People like this and Malcolm Gladwell need to stop putting out this kind of perspective. The WFH revolution is putting more power in the hands of employees vs employers. We have more time and flexibility now to work how we like. Employers and big companies are self-interested and aim to maximally extract profit from you the employee and you the consumer. We should not feel guilty about the luxuries that WFH affords us at the expense of our employers.
Like many things in life YMMV. For me, the time saved on commuting has directly translated into more time with my son. This far outweighs the downsides discussed in the article.
Hi, I'm the author. I'm a Data Scientist and I spend most of my time doing data analysis in Jupyter Notebooks or coding up ML algorithms.
For me I find it helpful being in an office as at home by myself it's way too easy to get sucked into the rabbit hole of YouTube or the Productivity Porn on Hacker News. For me it helps feeling like I'm part of a team and I don't want to let my team down.
Isn’t it broad strokes to paint office work as “better” when a lack of discipline is the problem and not where the work is performed (this is only an observation, please don’t take it as anything other than constructive criticism)? Accountability and the ability to push through the emotions around procrastination are not necessarily location dependent.
I’m sure, for some cohorts, they must be in the office to deliver. For many others, this is simply not the case.
It's hard to tell, but from what I've seen the people who have trouble setting boundaries when working from home are the same people who would consistently put in extra hours in the office, answer email at 11pm, etc.
I feel really irritated when I see them blaming a flexible work environment for the same problem they had before, and asking for the entire workforce to be subject to restrictive conditions so they can have an ineffective incentive to stand up for themselves.
Boundaries can be challenging because the person who has the least to lose wins. If you have imposter syndrome, need the job financially, etc you’re less likely to enforce healthy boundaries to prevent termination. With that said, there are definitely folks who embrace office theater that you mention in your first paragraph. It takes some work to suss out if the toxicity is the org or the person.
Sounds like you have poor self-control. I've been working from home for 6-years and never once had this problem.
There are many ways to form productive habits at home; for example, remote conference rooms that people can jump in and out of. Slack even has "huddles" now which are very useful for remote work.
Letting your team down has nothing to do with being a seat-warmer in the office.
>> For me I find it helpful being in an office as at home by myself it's way too easy to get sucked into the rabbit hole of YouTube or the Productivity Porn on Hacker News. For me it helps feeling like I'm part of a team and I don't want to let my team down.
> Sounds like you have poor self-control. I've been working from home for 6-years and never once had this problem.
Sounds like you have a bad attitude. It's not a good to respond to someone who shares their personal experience with a drive-by judgement that they must be the problem because you think it works for you.
That is an interesting view, team people and non team people are very different it seems. I'm non team and can easily manage my own work day, it's less common it seems, at least thats what I'm told. People are so very different in what they are comfortable with and I really like the variability that is becoming common.
Genuine question - do you enjoy what you do? Because the only difference there is social judgement in the office if you were to be slacking - if you need to be pressured into doing your work, are you in the right field?
Most people can still go into an office if that's what they want to do.
What's not reasonable in general is to expect others to come into the office to motivate you/socialize with/etc. if they don't have to.
In general, it's reasonable to expect to have some non-home place to work at (whether a conventional office or coworking space). What's not as reasonable is to expect a before-times office where everyone comes in every day.
If you focus on and achieve outcomes, you won't "let your team down".
It is very much possible to waste time at work, get involved with various "initiatives", create all the right noises, and be seen as one of the team while not actually contributing to anything productive.
If you find it better to work in an office, great.
But telling me that my preferred way of working is "not best" for my mental well being is just annoying. Or telling me that I actually must not like WFH, and I just am not conscious of it or haven't acknowledged it yet is just... No.
I think I am uniquely qualified to judge what is or is not good for my own mental well being, my own productivity, etc.
(Don't worry about the hate Mike, that type of tone doesn't belong here.)
Some people have trouble working from home and need a bit of social pressure to get things going. I personally prefer cafes or coworking spaces over a mandatory office, but that's me. I have faith that people will find what works for them and gravitate towards the opportunities that work well with their skills and personality.
They probably mean that you will ruin your day and your evening by procrastinating at home. The day isn't relaxing even if you slack, and the evening is stressing because you eventually still need do to some work.
On the other hand that could easily be solved by all being in a long group call / chat. But if your coworkers only know email and telephone, then good luck.
> One of the advantages of office work is that being surrounded by colleagues pushes us to get our work done during office time
> Presumably the author's job mostly involves licking boots, because that's the only way this sentence makes any goddamn sense.
I read that as having more discipline to guard your personal time and prevent work from spilling over into it.
One of my biggest observations from WFH is it's A LOT easier to work overtime without even realizing it. At home it's SOOO much easier to just stay on a little longer to "finish up," plus you don't have as many cues in your environment that the work day is ending.
This is a huge factor that doesn't get the publicity it deserves. I work in a company currently led by a person who is very preachy about being "green" - i.e. she's a vegan who uses no plastic whenever possible, only shops at health food stores, uses her bike for commuting because she lives near her workplace, and so on.
But she's adamant that everybody needs to commute to the office 5 days a week, even developers, who often have to use a car. It doesn't help that the workplace is in area which is infamous for its traffic congestions (not as bad as LA but it happens regularly that going 15 miles from home to work will take 1h-2h).
Since her announcement that WFH will only be possible when the government is giving strong recommendations (to counter a pandemic wave for instance), I've lost most respect for her and her show-off "green" lifestyle. Especially because developers working at the office are often abused by clueless or unmotivated general staff who can't work the photo copier menu and think they can ask any "tech guy" who happens to be near.
Commuting costs money too. The article portrays paying for “focusing-as-a-service” as a negative, but it’s probably cheaper for a lot of people than paying the extra commuting costs to come in to the office. Seems like it could be a completely valid trade-off in a lot of circumstances.
I'm back in the office 4-5 days a week. We had an intern this Summer as well, and we spent lots of time one on one, spent time in the team together, went out for lunch & drinks. Compare this to the guy last year who was at home and basically was too easy to ignore. In office intern learned 100x as much as the guy last year, he's just lucky to be at a company where everyone is back in the office.
Do you care if you are all that effective in those 2-4 years? Everywhere is a temporary stop, so I really only care about learning tech skills. Get the biz domain wrong? Who cares.
Training up new/junior staff is the one area where I do think having some in-person collaboration is immensely valuable. But you can do this in bursts with certain team members and not have to require everyone to be in-person.
The primary goal of internship (except when its a legal requirement for certification) is to built relationship and networking. You are trading work in exchange for access to professionals in the industry, with the hope of using that in the future. In that context it is obviously a worse trade if all the interaction is done on the phone or through a webcam.
It is a very different situation for people who trade work hours in exchange of getting paid.
Internships at tech companies are generally paid--as they should be. Although I agree that a remote internship is probably not as good an experience as in-person would be.
WFH is literally the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I would take a 50% pay cut with zero second thoughts if it were the only way to stay remote.
At issue is that folks wishing to return to the office explicitly want EVERYONE ELSE to do so as well, because their issue with working from home isn't the location. It's that they need people around them, whether they want to be there or not.
I think this is true of some (I have suspected it among people I work with too) but there are objective advantages to being in the office just like there are advantages to working from home. For example, asynchronous communication over Slack or Teams is distracting and inefficient sometimes. I know there are also drawbacks to being available for people to bug you but nothing beats being able to communicate in real time when you're trying to solve a problem. I have been contending that in-person work is actually preferable but it has become so fraught with problematic work and management practices that we can't stand it anymore. I think that while working from home solves some issues, it's not the newer and better work practice that it's cracked up to be.
Literally I think different people work differently and that’s ok. I think managements true challenge in this isn’t creating conformance with a standard but ensuring individuals can work in the environment and mode they work best.
Truth is a neurodiverse person will not feel as stressed when working in their home environment and will be considerably more productive. The marginal benefit to the extrovert being able to interact with that neurodiverse person in an office is relatively small, and much less than the impact on the neurodiverse persons productivity. By allowing people to organize along their preferred mode and management working hard to facilitate that environment the aggregate productivity gained by simply letting people be happier in their day to day life will swamp the frictions between the two styles. Nothing makes productivity happen better than a human who is comfortable in their environment.
This where management should be expending their energy - figuring out how to make it work rather than figuring out how to cajole people into being unhappy.
I agree with a lot of this. It's about finding the nuance and letting people work in the way that's most effective for their context. There's no reason people shouldn't be able to work from home if they need to. But I think what gets lost in this conversation is that a lot of people aren't making altruistic decisions about how to do work best - they just want to do what they want. Some people who like working from home would benefit from being challenged to return to the office and some people in the office would probably do better working from home.
You are willing to give up 1-2 hours of your personal time a workday (avoided commuting time) to gain the supposed efficiencies of working in an office? I find it hard to believe many people are willing to make that sacrifice anymore when there are now options to work from home.
Not everyone would have a 1-2 hour commute but I do think shaving that time off is a fine reason to work from home. Or getting to work for a company that's headquartered thousands of miles away. It's why I myself work from home. But there are a lot of benefits from working in the office. Although it may be beneficial for some people with certain needs or contexts, WFH is not a categorical improvement over working in an office for every person ever.
Most people have commute times within that span. For me and I believe most people, the supposed benefits of the office are far outweighed by the advantages of avoiding a commute and having a quiet place to get work done.
Granted that onboarding new workers may be more challenging, but this can be improved by creating a more efficient process for new employees that in the end might be better than the onboarding experience pre-wfh.
Have there been any studies showing why people are choosing to work from home that you're drawing the "most people" from? Also, home is not a quiet place for some people. I have two kids and my home is absolutely not a quiet place to get work done. Indeed, most days I do brave the commute it's because the office is a quieter place that facilitates increased productivity. Again, I'm all for working from home - for myself and others. But it's not a panacea.
I need to be around other people to feel energized. I've considered WFH jobs, but have stuck with lower paying positions that allow me to socialize at work.
I know I can be a bit annoying. Maybe I'm an energy vampire.
You don’t have to work literally from home. Public libraries can be great places to work from. You have people around which don’t bother you, and eventually you start to socialise with the other regulars. To start, consider inviting a remote working friend (doesn’t have to work for the same company) to go with you.
I agree. I can see a future where companies differentiate based on pure wfh and a hybrid office/wfh model, and employees can pick what works for them.
My problem is when I explain that I personally get more energized out of being on a team that I see in person regularly, posters basically tell me I don't know myself and am just plain wrong.
Yeah exactly. You’re not wrong. You are you, and you are different than everyone else in your work place. As are they. That’s not a problem to solve, it’s an opportunity for work to be less painful and stressful to our organism by forcing us to conform to unnatural (for us individually!) environments. By tending to the organisms needs for comfort we free the persons mind to engage in the essence of the work, rather than surviving the day.
Once you show people a taste of freedom, there is no going back voluntarily. I went back to work in the office for a couple of weeks and it was dreadful, while i enjoyed the interactions with my coworkers, the commute and lack of personal freedom while in office was dreadful. I want to sit on my couch and watch tv for an hour or exercise in the middle of the day if i feel unproductive without being judged or trying to keep up appearances. I work for an extremely forward thinking company but it is instinctive that you feel the need to somewhat keep up appearances.
I agree completely. After having the freedom to tailor my environment precisely to how I do my best work, going to an office feels entirely performative. It feels like doing a show and dance to make other people feel important rather than increase anybody's actual outputs.
I'm in my mid-30s and by now most of my friends are people I had worked with. A lot of people used to meet their future spouse at work. The friends from work have been a lot stickier than those I had made in college due to similar interest and experience and overall level of maturity. After college I was socialized at work. I got a lot of hard won lessons about how to interact with people and maintain professionalism. I couldn't imagine leaving college to just spend 8 hours a day at home in front of my computer.
I fear a generation of young people growing up with wfh won't be socialized. At many jobs you have to interact with a wide variety of people. You learn about power dynamics, office politics and effective/poor leadership. You could think this stuff is BS, and maybe it is, but its important to understand. Work is also great moderator. Many young people live in a bubble and surround themselves with people exactly like them, with their same politics and beliefs. It's easier to be an activist on slack, and without the awkward looks from your colleagues, you won't realize its not being well received.
At this point in my life wfh is convenient. I have dishes to do, kids to pick up, a relationship with my wife to maintain, but I still miss work from home. I'm just glad I had the chance to experience in person work when I was younger
Have you considered that it might be a self correcting problem ?
The 2 hours you save by not commuting can be used to join a local running club. Suddenly you’re meeting a lot of new people you would have never met before.
My biggest social network is indeed a choir. By far. Most of my friends are from there and many couples are forming there. It's also way bigger than any team I could be working in.
Also, in my current company (many people WFH, at least partly), actually several couples formed because people meet at the seminars, at a time there is no stress related to work, in a relaxed setting. So remote work can be suitable for this too with the right ingredients. The company was not as remote as today before covid, but has been spread across two countries (mostly) for years so this is similar in this respect since the couples are mostly people from the two countries.
I've also built friendships from by previous work, when I was at the office, so this is also true.
I'm sure with time I'll make long lasting relationships at my current company too. We are already happy to see each others when it happens.
Hopefully it’s clear that running is just an example that can be replaced with any other social activities you enjoy.
My point is you’re not stripped of every opportunity to socialise if you choose to go remote, and it’s entirely feasible to replace the loss of office based social interaction with some other social interaction.
Not everyone has other social activities they enjoy.
Or the social activities they might enjoy, involve some skill prerequisite they don’t have, or time commitments they can’t keep.
Essentially, if someone was already a social person and had existing social groups for those hobbies that the office commute interfered with, then wfh was a gift.
But for those who enjoy their job, and enjoyed in-office collaboration, there is going to be a lot of effort and several prerequisites required to attempt to replace that outside the office.
I’m saying if you choose to WFH or remote you can still enjoy social activities.
The “you’ll always be worse off socially if you WFH” argument isn’t valid.
If your personal situation dictates that it’s impossible for you to social outside a work/office environment and that would hurt your quality of life, you should absolutely WFO.
Just understand that it doesn’t apply universally and WFH and having plenty of social interaction is entirely plausible and within reach for many many people.
My problem was lack of time and energy. The commute and the effort of commuting just killed any desire to seek out social activities after work. Work was not getting in the way of any specific hobby I already had.
Once that constraint was removed, I could actually start figuring out what stuff I was interested in and perusing it.
I was surprised how much stuff is out there once I started looking for things to do.
The reasonable upthread point is that, for some people, working and collaborating in the office gave them their social fix and they may not have the time or the interest to seek out social activities outside of work hours.
The answer probably has to be either live with that or seek out work environments more to their liking. Note that this isn't even wholly a WFH/COVID situation. For years, I've worked with a very distributed group of people. If I went into the local office pre-COVID, there would be people there but potentially I wouldn't run into anyone I knew and almost certainly no one I directly worked with.
Your underlying assumption is that there is some other hobby that I enjoy, have time to pursue, and have opportunities near me to engage in. As someone with kids, free time is both in short supply and sporadically available.
> Your underlying assumption is I am saying WFH is better for socialising.
No, that’s not my underlying assumption.
> I’m challenging the narrative that you are strictly socially worse off by working remote.
Your challenge to the narrative has the assumption (among others) that people have additional time outside of work to socialize. Most parents don’t have consistent free time to dedicate to a social activity.
The scenario is commute takes time, you save 2 hours commuting. All other things being equal that is your time to peruse hobbies.
> have opportunities near me
Not my assumption, many people socialise over video games over the internet. There are many other internet social communities. Geographical proximity is not a strict requirement.
> As someone with kids, free time..
Not relevant - see comment above about more free time from not commuting.
My actual assumptions are you commute to work and you can’t use that time to socialise. Approximate round trip commute time is 2 hours not including prep time.
As I’ve mentioned elsewhere - If your only possible hobby is socialising at work then it sounds like WFO is for you.
That doesn’t automatically mean many other people are socially worse off from WFH. Many people have other social hobbies they can do or don’t mind picking up.
I don't know if that's realistic for most people. Sports is a good one and meeting people during intramural leagues is a good idea, but its not like these leagues conflict with work hours anyway. And its harder since working bleeds into after hours. So it's harder to step away at 5 to play a softball game when you're wfh, or at least I feel like it would be tougher since you're basically always on call.
Overall the people who do these extra-curricular activities will probably continue to do so, but other people may not be any more inclined.
It sounds like this is the actual problem you need to address.
> extra-curricular activities
There is no curriculum at work. Socialising isn’t exclusive to the work place. There are ample opportunities to meet people outside of the office.
It requires a small shift in our thinking because WFO is soo ingrained in us, we get confused once it’s not mandated. That doesn’t mean social contact is not easily within reach.
"I fear a generation of young people growing up with wfh won't be socialized. " - i mean that is a problem they will likely encounter way before even starting a career but they are adults and i'm sure there will be some companies which will mandate offices, so if they choose, they can work for those companies.
I think as a society we'd do vastly better to learn how to socialize outside of work. People need to have hobbies and stuff (and they need to have enough free time outside of work to have hobbies instead of coming home and being too burned out to do anything).
Sorry, a lot of my close friends here in Canada were met at a previous company I work at, which was full remote.
Yeah, with kids now I don't make many friends and it's definitely a byproduct of my new life: for friendship to form I need a family with similar ideas regarding educating kids, similar interest in hobbies, close by and with kids of similar age.
It was hard with requirements when it was only me, now it's basically impossible
The problem is that your idea of freedom is somebody else's idea of torture. I don't mind working from home once or twice a week, but being forced to work from home 5 days a week was awful and both my mental and physical health suffered significantly.
For me being able to go to the office is freedom - unless I need to have my laptop for an evening meeting, I can leave it in the office and not have to think about work problems when I'm not there. The 25 minute walk in the morning starts to get me into the office mindset, and the walk home helps me leave the work problems behind.
Economically it's also better for me to go to the office. Lunches are subsidized, so I'd be very hard pressed to eat cheaper at home without having to eat the same thing every day, and in the office I don't have to pay for my beverages. Utilities are also something that I save money on by going to the office.
I saw many colleagues start during the WFH period that are still way behind in terms of where they would have been if they had been in the office, surrounded by others who can help them easily. --No matter how much we tell them to ping us, or how much we try to be proactive and reach out to them, it's simply much harder to learn remotely.
I'm not saying that everyone needs to be in the office 5 days a week, but pretending that there are no benefits to going to the office is just as disingenuous as pretending that there are no benefits to letting people work from home.
Remote work is all about choice and personal freedom, if you want to go into the office, you should do that but the problem arises where you are in the office and you feel lonely (due to your choice) and you start a crusade to get everyone back in the office.
Personal freedom is great, but you're still a member of society, which means you have to compromise. That may very well mean accepting that you do need to go into the office sometimes in order to help ensure that your coworkers' needs are also being met.
If you're talking about needs for work, then that's reasonable to ask, once in a while. As long as it's genuine needs and not just preferences.
But if you're asking your coworkers to regularly come in to work to meet your social needs? No. That's your responsibility. If you can't meet those needs at work, then you need to find other avenues outside of work to meet them, or find a different job where more of the people have the same expectations as you regarding the social nature of work.
You are also a member of society, and need to help ensure that your coworkers' needs are being met. You don't get to demand that they all sacrifice time, money, greenhouse gases, and mental energy just to help you feel like it's still 2019.
The compromise (as the poster to whom you replied mentioned) should be “as members of society, we should occasionally compromise our needs to help meet the needs of people who prefer a more social office atmosphere, perhaps once or twice a week”, should it not?
Why should one type of member of society always be inconvenienced so that the other side never is?
Well, for one thing, that means that even if you're working remotely, you still need to be physically located in close proximity to the office. It takes full-remote, with all the fairly obvious benefits it offers, off the table.
For another, it's one person asking many people to sacrifice their own needs to meet his.
For a third, he's presenting it as if having all his coworkers, or at least most of them, in the office is the only reasonable way to meet his social needs, when there are certainly other options.
Overall, what it sounds very much like is "Everything was going just fine for me before the pandemic, and then when other people started finding ways to meet their needs better, and the "default" changed, suddenly I was no longer automatically getting my needs met. The obvious solution to this is that we just need to go back to everyone else giving up what they've gained so I don't have to change my lifestyle in any way!"
If that's not what tallanvor means, then I apologize for misconstruing them; however, I have definitely seen many, many people who clearly feel that way advocating for full return-to-office policies specifically for their own comfort and convenience.
There are lots of perfectly legitimate things that people do which inconvenience me in various ways. But I don't think I'm within my rights to demand that airlines don't allow young children or obese people in planes for example. If management doesn't feel I have a need to come into the office a couple days a week, I'm not coming in just because some people want the buzz of a busy 2019 office.
I would be totally OK with doing this if those people who want a more social office atmosphere would be willing to pool together and pay for the gasoline I would have to use to commute 2-3 hours each way to the office. If it cost them real money, would they be willing to pay for those "magical hallway conversations" and "office buzz"?
> But if you're asking your coworkers to regularly come in to work to meet your social needs? No. That's your responsibility.
This. Your coworkers are not your friends. If your coworkers are all that's filling your social needs that should be a red flag for you and something you should work on.
If those needs are professional, possibly. As someone who has been largely remote for a long time, I'll fly in or do a long drive for an occasional multi-day team get-together.
But, if it's just a case of wanting me in the office semi-regularly so you have people around, I won't be meeting those needs. (But I'm sure there are plenty of other companies where offices are more back to pre-pandemic ways. And someone who cares deeply about that should probably seek out such companies.)
How would this be a capitalist trap? I don’t have the numbers, but I’d expect that most government employees have returned to the office, whereas many industries (like IT) have kept WFH/hybrid work post-pandemic.
I find doing house chores help me to be more productive. Sure, some times it bother me that I cannot finish the chores but as long as I split it up well, I feel good.
Instead of slacking for 20 mins after intense work, I stand up, bring the dirty clothoes and put them in the washing machine. That simple act not only pull my mind away from thinking about work but also exercise my body. I save some time as well so it's a nice bonus on top. Now back at my computer, I can have a fresh look at what I was working on.
In office, I either surfing on my phone, watch YouTube for striking a conversation with whoever is in the canteen (this often takes a lot more time as you can't just say time's up, I need to work).
I love being able to get stuff done that's technically personal and not work related, like chores or cooking food. I can take a break from work and not have to use my limited personal time (after 5 and on the weekends) to get the boring stuff done. It just makes more sense to kill 2 birds with 1 stone in that sense.
If you have no discipline and no motivation, remote work is not for you. You have to make efforts to have social interactions, get out of the house, draw a line in the sand between work and play. It's real easy once you get your ducks in a row.
WFH is a great, but like anything, if you misuse it and can't find ways to be productive and disciplined, you probably belong in an office under the supervision and comfort of someone (or something, such as cultural ethos) having that discipline for you.
Working from home isn't synonymous with a rich social life. Personally, even though I have/had healthy work and personal relationships, I used WFH as an excuse to unhealthily isolate myself for just about all of 2020. Also, I'm inclined to believe employers don't give a damn about our social lives. They want more work out of us and more money.
I hope that didn't come across as my point. Some have a rich social life and prefer the office, and others wfh. Some have a poor social life and prefer the office, and others wfh.
My point was just that those who fill their social life outside of work don't always need everyone working from the office. And that's okay.
And these types are the ones that interrupt me to ask obvious questions that can be figured out with a little research on their own or catch me in the hall for a “quick” chat about trivial matters or gossip that lasts for 20-30 minutes several times a day. Meanwhile, I stay late to get work done since several hours have been wasted commuting to the office, chatting, and going to inefficient meetings.
Bottom line is that companies save money on real estate and utilities, have happier workers, live in healthier environments due to less car pollution, can hire from a larger pool, and attract the best talent when they offer work from home.
Companies that do not take advantage of this will be at a structural disadvantage, so the almighty savings of dollars will likely make this trend unstoppable.
Working in an office isn't just for people who need someone else to have discipline for them. There are many reason why people could want to be in the office.
meta but: am I the only one who gets an uncomfortable feeling while reading a blog with these constant inline links? I feel compelled to click them but there’s so many I just end up not reading the article at all.
I feel this way too but the other day, I was reading an op-ed with a bunch of in-line links. I decided to click on the links to see if the linked page actually say what the link anchor and surrounding text hinted at. In many cases, there was no connection at all!
Usually, these links are used to boost on-site SEO and sometimes, to seem authoritative and well-read on the topic at hand.
all that does for me is remind me of the PageRank-induced farming for backlinks, doesn't make it look more credible (which is what this particular author tries to do).
If I had to interact with my co-workers and boss 9 hours every day I would have quit my job a long time ago. And I have no intention of overworking myself to death. At 17:00 I turn my computer off and proceed to enjoy the rest of my day.
Working from the office during the pandemic has been hell for me. I avoided Covid successfully despite a lot of social pushback on wearing a mask at work and other precautions until June because somebody couldn’t be damned to wear a mask, social distance, or just stay home. They did none of it. Meanwhile everyone not on my team did get to WFH for the duration and most still do. Stuff like this creates serious ill will and resentment.
Although I retired last year, that year I worked at home during the pandemic was just fine productivity-wise, but I did miss the social interaction, the ability to hear discussions around me (sometimes too loud of course) where I learned things I would otherwise not know about projects, and I had lunch with my team and other teams almost every day, talking about all sorts of things and sometimes even work. That's what I missed. Slack is fine for communication (I probably read/wrote hundreds of messages every day) but you miss the human interaction.
If I had a family, probably would not have missed the work folks as much, but spending time talking with other programmers every day in casual conversation is a learning experience you won't get just slacking people as part of work. Junior engineers can learn by doing, but being able to have impromptu whiteboard sessions to explain things in detail helps them move forward faster. Sure you could use Zoom, but it becomes just formal meetings instead of a 5 min quick lesson.
I haven't read something I disagree with so strongly in a very long time. It looks like the author makes an (entirely incorrect) assumption that their views is somehow equal to scientific evidence.
All I learned from this post is the author is unable to reap the many benefits of WFH. And that's fine; it doesn't have to be awesome for everyone.
> Remote workers are in a cycle of procrastination and guilt
I've felt that at the office too. Not sure it is related to WFH for me.
WFH is a change. I'm not surprised some people wary about it. I guess it is healthy. This article, however, really goes far making WFH feel sad. My video calls feel nothing like "speaking to muted mics and webcams, wondering whether anybody is listening at all". We trust each others. Ever lived an in-person meeting where everybody is sleeping because of boredom and a big lunch just before? This kind of thing is possible both remotely and in-person.
Thanks to WFH I've been able to spend quality time with friends and family lately, not having to worry about how I should be able to reach a specific geographic place at all time, and I'm enjoying my colleagues too. Granted, it might take specific personalities, but I seem to fit personally and my colleagues too. Some people are not ready/wired for this, like in my previous company, and that's fine too.
Possible. Definitely didn't work for me however (xD). I'm accountable to myself (in addition to the colleagues / bosses) and that seems to suffice feeling guilt if I don't progress.
I don't want to see my colleagues, sure I preferred in person meetings but that was only because it was a break from real work. I dislike meetings in general at all.
I want to go to work, do my job, get paid and then after that, that's my life, then I can be around the few people I have chosen to be around not forced interactions with people just because we share the same enviroment.
Sounds like the author is writing this article based on his own ineffectiveness at working remotely. It's true that video calls can be more draining than an in-person meeting - if you have nothing but meetings on your calendar all day. If I only have one meeting for the day, it's nice to not have to commute in just for that one hour (that could be cancelled/postponed if somebody doesn't show).
The author is also terribly mistaken if he doesn't think people weren't browsing the web while in an office before, procrastinating on getting their work done there as well.
We don't want to be your friends and hang out afterwards and get drinks.
I am a fantastically social person outside of work, I got to bars, go to concerts. That's where I've met my first real girlfriend, fun concert.
A fun concert that I voluntarily went to.
I absolutely hate company events, I hate this whole forced fun crap. I have other things I would rather do. If you actually would like to become my friend, we can hang out. But not at the office.
Real talk, if I found a job that would allow me to work remote from another country ( where I'm authorized to work), I would be open to working for as little as 60K a year.
That's more than enough to support me in most of the world.
But if instead you tell me I need to live in the bay, all of a sudden.
Real talk, if I found a job that would allow me to work remote from another country ( where I'm authorized to work), I would be open to working for as little as 60K a year.
I interact all the time over teams with my coworkers from my team. Most of my work comes from jira. I have 5 to 10 tasks on my plate and I know what I need to get done. If I run out of crap I ask for more.
We even have a little group setup of people I used to go to lunch with. We post crap from the internet etc.
Most of my team is in other states so even if I did go back to an office my work process wouldn't change.
but I would spend a fortune more in gas and going out to eat at lunch.
I checked the news and stuff at the office and do the same at home.
The big difference is the hour a day I get back and I have a little better attitude.
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[ 1.6 ms ] story [ 228 ms ] threadFor me I find it helpful being in an office as at home by myself it's way too easy to get sucked into the rabbit hole of YouTube or the Productivity Porn on Hacker News. For me it helps feeling like I'm part of a team and I don't want to let my team down.
I’m sure, for some cohorts, they must be in the office to deliver. For many others, this is simply not the case.
I feel really irritated when I see them blaming a flexible work environment for the same problem they had before, and asking for the entire workforce to be subject to restrictive conditions so they can have an ineffective incentive to stand up for themselves.
There are many ways to form productive habits at home; for example, remote conference rooms that people can jump in and out of. Slack even has "huddles" now which are very useful for remote work.
Letting your team down has nothing to do with being a seat-warmer in the office.
> Sounds like you have poor self-control. I've been working from home for 6-years and never once had this problem.
Sounds like you have a bad attitude. It's not a good to respond to someone who shares their personal experience with a drive-by judgement that they must be the problem because you think it works for you.
But you seem to be assuming that what is better for you must also be better for everyone else, and that's not necessarily the case.
What's not reasonable in general is to expect others to come into the office to motivate you/socialize with/etc. if they don't have to.
In general, it's reasonable to expect to have some non-home place to work at (whether a conventional office or coworking space). What's not as reasonable is to expect a before-times office where everyone comes in every day.
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It is very much possible to waste time at work, get involved with various "initiatives", create all the right noises, and be seen as one of the team while not actually contributing to anything productive.
But telling me that my preferred way of working is "not best" for my mental well being is just annoying. Or telling me that I actually must not like WFH, and I just am not conscious of it or haven't acknowledged it yet is just... No.
I think I am uniquely qualified to judge what is or is not good for my own mental well being, my own productivity, etc.
Some people have trouble working from home and need a bit of social pressure to get things going. I personally prefer cafes or coworking spaces over a mandatory office, but that's me. I have faith that people will find what works for them and gravitate towards the opportunities that work well with their skills and personality.
On the other hand that could easily be solved by all being in a long group call / chat. But if your coworkers only know email and telephone, then good luck.
It's a different thing if you e.g. plan 1 hour in the middle of the day to go for a walk.
> Presumably the author's job mostly involves licking boots, because that's the only way this sentence makes any goddamn sense.
I read that as having more discipline to guard your personal time and prevent work from spilling over into it.
One of my biggest observations from WFH is it's A LOT easier to work overtime without even realizing it. At home it's SOOO much easier to just stay on a little longer to "finish up," plus you don't have as many cues in your environment that the work day is ending.
But she's adamant that everybody needs to commute to the office 5 days a week, even developers, who often have to use a car. It doesn't help that the workplace is in area which is infamous for its traffic congestions (not as bad as LA but it happens regularly that going 15 miles from home to work will take 1h-2h).
Since her announcement that WFH will only be possible when the government is giving strong recommendations (to counter a pandemic wave for instance), I've lost most respect for her and her show-off "green" lifestyle. Especially because developers working at the office are often abused by clueless or unmotivated general staff who can't work the photo copier menu and think they can ask any "tech guy" who happens to be near.
But this doesn't imply that remote WFH doesn't work for regular employees.
It is a very different situation for people who trade work hours in exchange of getting paid.
Yes but if you work for a firm that wants to have interns/grads it relies on the "people who trade work [for pay]" to help do the training.
WFH is literally the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I would take a 50% pay cut with zero second thoughts if it were the only way to stay remote.
Truth is a neurodiverse person will not feel as stressed when working in their home environment and will be considerably more productive. The marginal benefit to the extrovert being able to interact with that neurodiverse person in an office is relatively small, and much less than the impact on the neurodiverse persons productivity. By allowing people to organize along their preferred mode and management working hard to facilitate that environment the aggregate productivity gained by simply letting people be happier in their day to day life will swamp the frictions between the two styles. Nothing makes productivity happen better than a human who is comfortable in their environment.
This where management should be expending their energy - figuring out how to make it work rather than figuring out how to cajole people into being unhappy.
Granted that onboarding new workers may be more challenging, but this can be improved by creating a more efficient process for new employees that in the end might be better than the onboarding experience pre-wfh.
I know I can be a bit annoying. Maybe I'm an energy vampire.
My problem is when I explain that I personally get more energized out of being on a team that I see in person regularly, posters basically tell me I don't know myself and am just plain wrong.
I fear a generation of young people growing up with wfh won't be socialized. At many jobs you have to interact with a wide variety of people. You learn about power dynamics, office politics and effective/poor leadership. You could think this stuff is BS, and maybe it is, but its important to understand. Work is also great moderator. Many young people live in a bubble and surround themselves with people exactly like them, with their same politics and beliefs. It's easier to be an activist on slack, and without the awkward looks from your colleagues, you won't realize its not being well received.
At this point in my life wfh is convenient. I have dishes to do, kids to pick up, a relationship with my wife to maintain, but I still miss work from home. I'm just glad I had the chance to experience in person work when I was younger
Have you considered that it might be a self correcting problem ?
The 2 hours you save by not commuting can be used to join a local running club. Suddenly you’re meeting a lot of new people you would have never met before.
Also, in my current company (many people WFH, at least partly), actually several couples formed because people meet at the seminars, at a time there is no stress related to work, in a relaxed setting. So remote work can be suitable for this too with the right ingredients. The company was not as remote as today before covid, but has been spread across two countries (mostly) for years so this is similar in this respect since the couples are mostly people from the two countries.
I've also built friendships from by previous work, when I was at the office, so this is also true.
I'm sure with time I'll make long lasting relationships at my current company too. We are already happy to see each others when it happens.
I think the social contact aspect is only an issue if you don’t understand or avail the new opportunities you have.
We’ve been WFO for so long, some folks are struggling to adjust to this new reality. That’s understandable !
My point is you’re not stripped of every opportunity to socialise if you choose to go remote, and it’s entirely feasible to replace the loss of office based social interaction with some other social interaction.
Or the social activities they might enjoy, involve some skill prerequisite they don’t have, or time commitments they can’t keep.
Essentially, if someone was already a social person and had existing social groups for those hobbies that the office commute interfered with, then wfh was a gift.
But for those who enjoy their job, and enjoyed in-office collaboration, there is going to be a lot of effort and several prerequisites required to attempt to replace that outside the office.
I’m saying if you choose to WFH or remote you can still enjoy social activities.
The “you’ll always be worse off socially if you WFH” argument isn’t valid.
If your personal situation dictates that it’s impossible for you to social outside a work/office environment and that would hurt your quality of life, you should absolutely WFO.
Just understand that it doesn’t apply universally and WFH and having plenty of social interaction is entirely plausible and within reach for many many people.
My problem was lack of time and energy. The commute and the effort of commuting just killed any desire to seek out social activities after work. Work was not getting in the way of any specific hobby I already had.
Once that constraint was removed, I could actually start figuring out what stuff I was interested in and perusing it.
I was surprised how much stuff is out there once I started looking for things to do.
The answer probably has to be either live with that or seek out work environments more to their liking. Note that this isn't even wholly a WFH/COVID situation. For years, I've worked with a very distributed group of people. If I went into the local office pre-COVID, there would be people there but potentially I wouldn't run into anyone I knew and almost certainly no one I directly worked with.
This is separate from my belief that friendships form via shared context not shared activities: https://billmei.net/blog/friendship
I’m challenging the narrative that you are strictly socially worse off by working remote.
I think for a lot of people, that social fix is easily within reach in some other form.
No, that’s not my underlying assumption.
> I’m challenging the narrative that you are strictly socially worse off by working remote.
Your challenge to the narrative has the assumption (among others) that people have additional time outside of work to socialize. Most parents don’t have consistent free time to dedicate to a social activity.
> have time to persue
The scenario is commute takes time, you save 2 hours commuting. All other things being equal that is your time to peruse hobbies.
> have opportunities near me
Not my assumption, many people socialise over video games over the internet. There are many other internet social communities. Geographical proximity is not a strict requirement.
> As someone with kids, free time..
Not relevant - see comment above about more free time from not commuting.
My actual assumptions are you commute to work and you can’t use that time to socialise. Approximate round trip commute time is 2 hours not including prep time.
As I’ve mentioned elsewhere - If your only possible hobby is socialising at work then it sounds like WFO is for you.
That doesn’t automatically mean many other people are socially worse off from WFH. Many people have other social hobbies they can do or don’t mind picking up.
Overall the people who do these extra-curricular activities will probably continue to do so, but other people may not be any more inclined.
It sounds like this is the actual problem you need to address.
> extra-curricular activities
There is no curriculum at work. Socialising isn’t exclusive to the work place. There are ample opportunities to meet people outside of the office.
It requires a small shift in our thinking because WFO is soo ingrained in us, we get confused once it’s not mandated. That doesn’t mean social contact is not easily within reach.
Yeah, with kids now I don't make many friends and it's definitely a byproduct of my new life: for friendship to form I need a family with similar ideas regarding educating kids, similar interest in hobbies, close by and with kids of similar age.
It was hard with requirements when it was only me, now it's basically impossible
For me being able to go to the office is freedom - unless I need to have my laptop for an evening meeting, I can leave it in the office and not have to think about work problems when I'm not there. The 25 minute walk in the morning starts to get me into the office mindset, and the walk home helps me leave the work problems behind.
Economically it's also better for me to go to the office. Lunches are subsidized, so I'd be very hard pressed to eat cheaper at home without having to eat the same thing every day, and in the office I don't have to pay for my beverages. Utilities are also something that I save money on by going to the office.
I saw many colleagues start during the WFH period that are still way behind in terms of where they would have been if they had been in the office, surrounded by others who can help them easily. --No matter how much we tell them to ping us, or how much we try to be proactive and reach out to them, it's simply much harder to learn remotely.
I'm not saying that everyone needs to be in the office 5 days a week, but pretending that there are no benefits to going to the office is just as disingenuous as pretending that there are no benefits to letting people work from home.
But if you're asking your coworkers to regularly come in to work to meet your social needs? No. That's your responsibility. If you can't meet those needs at work, then you need to find other avenues outside of work to meet them, or find a different job where more of the people have the same expectations as you regarding the social nature of work.
You are also a member of society, and need to help ensure that your coworkers' needs are being met. You don't get to demand that they all sacrifice time, money, greenhouse gases, and mental energy just to help you feel like it's still 2019.
The compromise (as the poster to whom you replied mentioned) should be “as members of society, we should occasionally compromise our needs to help meet the needs of people who prefer a more social office atmosphere, perhaps once or twice a week”, should it not?
Why should one type of member of society always be inconvenienced so that the other side never is?
For another, it's one person asking many people to sacrifice their own needs to meet his.
For a third, he's presenting it as if having all his coworkers, or at least most of them, in the office is the only reasonable way to meet his social needs, when there are certainly other options.
Overall, what it sounds very much like is "Everything was going just fine for me before the pandemic, and then when other people started finding ways to meet their needs better, and the "default" changed, suddenly I was no longer automatically getting my needs met. The obvious solution to this is that we just need to go back to everyone else giving up what they've gained so I don't have to change my lifestyle in any way!"
If that's not what tallanvor means, then I apologize for misconstruing them; however, I have definitely seen many, many people who clearly feel that way advocating for full return-to-office policies specifically for their own comfort and convenience.
And if that makes me selfish, so be it.
This. Your coworkers are not your friends. If your coworkers are all that's filling your social needs that should be a red flag for you and something you should work on.
But, if it's just a case of wanting me in the office semi-regularly so you have people around, I won't be meeting those needs. (But I'm sure there are plenty of other companies where offices are more back to pre-pandemic ways. And someone who cares deeply about that should probably seek out such companies.)
Instead of slacking for 20 mins after intense work, I stand up, bring the dirty clothoes and put them in the washing machine. That simple act not only pull my mind away from thinking about work but also exercise my body. I save some time as well so it's a nice bonus on top. Now back at my computer, I can have a fresh look at what I was working on.
In office, I either surfing on my phone, watch YouTube for striking a conversation with whoever is in the canteen (this often takes a lot more time as you can't just say time's up, I need to work).
If you have no discipline and no motivation, remote work is not for you. You have to make efforts to have social interactions, get out of the house, draw a line in the sand between work and play. It's real easy once you get your ducks in a row.
WFH is a great, but like anything, if you misuse it and can't find ways to be productive and disciplined, you probably belong in an office under the supervision and comfort of someone (or something, such as cultural ethos) having that discipline for you.
Employers don't want people to have rich social lives.
My point was just that those who fill their social life outside of work don't always need everyone working from the office. And that's okay.
Bottom line is that companies save money on real estate and utilities, have happier workers, live in healthier environments due to less car pollution, can hire from a larger pool, and attract the best talent when they offer work from home.
Companies that do not take advantage of this will be at a structural disadvantage, so the almighty savings of dollars will likely make this trend unstoppable.
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If I had a family, probably would not have missed the work folks as much, but spending time talking with other programmers every day in casual conversation is a learning experience you won't get just slacking people as part of work. Junior engineers can learn by doing, but being able to have impromptu whiteboard sessions to explain things in detail helps them move forward faster. Sure you could use Zoom, but it becomes just formal meetings instead of a 5 min quick lesson.
All I learned from this post is the author is unable to reap the many benefits of WFH. And that's fine; it doesn't have to be awesome for everyone.
I've felt that at the office too. Not sure it is related to WFH for me.
WFH is a change. I'm not surprised some people wary about it. I guess it is healthy. This article, however, really goes far making WFH feel sad. My video calls feel nothing like "speaking to muted mics and webcams, wondering whether anybody is listening at all". We trust each others. Ever lived an in-person meeting where everybody is sleeping because of boredom and a big lunch just before? This kind of thing is possible both remotely and in-person.
Thanks to WFH I've been able to spend quality time with friends and family lately, not having to worry about how I should be able to reach a specific geographic place at all time, and I'm enjoying my colleagues too. Granted, it might take specific personalities, but I seem to fit personally and my colleagues too. Some people are not ready/wired for this, like in my previous company, and that's fine too.
I don't want to see my colleagues, sure I preferred in person meetings but that was only because it was a break from real work. I dislike meetings in general at all.
I want to go to work, do my job, get paid and then after that, that's my life, then I can be around the few people I have chosen to be around not forced interactions with people just because we share the same enviroment.
The author is also terribly mistaken if he doesn't think people weren't browsing the web while in an office before, procrastinating on getting their work done there as well.
We don't want to be your friends and hang out afterwards and get drinks.
I am a fantastically social person outside of work, I got to bars, go to concerts. That's where I've met my first real girlfriend, fun concert.
A fun concert that I voluntarily went to.
I absolutely hate company events, I hate this whole forced fun crap. I have other things I would rather do. If you actually would like to become my friend, we can hang out. But not at the office.
Real talk, if I found a job that would allow me to work remote from another country ( where I'm authorized to work), I would be open to working for as little as 60K a year.
That's more than enough to support me in most of the world.
But if instead you tell me I need to live in the bay, all of a sudden.
I need at least 300k total comp.
Become a contractor.
We even have a little group setup of people I used to go to lunch with. We post crap from the internet etc.
Most of my team is in other states so even if I did go back to an office my work process wouldn't change.
but I would spend a fortune more in gas and going out to eat at lunch.
I checked the news and stuff at the office and do the same at home.
The big difference is the hour a day I get back and I have a little better attitude.