social media etc was one of the best things I've done for my happiness in the past couple of years.
I agree with the principle - but the apps are ultimately comparatively unhealthy compared to hardware ereaders like actual Kindle.

I rarely use the app as I've normally got the latter with me if I'm going to have time to read.

Just out of curiosity - why do you find them unhealthy?
Comparatively unhealthy. Smartphone screens are essentially shining a torch in your face; hardware e-readers are designed for one purpose only and that includes having a screen that does not tax your eyes - apps are no substitute for them.
PlantNET, BirdNET, kiwix a good sensor readout and a map. Use the tool, don't be used by it :)
Using attention-consuming apps in a toilet is not healthy (trust me I know).
I've taken the opposite approach a lot of times. So instead of asking what you can add you might want to look at what apps / bookmarks that you can remove. Do you need a link to the reddit frontpage, or can you narrow it down to one or two specific subreddits that you want to check, or maybe remove it entirely if it does not add much value to your daily life.

Apps that I would recommend however are many of the apps that tries to gamify physical activity. I use Garmin, but I am not sure if the app works without owning the accompanying smart watches and there are plenty of alternatives, and the gamification and accountability that it offers around physical activity makes it a lot easier to get out of the door (which is always the hard part). Physical activity has long been known to have a huge positive effect on mental capacity and health so well worth spending an hour or so every day on.

> I’m in a battle to minimize social media and related apps influence over my life.

Get rid of the social media apps. You don't need them. You're lying to yourself if you think that you do. Nobody is going to miss your Instagram or Facebook posts. TikTok is a stupid waste of time and likely algorithmically programmed to make you hate your country (why we let China ban our social media apps and then let them operate in our country I'll never understand) and Reddit is a cesspool of awful, uninformed opinions and if you really need to visit a special interest community there you can just visit that manually. You don't need an account and you don't have anything interesting to say so there's no reason to post.

Instead, fill your home screen with apps with positive goals. For me, this includes having Downdog, btwb, Fitness (Apple), Wikipedia, Maps, my local newspaper, and similar style apps with all red dot notifications turned off.

> But I need to sell things on Facebook marketplace so I'll have to keep my account.

No. Use eBay or Craigslist, sell it at a yardsale, or stop buying stuff you don't need. If you can't stomach that then you delete your actual Facebook account and create a new one specifically for marketplace.

> But how will I stay in touch with all of these groups and influencers that I follow who post entertaining content?

You won't. That's the point. Otherwise stop stressing about being addicted to social media and just embrace it. There's no separation of "people I like to follow" and "I feel addicted". You cannot have one without the other.

> I'm going to lose touch with friends and family.

Good. People come and go, including close friends and family members. And if the primary way you stay in touch is social media, well, you're just lying to yourself about your relationship with them. Let it go. It's unhealthy to cling to past relationships.

> Yea but I do stay in touch but I also like to see their new baby pictures

Well great, instead of seeing all of this stuff beforehand, just see them in person like you regularly do and ask them to show you pictures and then you can sit down and have a meaningful interaction.

Yes I understand that HackerNews and LinkedIn and other sites that I use are also social media. There are degrees of addictiveness. I don't believe you can only "minimize" top social media apps. They do provide value to a lot of people, but if you feel that you're being pulled away from your real life and you're literally posting asking how to win the battle over social media apps and their influence, the best thing you can do is start disengaging with the most addicting ones.

Some people can buy a bag of M&Ms and eat just one and put the bag down. Most people can't.

“Get rid of the social media apps.”

A middle road I’ve used is to restrict myself to the browser versions of social media. The user experience is so frustrating that I don’t want to stick around, I just check on what people are up to once or twice per week.

I installed a parental control app on my phone to make it automatically turn off at 10:30 PM. It's a small move that made a world of difference and I've been going to sleep much earlier as a result. (The "parent" doesn't need to be an actual parent, it can be a friend too.)
I use Waking Up for guided meditations (if you can stand Sam Harris). There are a few promo code around Google for a few free weeks. It's a 'how to meditate' course followed by daily meditations, with a bunch of podcast-style interviews and collections of recordings. The course has really helped my shape my meditation practice, and I usually do the daily meditation, which has really helped me focus myself.

(Another guided meditations app is Plum Village - free, but a bit worse quality, with a bit more random order of things.)

I second the recommendation for Waking Up. I previously tried Headspace and Calm, but Waking Up was the only one that stuck for me. I think the difference was the structured nature of the introductory course, good intuitive explanations from Sam Harris and the accompanying "theory" discussions and talks.
That's a good point! I've been reading up on various books Sam and other 'meditators' cite, and he does seem to have a nice approach where he takes 'the best' from various schools of thought and meditation, across Japanese Zazen and Indian Buddhist meditation.