I'm not sure how that's directly related, but I venture bullying among boys seems to be about the weakest / smallest / poorest/ easiest to harm and get away with it, not necessarily social skills or autistic stuff.…
> can fluently navigate social situations the vast majority of human beings can not "fluently" navigate social situations either... the very small elite percentage of those who can are the 'social butterflies' that…
"we love listening to him talk about art because he also doesn't understand tact" LOL thanks for posting this, I love-hate this part, this is the state of things ------ Galloway then wants reassurance about his first…
I only saw this two months after this thread locked... I've put my email in my profile if you still want to say hello P.s. there were no google results for your username but I kinda suspect "ihoafw" likely stands for In…
'the fittest' could destroy him but choose not to -- since fitness in a social species is, reductively, how groups of elites structure their power games over others. elites 'let you win' some games for all sorts of…
>nature‘s rules (survival of the fittest) no he isn't, he is merely exploiting the compassion of the society of the fittest that temporary allowed the less fit/ gifted /engineered to still live / work near them and…
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sorry but discussions of culture trends can't be easily parsed by people who can only think so ...literally why not just get stuck on 'what IS culture even', 'what is a trend Really??', and other forms of useless…
the people beating up anyone are the cultural underclass/proles, be it rural whites or ghetto blacks -- by definition these are not cultural elites. Physical violence (and any indicator of physical needs- shelter, food,…
this bit from a diff article made me lol-- 'When I wrote 'In Cold Blood' many were critical,' Capote said. 'I spent six years on that book wandering the plains of Kansas and nearly went mad but I saw it through. (Fellow…
I wished I'd had legit 'bad' experiences, then I'd know they were outliers and would make for a story, but really I was shocked by deep mediocrity of several therapists, diff regions, male and female, diff costs etc.…
another person who read the letters! I'm shocked at how high quality the correspondence was, makes friendships of today feel kinda cheap
Abstract Algebra: A Student-Friendly Approach by Dos Reis Paperback layout feels like a workbook, not overwhelming-- beginner friendly
------- additional ranty side notes--- in person therapy is a waste of time/money for most people unless you're so wealthy you can afford the wise old superstar in their field (most of the best have already dropped dead…
I kinda agree with everything except that affirmations DO work, they are like self hypnosis and reach the unconscious in ways that add up. Every time a horrible cringe/guilt memory comes up, instead of expletive…
yeah the old analysis thing about aggression turned outwards --> anger aggression turned inwards --> depression i wish some of these super smart people weren't so afraid of the harmless 'woo' that costs next to nothing,…
putting prose to the social dread of the past few years, where everyones been shown a liar and you're not allowed to care about it... this bit from the latest Cormac McCarthy seems fitting: "The horrors of the past lose…
ah so that's why my city is so crime free, I and all the women I know are never hypervigilant taking public transport, I'm never afraid for my elderly relatives to be bashed in the head or pushed onto the tracks by 9…
yeah, when I was trying to figure out 'What is the moment before the split second "my fingers just opened a new tab" effect, I realized so much of adhd is really consciously or subconsciously: emotional flinching…
the more 'actionable' Naval-ism that helps me is "If you can't be happy with a coffee, you won't be happy with a yacht." somehow this makes me naturally gauge if I'm enjoying the present as a question "am I enjoying…
You can reprogram all these types of things, just by re-habiting them for a week or so. I didn't want to get deep wrinkles (female vanity) or hold angry look (stress headaches/blood flow) because i think that posture…
the reason it hurts, ironically, is because you haven't grieved/let go of what you wish friends/society were like instead It's like a partial 'loss of innocence' limbo, puts you in a weird danger zone that is more…
check out this paper I found here recently https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16846100/ for self 'therapy' I highly highly recommend the book Focusing by Eugene Gendlin, it is the unlock key for all other self-help. Jump…
Well if this take away from my spins // Which'll probably take away from my ends // Then I hope this take away from my sins
I'm not sure how that's directly related, but I venture bullying among boys seems to be about the weakest / smallest / poorest/ easiest to harm and get away with it, not necessarily social skills or autistic stuff.…
> can fluently navigate social situations the vast majority of human beings can not "fluently" navigate social situations either... the very small elite percentage of those who can are the 'social butterflies' that…
"we love listening to him talk about art because he also doesn't understand tact" LOL thanks for posting this, I love-hate this part, this is the state of things ------ Galloway then wants reassurance about his first…
I only saw this two months after this thread locked... I've put my email in my profile if you still want to say hello P.s. there were no google results for your username but I kinda suspect "ihoafw" likely stands for In…
'the fittest' could destroy him but choose not to -- since fitness in a social species is, reductively, how groups of elites structure their power games over others. elites 'let you win' some games for all sorts of…
>nature‘s rules (survival of the fittest) no he isn't, he is merely exploiting the compassion of the society of the fittest that temporary allowed the less fit/ gifted /engineered to still live / work near them and…
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sorry but discussions of culture trends can't be easily parsed by people who can only think so ...literally why not just get stuck on 'what IS culture even', 'what is a trend Really??', and other forms of useless…
the people beating up anyone are the cultural underclass/proles, be it rural whites or ghetto blacks -- by definition these are not cultural elites. Physical violence (and any indicator of physical needs- shelter, food,…
this bit from a diff article made me lol-- 'When I wrote 'In Cold Blood' many were critical,' Capote said. 'I spent six years on that book wandering the plains of Kansas and nearly went mad but I saw it through. (Fellow…
I wished I'd had legit 'bad' experiences, then I'd know they were outliers and would make for a story, but really I was shocked by deep mediocrity of several therapists, diff regions, male and female, diff costs etc.…
another person who read the letters! I'm shocked at how high quality the correspondence was, makes friendships of today feel kinda cheap
Abstract Algebra: A Student-Friendly Approach by Dos Reis Paperback layout feels like a workbook, not overwhelming-- beginner friendly
------- additional ranty side notes--- in person therapy is a waste of time/money for most people unless you're so wealthy you can afford the wise old superstar in their field (most of the best have already dropped dead…
I kinda agree with everything except that affirmations DO work, they are like self hypnosis and reach the unconscious in ways that add up. Every time a horrible cringe/guilt memory comes up, instead of expletive…
yeah the old analysis thing about aggression turned outwards --> anger aggression turned inwards --> depression i wish some of these super smart people weren't so afraid of the harmless 'woo' that costs next to nothing,…
putting prose to the social dread of the past few years, where everyones been shown a liar and you're not allowed to care about it... this bit from the latest Cormac McCarthy seems fitting: "The horrors of the past lose…
ah so that's why my city is so crime free, I and all the women I know are never hypervigilant taking public transport, I'm never afraid for my elderly relatives to be bashed in the head or pushed onto the tracks by 9…
yeah, when I was trying to figure out 'What is the moment before the split second "my fingers just opened a new tab" effect, I realized so much of adhd is really consciously or subconsciously: emotional flinching…
the more 'actionable' Naval-ism that helps me is "If you can't be happy with a coffee, you won't be happy with a yacht." somehow this makes me naturally gauge if I'm enjoying the present as a question "am I enjoying…
You can reprogram all these types of things, just by re-habiting them for a week or so. I didn't want to get deep wrinkles (female vanity) or hold angry look (stress headaches/blood flow) because i think that posture…
the reason it hurts, ironically, is because you haven't grieved/let go of what you wish friends/society were like instead It's like a partial 'loss of innocence' limbo, puts you in a weird danger zone that is more…
check out this paper I found here recently https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16846100/ for self 'therapy' I highly highly recommend the book Focusing by Eugene Gendlin, it is the unlock key for all other self-help. Jump…
Well if this take away from my spins // Which'll probably take away from my ends // Then I hope this take away from my sins