Ask HN: Are you a “lifer”? If so why?

375 points by leet_thow ↗ HN
I started at a mid-cap household name company at the start of the pandemic and don't see myself leaving of my own accord until I retire for a few reasons:

1. Work is fully remote

2. We have excellent work / life balance

3. Company's stock has weathered this years storm

4. Interviewing is a horror show best avoided, besides...

5. Job market is weakening with no recovery in sight

6. I'm in my early 40s

7. Startup success (which I've had previously as an early employee) is going to be rare in the coming years

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I mean... how nearsighted is this supposed to be?

You literally cannot see the job market improving (or the startup environment for that matter) at any point in your remaining 25 years of employment?

Sure, if nothing changes you're in great shape, but change is inevitable, and the likelihood everything you've mentioned stays the same is effectively zero.

No. Because I like money.
It's not that I just like money as well, it's that there is usually something I find irredeemable about the tech stack, product, or coworkers that causes me to subconsciously launch myself out of the job. Even when I consciously value potential stability that a lifelong gig would offer.
Yep. I remember starting a job and immediately looking for something else because the tech stack was basically a 10 year old dumpster fire. When I say old, this was basically like using Python 2.x or Java 6 in 2022. I'd log on to production servers and they'd have 1000+ day uptime because literally nothing had been upgraded. (And no, they definitely weren't doing any sort of live patching.) The dev environment was so fragile, you couldn't even run it on a machine with a modern OS. They had to buy used Macs off of Ebay.
I don't see a point of being loyal in an environment where the loyalty is rarely rewarded in kind.
Lifer until the benefits that matter to me disappear.

I can't stress how much #6 impacts what makes someone a 'lifer'. By the time you are in 35+ and you've been in tech your entire career, you lean a few important life lessons that you witness the less experienced (both career and life) do all the time.

The bar of compensation is almost always goes up as you progress early in your career. You get used to your standard of living. Next thing you know, you want more money. Getting a promotion or new job that bumps your income, that standard of living naturally goes up. It's hard NOT to go on fancier vacations, upgrade your Honda to a Porsche, hire landscaper/housekeeper/dog walker, buy a bigger house, etc. Eventually, you run into a situation that throws a wrench in disposable income and you have to lower that bar. Then you realize money isn't the most important thing in your career. You learn that the difference between a total comp of $150k to $250k isn't as life changing compared to going from $75k to $150k, so what is the purpose of fighting for more?

When you are 35+, job stability is super important. You might have a family, a hefty savings/retirement account, etc. Whats most important is that work/life balance and not that RSU grant next quarter. Once you find a company that makes you comfortable, and you reach a level of seniority that isn't overwhelming/stressful, stay.

Being slightly past the 35+ threshold I'm feeling the pull of this perspective, but also very irked at the thought that my company might know this and decide to let my comp fall behind the market.

From what I hear of the corporate world, companies are always waiting to do this to everyone. The moment they're confident you're a lifer, you'll never see another market-matching raise or bonus. Maybe never see a raise again.

Any older workers have thoughts on how to manage this? I suspect there may be nothing for it but being prepared to leave if I feel my comp is falling too far behind.

(Or maybe I should just give in, call the $$$ good enough, semi-retire and chill... there's more to life, I hear...)

i think grandparent meant that even if your company decides to 'capitalize' (pun intended) on your lifer attitude, you're ok with it, because you've chosen to ignore money in favor of stability. only works if you already have a couple of millions from your younger years imo
If you’ve already got a couple of million then you’d be on about $80k - $180k a year before you get out of bed anyway, so I doubt job stability matters much to you at that point anyway.
I guess I can answer this, I've got 21 years in at one of the OGs of SV. When I came on board all the old timers told me to get everything I wanted up front so I beat them up pretty hard (they really wanted to hire me). I did fine but that was pretty much it aside from 1-3% raises every year and often no raises at all. Since we are a very flat company there's not a lot of room for a promotion -lots of chances to do other things but not a change in pay bands unless you go from tech to sales. It took six years from the time I started actively pursuing a promotion until I finally got one -this included two job changes and 8 managers. The promotion was a bigger deal than I thought because not only did I finally get a decent raise but it moved me into a managers level for bonuses and stock options and that equates to a 20-30% increase. Even if I didn't get promoted the money was fine, I have 6 weeks defined of vacation, good benefits and I've worked from home since 2003 -a lot of which I'd lose if I went to another company. Several years back I tried to assign a monetary number to what it would take to leave and it was between 25-30K which I might be able to get but you just don't know what kind of rats nest I'd be walking into, at least here I know what I'm dealing with.

I was like most people in IT when I started here, I had done a lot of job hopping, made good money and was a temporary millionaire at some bullshit startup. What I didn't expect was to stick around. When I started half the team had been at the company for over 20 years and I thought that they had to be nuts -a few people never worked for any other company 45+ years of service. Then one day I realized I had been here for a decade and then 20 years and now I have 9 years left before I'm sitting on a beach drinking Imperial and being bitten by mosquitos so I figure if I can do it here I might as well.

It seems like if it’d only take 30k for you to leave then you’re underpaid for your experience or you don’t actually have it that good. I say this because when I have it good it’d take a ~30% raise to get me to leave.
> but you just don't know what kind of rats nest I'd be walking into, at least here I know what I'm dealing with

Very well put. With work, it's often better the devil you know

35+ ain't that far. For all. Damn. Is that fewer than 2-3 chances for huge economic outcomes?
> go on fancier vacations, upgrade your Honda to a Porsche, hire landscaper/housekeeper/dog walker, buy a bigger house, etc.

I work at a FAANG and I will never afford a home. Who is this list for? My senior engineer coworkers live in condos unless they move 2 hours away or have a very high earning spouse

People who work for good companies in lower cost of living environments? I live in Palo Alto and appreciate I’ll never buy here but my colleagues on similar salaries have huge houses with boats and nice cars in other parts of the US. This is the $150/200 mark btw, not FAANG.
“But I can’t live in the midwest” -Them, probably
People can't complain about high salaries not working for you in high COL places. In Atherton a 0.8 acre lot (no house) is on the market for $5.2m lol. If you stop looking for the prestige and high numbers of FAANG you can have a far better salary:COL and get that nice house/cool car.
> This is the $150/200 mark btw, not FAANG.

This is still wild to me.

I’m well into my career (coming close to 25 years):

— I do well when looking for work in that I interview well and get most gigs I go for.

- I trade stability for higher rates working shorter gigs without any of the usual safety net / benefits.

- Comp is top end of the range offered in a relatively well off part of the world.

And yet with all that said, $200k is still an utter pipe dream.

I’m not saying I’m necessarily jealous (I’m sure there’s the downsides I don’t see) but man-oh-man that’s a lot of money.

I’m almost reluctant to ask but what is FAANG comp typically?

The thing to note is that the base salary isn’t often too far off from non-FAANG jobs, but the stock grant which usually “vests” over 4 years is what makes the compensation so much higher.

The amount of stock is locked in based on how many shares the dollar amount you’re offered would buy when you start, so if the share price goes up over time then that’s going to be worth more when it vests (which I guess mostly happened in the last decade), but if it drops from when you started it’s worth less (as happened in the last year, so if you started this time last year and the company stock is down 50%, that compensation is worth a lot less now).

I definitely think it’s good to be aware of what compensation at these places looks like, I wasn’t really aware of how significant the stock thing is until recently (but I had a fun career up to now so not to worry!). I guess one of the downsides is that these are often huge companies there’s a reasonable chance you’ll end up maintaining some boring internal system or whatever, so it depends what motivates you.

Honestly, as I'm non-US, I think I'm ruled out of those compensation packages (I don't think many offer remote work).

It's disappointing, but it's the reality for a lot of people I'm sure.

Check out angel.co and look for remote startup roles - I've worked with two US startups from the UK prior to moving out here. Some are happy with extra experience & lower end of salary while you'll still have a good multiple.

The alternative to that is contracting - London is a great place to look for that.

Not sure where you’re based but some of the mid-sized companies definitely do hire outside of the US and offer equity (typically places where they have a company presence so they can employ you, and I guess they’ll probably try to have people in sensible time zones) and are remote-first. For example, I’m based in London and my last job was with MongoDB and that was fully remote in EMEA.
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After the tax bracket bump its not entirely as amazing as it sounds... there are still a few places in SV and NY that hand out remote salaries on the high end, if you keep looking.

There are also roles where you just get paid way more than other roles without a need for particularly difficult expertise. People who manage very 'important' stuff for example.

Startups are paying above FAANG for many senior positions. Total comp can be 250-850K, lots in the 400-550k range.

The going contract dev rate is 150/hr (Java/Python).

> Startups are paying above FAANG for many senior positions.

Citation needed.

Which country are you based in? I can offer advice for Europe and the US :)
Europe currently, interested in remote for anywhere.

Would be really curious to hear what’s out there.

Check out contract roles that are EU-friendly in London & angel.co for remote jobs in the bay area that are happy with global hires. I had a contract with a company in SF while living in Oxford for ~160k and know London pays 700+ per day for mid-senior developers. There are contract-specific jobsites out there but I can't google them right now because I'm on a company VPN.
Thanks for this!

Could I reach out to you separately so as not to run out of thread depth on here?

(The big question I have on this is if you have a link discussing implications for tax etc. on taking a role from the USA while based in the UK - which is an easier option for me at this time).

How is the traffic and commute time in such cities? I ask as an European who can't fanthom an idea of a large city where most people live in detached houses (and not in apartments or even townhouses) - the city must take up enormous space. Do people commute 30 miles each way to work?
Which cities? Silicon Valley? Or people remote working in the Midwest?

If you are making Faang money you can choose a shorter commute. 30 miles is 1-2 hours in silicon valley. My limit is 10 miles/40 mins

American cities in general. If in an average US city, most people live in a detached house, aren't they just a endless sprawl with nightmarish commute times?
Yes. American cities are endless sprawl. Yes. American cities have nightmarish commute times. During morning and evening rush, it can take 3 hours to cross the city I live in. The city I grew up in was better, but the same task could still take 30 minutes there, and it was a much smaller city.
According to ACS 2010-14 data, the average commuter in the Chicago metropolitan region has a one-way commute of 30 minutes. This figure is slightly above the national average of 26 minutes, but on par with many other large U.S. regions

FWIW a random survey on the internet lists Austin TX, Miami FL, and San Diego CA as the 'most stressful commutes'

99.99% of the world's population don't live in San Francisco, so it's probably geared towards them
Maths: It almost seems like it should be a higher percentage, but 900k/8Billion gives 99.9875% exactly.
I don’t think 99.9% of people have the choice between a Honda or a Porsche (… or either of the two), so this list is probably aimed at a much more narrow group.
I reckon we could just about run to a Honda if we tried, but the Citroen works fine. So not really feeling the need for it ;)
> 99.99% of the world's population don't live in San Francisco, so it's probably geared towards them

Is the situation any better in other big IT-cities in the States (Seattle, NYC) or in Europe (London, Amsterdam, Zurich, Munich)? Some of these are slightly better than SF and some are even worse IMO.

It’s not as dire in NYC unless you’re exclusively considering Manhattan. And even in Manhattan it’s relatively “affordable” if you’re willing to live in the 160s+. Significantly less than people think, at least.
OP wrote about owning a "home" as opposed to his coworkers who live in "condos" which makes me think he meant single-family house. Are you saying that SFH in Manhattan is relatively affordable for average FAANG developer?
I mean, SHFs barely exist in Manhattan so it's kind of a moot comparison. But the thrust of GP is correct - you can buy a townhome in much of Brooklyn and Queens for less than $1m.
Well, it is like saying that in order to live in SF you can just buy a house in Oakland for less than $1m.
I suppose, although perhaps this analogy would be more apt if there were few to no single family homes in SF (as is the case with Manhattan).
The geography of the Bay Area makes it harder to escape high housing prices while retaining somewhat reasonable access to pretty much the whole stretch between SF and San Jose. By contrast, go out to the suburbs and exurbs of Boston and--while some are pretty pricey--there are pretty reasonable options on commuter rail and an hour drive from the city. (And many jobs in tech and other fields aren't in the city anyway.)

Yes, housing in the core downtowns is pricey, but get outside the city and there are decent options. This is true of a lot of places. The Bay Area makes it unusually hard to escape high pricing.

Sounds like FAANG is a trash deal then, tbh.

You could afford a home in most other US cities even with a pay cut from the typical FAANG salary.

For real. My 24 year old cousin just bought his first home and he works a low paid blue collar job. The trick is to be in an affordable location.
Exactly! People read "affordable location" and think it means somewhere boring and depressing, like Youngstown or Peoria. There are numerous, wonderful US cities where you can buy a respectable place for under $200,000 - they're just not on the coasts or in the sun belt. Move to West Rogers Park in Chicago and walk to the best Indian food you've ever had, or Brewer's Hill in Milwaukee and walk to a vegan brewery where all beers are $5. If you like the small-town feel, try Holland, MI or Stevens Point, WI. If the winters get you down, you can fly to Maui in January from O'Hare for $400 round-trip, or you could just wait 20 years for CO2 to do its thing.
IMO this only changed in the US over the last 5-6 years and accelerated because of COVID and remote tech work. The stigma persists from before when the US had only a handful of fun, young, urban areas to live in. When I entered the workforce there were only a few choices. Now I could see myself living in a whole bunch of places were I starting out my career.
Fun fact: where I live, many so-called blue collar jobs such as plumbing earn a higher wage than software engineering, due to extreme shortages.
Hence why I said low paid, because he's definitely not in one of those jobs.
Or just rent for a couple years and save up enough to buy a house elsewhere in cash.
I bought my condo when I was making less money than FAANG interns do. As long as you avoid the Bay Area it doesn't really take "Senior SWE" money (even in places that are high COL relative to the non-Silicon Valley parts of the country)
*in the middle of SF/NYC/etc. Anywhere else, a FAANG salary will get you home ownership in 1-2 years.
Can you explain your expectations around home ownership? I am rarely this flummoxed at a comment..
They mean they will never own a home in two of the wealthiest cities in the USA - San Francisco or New York. There’s a few other really expensive cities as well. It’s really easy for most properties to list for 1 MM min, even a 3 bed 1 bath house on a quarter acre lot.

The solution is easy, don’t live in an expensive city. Or inherit property from relatives who lived there 50 years ago. Or have a rich spouse.

The most common way I've seen it done in New York suburbs is to buy a multi-family home and split it between family. Houses with three generations of family living in them are quite common.
This sounds like a you problem. Remote tech roles are falling off trees. Wherever you are that FAANG money can’t buy you a house, you definitely don’t need to be there. You are choosing to be in some incredibly unaffordable area. Lucky, if you are in a place like San Francisco, I expect with the exodus of on-site jobs and people, that the housing will be rapidly getting more affordable.
Why do you live there then? So many great cities you can live in where you can actually afford a house.
Why do you think that? I know many people working at a FAANG both in SF and LA, and most of them own some sort of home. (Some are condos or townhomes because that’s the lifestyle they prefer - but many are single family homes.) They’re in decent places, too, not 100 miles away or “the bad part of town”. It took a few years of savings, and some of them are dual income, which helps, but between stock that’s been on a rocket ship for the last 20 years and a decently high salary, they do just fine. If you’re not vested yet, you might not have hit the point where things start to take off. It can be pretty dramatic what those RSUs add up to if you aren’t constantly watching their value.
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lol, I bought the current house we're living in for under $100k cash, maybe move somewhere reasonable instead of insisting on living in the most expensive place possible?
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I'm confused by this, you can totally find single family homes in SF for 1.5-2M, which while pricey should be affordable after a few years on a FAANG salary if you aren't already spending a lot on kids. They're just in Sunset or Diamond Heights or Portola or Glen Park, not Noe or Mission.

And even in those areas, you can find two-unit condos in that range.

A cautionary tale for you:

I was in a similar situation a few years ago, working at FAANG and living in SCV. Wanted a house more than anything.

Eventually, got relocated to a lower COL area and finally accomplished my dream of owning a home.

Inspector didn’t catch a few things, also bought at the peak of housing mania and now we are both underwater and have sunk a large chunk of our savings into making the house safe and livable for our kids.

If we would have stayed in SCV and rented we’d be in a better financial position. However, overall we are happy with our choices given we don’t have to stress about things like keeping a 3yo quiet for the neighbors who live below us.

Not saying a house won’t make you happy, just saying houses are not a complete measure of financial success.

SCV = Stato della Città del Vaticano? Yeah, the housing market in Vatican City isn't great unless you're military or the Pope.
I think OP means Silicon Valley?
Thank you, of course I answered Vatican as a joke but I genuinely didn't know SCV stood for Silicon Valley, even if it should have been obvious, if I had thought about it some more.
Neither did I... I took a guess.

I generally see it abbreviated as SV.

> I can't stress how much #6 impacts what makes someone a 'lifer'.

I agree. I also think there's less naivete when you have heard for the fifth time how revolutionary this new tech or business will be.

I don't know about you, but the first few times I heard that, I believed the speaker.

But eventually I figured out that while there are exciting new revolutions (the first time I saw a lyft it was magical), there are far more interesting or boring ideas that don't require extraordinary effort, just regular, sustained focus.

Must be nice. Low lifelong salary makes me unable to relate at all.
If you are a rockstar developer with a shitty salary, find an impresario.
> When you are 35+, job stability is super important. You might have a family, a hefty savings/retirement account, etc. Whats most important is that work/life balance and not that RSU grant next quarter

My work life balance is much better now working at $BigTech than it was being the de facto dev lead at a company that was on an acquisition spree where I was responsible for leading integration efforts or at a 60 person startup where I was responsible for making them “cloud native” and introducing AWS to the company as they were pivoting to selling access to micro services to large health care companies especially right after Covid hit.

WLB being worse as pay increases is more of a myth than anything else. I haven’t gotten paid more Obed the years because I was expected to work harder.

I got paid more because of the value I bought to the company.

I felt a lot more “stable” after 35 no matter where I worked because I knew I had the skillset and the network to throw my resume up in the air and get another job quickly when things went sideways and I did change jobs six times over those years.

Before 35, I had been at a job for nine years and let my skills atrophy.

I also had a decent “oh shit”/“go to hell fund”

> Then you realize money isn't the most important thing in your career. You learn that the difference between a total comp of $150k to $250k

This is definitely not true. I bumped around as your standard corporate dev until I was 46.

I stayed at my second job for a decade until 2008 and became your stereotypical expert beginner. I job hopped 5 times by 2020 and I was making $150K and seeing offers locally for about $165k - $170K based on my experience with leading projects, “cloud”, and just regular old C# development.

But I liked my job and my wife and I had “enough” with her working part time making $25K in the school system.

Then I fell into a remote job at $BigTech in the cloud consulting department making in the $200s in mid 2020. The difference is night and day. There are a lot more ands than an ors.

I can now “retire my wife” at 46, rent my house to my son and a couple of his friends who we have known for years at below market cost to help them get started while we travel the country staying in mid range extended stay hotels, flying everywhere, afford a winter home/investment property (more of a lifestyle choice than an investment), max out my 401K (including catch up contributions in a year and a half when I turn 50), max out my “after tax 401k at 10% of my base salary, and still have a decent amount of fun money.

Even if I were living a normal life, it would have meant the difference between having to choose whether we wanted to refinance to a 15 year mortgage (we did in 2021), go on multiple vacations, cash flow our son’s (my step son since he was 10) college education, or maximize retirement savings. We could have done all of those things and not choose.

> job stability is super important. You might have a family, a hefty savings/retirement account, etc.

These two sentances seem contradictory. If you have a large savings / retirement, don't you have a LARGER parachute / less stress looking for a job? I mean unless yeah you've gone so far on the hedonistic treadmill that you can barely afford your month to month bills.

I don't know, I've never been out of a job for more than like 2 months of actively looking, I think software developers are way to paranoid about job hunting.

“I've never been out of a job for more than like 2 months of actively looking”

Are you in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, or 60s?

This is basically my exact philosophy. You stated it better I could ever do, thanks!
sorry but 150k to 250k is definitely a big change. Allows to retire much earlier, buy a bigger house, etc. Went from 200 to 350 and it was incredible the difference it makes.

My wife doesn't have a good job, and I don't have rich parents, have to travel a couple of times per year to see them, pay for them to see me, etc.

I am not a lifer, but I know many people who are lifers. I switched job too many times, my stress is more than my lifer friends. Being a lifer is not too bad, if you want peace and stability.
> Job market is weakening with no recovery in sight

What are you talking about? Unemployment is at historic lows, the job market hasn't been this good in a long time. Sure, some ad-revenue based companies are laying off some workers, but the market is great.

Don't forget about all the two-year-old companies that never had a realistic business model to begin with. If they can't survive, who can? /s
Not sure what you are implying. If your hypothesis was true, wouldn't unemployment numbers rise? When did HN become the place where contradicting anecdotal evidence with data gets me downvoted?
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Unemployment is measured basically only by # of people receiving unemployment benefits. It grossly undercounts. A less quantitative number but way more useful is "underemployment". I don't know what that # is, but looking at low unemployment numbers alone can be misleading.

https://www.bls.gov/lau/stalt.htm

> Unemployment is measured basically only by # of people receiving unemployment benefits.

Untrue; the headline unemployment figure is those in the labor force, not employed, and actively seeking work (they may be recieiving benefits, have exhausted benefits, or have not qualified for benefits because of the nature of their prior employment or their departure from it, or because they were never previously employed.)

Correct. I said "basically" and linked to the primary source for the detailed definition. It's not possible to know what a person is doing if they are not part of a program that follows them. For example, I have been unemployed many times for months and there is no way to track me because I was not on unemployment or using any program in my job search. Therefore, acc to Dept of Labor stats, I was not "unemployed". "Unemployment" is not the full picture.
> It's not possible to know what a person is doing if they are not part of a program that follows them. For example, I have been unemployed many times for months and there is no way to track me because I was not on unemployment or using any program in my job search. Therefore, acc to Dept of Labor stats, I was not "unemployed".

The headline unemployment figure (and the alternative measures) come by way of the monthly Current Population Survey [0], not data fron unemployment benefit programs. The idea that the unemployment rate is, either definitionally or methodologically, restricted to only include benefit recipients is simply false. It's a popular lie by political propagandists who know the truth and want to push the myth of systematic distortion, and I guess your argument is a natural way for someone who has internalized that propaganda, doesn’t know the methodology, but has seen thr definition to try to rationalize what they have internalized, but its just not true.

[0] https://www.bls.gov/cps/

K. I linked to the literal definition. There is no way to know that I was or was not working period. Getting snarky on HN? Good on ya.
I think it varies and it depends on how you look at it and your current position. Remember 2008 and the recession? A lot of people barely noticed it, yet it was absolutely detrimental to others.
I've been around for a while. Some companies can be great places to work... until they're not.

So, no, I wouldn't be a lifer in my early 40s. I'd be a "ride it out as long as it stays good", though. (Again, I've been around a while. If you have interesting work, good people, reasonable management, and good pay, think hard before you go somewhere else. That's not always easy to get.)

Yes I am a lifer.

I prioritize personal investment and social engagement over raw salary income. I could find a better paying job tomorrow, within my current company. I like being up to my elbows in the business problem, and the best way to get a seat at the table is to have been around long enough to earn it.

My spouse and I both work at the same company, which greatly increases the sticky-ness of it for me. I can book family meetings with them from within my work calendar. That's worth a lot.

I've spend 15 years ingratiating myself across multiple teams, and multiple larger organizational slices. I have a lot of contacts to fall back on. If I needed a new job tomorrow, I could find one within the company, without having to go outside.

A lot of your items are "of the moment" and could change tomorrow. I wouldn't bank on them remaining stable.

I'm a lifer my self (21 years so for). The thing is I'm not even close to senior, we have lots of guys with 30+ years sitting at the head of the table. The biggest problem I see is with the older lifers not wanting to leave, not carrying their weight, not keeping up with changes and doing the bare minimum required of them. They are a wealth of knowledge, knowledge about things we haven't seen in a decade or more. I understand why they stay, they are paid very well and not much is expected of them but they are also 70+ years old with full pensions & 401Ks doing the job that a college grad could do. To me it's not fair to the young guys who we should be training and mentoring, instead a guy in his late 40's is the youngest guy on the team....sorry for my rambling but the point I'm trying to get to is longevity shouldn't be the reason you are at the table, it should be about what you bring to the table. That said like you having a wealth of contacts is invaluable -who needs to open a ticket when you can call the developer who you've known for a decade or more and who's happy to take your call.
Sounds like an easy solution. If they do the bare minimum, that’s not a problem.

If you want to get rid of them or take advantage of their expertise, raise the bar. Require more work in some way so that the jobs they do 6 months from now isn’t something that could be done by a new grad.

If they follow you, great. Everyone wins. If they do not, here’s options to exit, take a pick, have a good life.

What kind of place has 70 year old technologists sitting around doing nothing?
IBM? Oracle? SAP?

BTW did you know the above are the number 2, 3 & 4 largest software companies in the world respectively[0]? Also I suspect "doing nothing" is a bit of an exaggeration and/or OP isn't 100% privy to what these people actually do. It's probably a relaxed pace but not literally "nothing" & their experience and knowledge still make that valuable for the company.

[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_the_largest_software_c...

Universities.

Politics, knowing where bodies are buried and entrenched bureaucracy can be just as much "tenure" but for staff.

It can be pretty bad, and often is.

If it's all about "what you bring to the table", older folk will always be at a disadvantage due to their obligations to things that isn't just the company (and disabilities as well). This is the bordering on ageism, brought on by meritocracy thinking that everyone starts from the same spot.
>older folk will always be at a disadvantage due to their obligations to things that isn't just the company

You're talking about kids? I would think kids require less work over time. I would think a 30-year-old employee with a 1-year-old kid would have more home obligations than a 55-year-old employee with a 26-year-old kid.

As someone whose age starts with a 5, I don’t think it’s at all ageist to judge people on what they bring to the table at work. In fact, it would seem “reverse ageist” to have lower expectations for someone who was older.

If you can (and will) do the job, you should be welcomed, respected, and rewarded without regard to age, race, gender, degree, veteran status, parenthood, height, weight, or any of 100 other irrelevant characteristics.

Even if you're in your 50s, you have to acknowledge that eventually you're going to tire out just by how our biological mechanisms wear out. Hopefully, you have a nest egg of sorts by then. And if you don't, well you can't do the job and according to your standards, be kicked/compensated less.

> If you can (and will) do the job, you should be welcomed, respected, and rewarded without regard to age, race, gender, degree, veteran status, parenthood, height, weight, or any of 100 other irrelevant characteristics.

I used to think in this way, that everything should be pure merit. Unfortunately reality doesn't work that way, inputs and rewards are hard to quantify, and the pareto principle exists. Eg. Your work powering millions, yet you're only paid a month's salary and have to meet next month's expense. Furthermore, if things are left to pure meritocracy you'd have more and more in-groups and imbalance. So in some sense you'll be doing society a favor by uplifting others that are not part of the in-group of meritocracy purists.

Let’s imagine it’s performance review time at our company and everyone agrees (or perhaps an infallible oracle tells us) that @like-oreally is contributing meaningfully more than @sokoloff to the company success.

But the wrinkle is @sokoloff is mid/late-50s and @like-oreally is mid/late-30s. Who should earn more pay? Who should be promoted to lead the next major initiative to drive the company forward?

Deciding to pay me the same or more for less value certainly makes things better and more convenient/comfortable for me. It does exactly the opposite for @like-oreally. Should they continue to over-contribute relative to their compensation in hopes that they’ll one day be in a position to receive more for contributing less? Does that provide the right incentives?

Does promoting me to lead that major new initiative put the company in the best position to succeed in the market and, via that success, continue to provide income for all employees?

It all depends. Has @sokoloff contributed the same in the past? What is the value that age/experience has brought him in the things he does do and does not do? Performance reviews will always omit some aspect of the value the reviewed person brings.

> Deciding to pay me the same or more for less value certainly makes things better and more convenient/comfortable for me.

Of course it's going to feel better just looking at the numbers. But then we get back to the same old problem - how do you define value and contributions and say A goes over B?

Sure, I'll admit that it doesn't create the best incentives for people who want to optimize their paycheck and standing, ie. ambitious people. However, this is fine in some circumstances when you're aiming to create a self-sustaining team.

> Does promoting me to lead that major new initiative put the company in the best position to succeed in the market and, via that success, continue to provide income for all employees?

'Best' is an ill defined, extremist term. For many tasks at hand, there are checkboxes that they have to tick, and for all you know, they might need not to be the best, but just at sufficient level to check those boxes. And that is enough.

Take an example where a dungeon boss needs a certain amount of damage dealt to it within a certain period of time to beat him. There are many class specialties, some doing more damage than others, but these are rare, and all of them meet the requirements. Are you going to spend extra time trying to grab that rare class specialty or take one of the abundant ones? Of course not.

Curious what kinds of things you're booking on your work calendar? I can see blocking off time but I'm not entirely sure I would be comfortable putting any details for family meetings on my work calendar…
I've been where I am for almost 6 years, which is pretty incredible for me at 31. But am I a lifer? I can never say for sure, but I highly doubt it. It's so circumstantial. I am not worried about getting laid off, but I question what my salary ceiling is (pure salary, I get no other comp), especially next year when inflationary raises need to be more like 10%+ rather than the standard 3%. I really love my job and the work in it, and leaving will be hard, but it's given the pay situation, it seems unlikely to be more than another couple of years.
I'm 42, so apparently about the same as you, and figure that means at least another 20 years before I'm retiring. I don't know how you can possibly expect me to project what I'm going to be doing and who I'll be working for over that entire 20 years. I'm not actively looking nor answering recruiting e-mails right now, but that is a pretty long time. The only thing I know for certain is that if you'd asked me what I'd be doing in 20 years back in 2002, I would not have been correct. The specific industry segment my current company is in didn't even exist yet in 2002.
Retirement age in most of Europe has been bumped to 67 and we're at the very start of the demographic transition, which leaves governments with 2 options:

Provide the same services with about 60% less revenue, and NOT by inflating the difference away. Oh and without hiring essentially anyone.

Keep raising the retirement age so someone born after ~1980 essentially never retires. And ... I guess pray that medicine actually makes this possible.

Both have obvious problems. It seems to me a near-certainty that all governments will not know how to run fast enough to option b. Now there may be "robots" or whatever as a plan, long term, but while I don't work in robotics, I do have a master in it. We're 50 years away from viable robotic care for humans. We're currently not capable to build a robot that's physically capable of doing it without weighing 800+ kg, which makes it a non-starter (and this is the only part of the problem I expect someone like Elon Musk might be able to fix in, say, 10 years)

Of course, governments being what they are they are, are working on it. By:

1) making immigration much harder (and world demographics will start making it harder very soon now, and those won't stop)

2) dropping investment in robotics and medical research

3) making it harder every year to become medical care professionals

TLDR: you definitely won't retire in 20 years. Unless we can create a company and make, at the barest minimum, ~5 million there won't be retirement for any of us.

Most software devs won't make it to 67 unfortunately. Without a major (really major) cultural shift in the job market mid 50s seems to be about it for most software devs - by then ageism and burnout (which happens among others because of ageism) show most tech workers the door. When companies talk about diversity they don't mean age diversity...there's no virtue signaling in hiring a mid 50s white man.

This maybe less of an issue in Europe but its still an issue there for sure, this is a young industry that likes young people, tolerates middle aged (40-50) and hates anything above that.

To be honest I barely tolerate young people! I am in my late 30s and every time I interview someone in their mid 20 I wonder what happened to the education system… give me a 40yo or 50yo instead of 10 20yo any time!
I do think some companies are starting to see this. I interviewed with two young (<25) people yesterday and she said they're /too young/ and all the "experienced" people have left so they're now slow and have issues with tech design and debt so they're trying to backfill experienced people now. It was pretty clear what she meant and why I was being interviewed.
I see this as well which is wonderful for us late 30, mid 40 people. But I don't think they mean 60 when they say experienced. This isn't unique to tech btw ...ageism is all over the place.
Things will change.

For the past 20 years there's been a massive influx of people into IT.

Which means that we're starting to reach a point where there are ALREADY a lot of people in IT.

Those people will start becoming older and older.

It's a slow phenomenon, but I expect that by 2040 or so the average age of the IT worker to have gone up by at least 10, but more likely by 15 years.

So no more this "28 year olds are the majority", but more "40 year olds are the majority".

I hope you're right. You would expect that societies that age so rapidly would take ageism more seriously. It's probably the worst discrimination of them all by magnitude yet no one talks about it much or does anything.
As you get old, time becomes a lot more valuable as it’s the only thing that you spend every day and can never make more of. Money is cheap and doesn’t really do all that much, beyond a point. The drama of switching jobs becomes less and less worth it.
I was expecting the opposite conclusion in your final sentence. That staying in a stable, comfortable but dull job becomes less and less worth it. The interpretation relies on the reader’s experience I guess.
self-employed, lifer. I d be wary of investing too much into a company i don't control, especially post-40 when i d be less competitive.life's way too short
You're only ever one promotion or departure (not yours) away from a management shuffle which can make your job shit. That stable software delivering value, day in day out? Legacy trash that needs to be rebuilt as a matter of urgency. Actually, no - outsource it. Software isn't our core business, after all. Personally I have no confidence that I will be able to avoid this scenario (again), or suffer it in silence, so I cannot see myself being a lifer for this reason alone. But the idea alone of working for one company forever doesn't concern me in the sense that I'd have only 1 item on my resume for several decades of work, nor would I look negatively at someone with that resume. I just have a low tolerance for corporate bullshit and at this stage in my career I think it's easier to jump ship than to try and fight the winds of change emanating from some Cx0's arse.
I swear, nearly every job that I've had -- and every job that I actually enjoyed -- has experienced one-or-more management shuffles and/or ownership changes, and every time I feel like the victim of a bait-and-switch.
I've been at my company for over 10 years, since I was straight out of college. I plan to stay until I can "retire" at 50. Then I'll get some other job.

I hate my job, but there aren't many good options for me in my situation. If somthing better does come along, id consider it. That's 10 years down, what's another 20ish years?

You plan to spend the best years of your life in a job you hate?

If you can afford it and growth prospects within the system aren't looking so great, it could be time to take a risk on growing yourself independently for a couple years.

"You plan to spend the best years of your life in a job you hate?"

Seems like most people do. So yeah.

I don't see growth potential anywhere. I'm constrained to my current area, can't put in many extra hours, and other family restraints. This is the best option I've seen.

The org I work at has existed for over a hundred years. It's probably not going away for the foreseeable future. The work, my coworkers, the perks and work environment (low stress) are all great. The only thing that's not at a high-level is the compensation.

Sometimes I think about getting a new job for a pay bump, but I'm not sure I could compete at a "real" tech company anyway, I'm just a regular/average dev and I almost left the field entirely after I burned out from my previous job.

So, that said, I might end up a lifer (already in my 40s). I love my job but I know the circumstances can change at any point if I get a new boss or the work climate changes.

I don't think I'd want to stay until retirement at a regular ol' company or corporation where I'm making someone else rich.

Just my 2c.

I'm a bit older and I would never describe myself as a lifer. Capitalism is brutal and corporations are not capable of loyalty, so it's not a psychological position I want to be in. That said, I also don't put a time limit on tenure—if the people and work are good, I'll stick around. The key is to keep learning and growing though, that way I don't get bored, and I won't get caught flat-footed when it's time to leave (whether voluntary or not).
I wasn't, until I read your points, then thought, well, maybe.
I guess so?

I am at the top of my game and the company recognized it. It will be very hard to find another company like where I am right now. Currently the manager I have is one of the best and the coworkers are also one of the best.

I have zero incentive to move somewhere else.

Nah. Life in corporate America is too volatile. People (especially managers and skip managers!) change, projects change, RSU tank, circumstances change, …

I’ve been in too many situations where my role was changed overnight because of the above.

Currently at the most sought-after (by many) FAANG but I’m always fully prepared to leave/be laid off and don’t let my mind think it could be long term.

What is long term is instead a dense network of professional relationships with ex-bosses and coworkers to whom I would fully entrust my life and certainly my career, and I typically jump ship by moving closer to them every few years. Corporations are just a soulless random entity.

I cant ever imagine staying at a company for more than 5 years tops unless at VP / executive level, I felt the same as you for a company I worked with for several years and then everything changed, the culture, the vision, the market - you literally cannot predict how things will be in a few years time in such a dynamic market.
Lifer here with a short gap. I make less, but in my mid 50s can get an early retirement plus fully paid healthcare until Medicare. I’ll probably work a few years as a consultant or in sales to get my kids through college with little or no debt.

I didn’t have the education get get into a FAANG in the early years and don’t have the risk tolerance for a startup.

I’ve been at my current job almost 19 years. I’ve been in many roles on many teams over that time, so even though I’ve been here a while I moved around enough to keep it feeling fresh.

I turn 51 in a few weeks, and as much as I would love to stick around we recently went through a merger and the company that bought us tends to do more outsourcing of their tech to vendors than internal development, so no telling if changes will make me end up looking elsewhere.

I work from home, have maxed out my 401k all this time so I have a few million there, I’m an architect on a data science team so it’s interesting work. I’d gladly stay here another decade if I could.

I was a lifer. But now I can see the tunnel darkens at the end of the journey. You are just one stone throw away from misery.

Don’t count on anything in this world staying the same. The good times last only so long.